My old lover is now married and has a child, but now he wants to meet and talk to me. What should I do?

I don’t think you should contact him now.

1. You said, "He seemed a little reluctant to let go, but he rejected me." Since he was reluctant to let go, why did he refuse? It proves that he loves you far less than you love him. .

2. "Now he has found me online. He said online that he misses me so much and wants to explain something to me." Since he refused to contact you at that time, several years have passed. , why is he taking the initiative to contact you now? Maybe we can still be friends after breaking up, but his refusal to contact you means that he refuses to be friends with you. Then what qualifications does he have to say "I miss you so much" and Where's your phone number?

3. He is already a married man, and if he has a child, he should be responsible for his children and his wife. How can he say that "life is so boring, and getting married is meaningless"

4. "He said he regretted losing you and choosing her. The person he loved was you, and he was forced to get married. There were other circumstances, and he said he was sorry for you." I think if it is true If you love someone, you should stay with him at all costs. Since he chose "her" in the first place, he shouldn't have said these words to you. Didn't he let down the woman with whom he had a child by saying these words?

5. Since he was forced to get married, why did he want to have children?

6. "He said, I'm already married, so what's the point?" Then why should I contact you? And he said he wanted to see you?

7. "He also said that he doesn't know how to face me after meeting me." In that case, why do he still want to see you? He doesn't know how to face you, and you don't know how to face him. Isn’t it awkward for you two to meet? ! !

8. "What will happen if this continues in the future": He is already married and has children. He must bear the consequences of the consequences he committed. You should not be involved. It is you. So many questions to think about. Although your words above show that you may still love him, I still want to say: "The two of you have ended long ago, and the ending must have been the moment you broke up. Missing you will be a lifetime."

To sum up the above, that man is definitely not a good man. Since you are currently unmarried and have no partner, why not waste your time on a bad man who has a wife and children? So you two shouldn't meet. If he insists on seeing you, advise him to take good care of his wife and children! ! Although it will be painful to push the one you love to others, you can be happier if you are different from him! ! !

I hope you can find your happiness soon! !