Xingtai: "A good daughter-in-law washes her mother-in-law's feet", why does it attract cold water?

A small incident in the community caused a heated discussion on the Internet. Recently, a community in Xingtai, Hebei Province held the activity of "Good Daughter-in-law Washing Mother-in-law's Foot", which caused many questions after local publicity. The community responded that this activity was held to promote the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. "Now the relationship between rural mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good. We also engage in this activity to improve family style and family education, often cultivate new styles and promote family harmony. "

Most of netizens' doubts focus on the fact that this form of activity is greater than the content, and may even be counterproductive; Or question that this form itself is not a new trend of civilization that needs to be advocated. The atmosphere of "moving, grateful and happy" created by the community has met with cold water in the feedback of public opinion. Why is there a strong contrast between the two?

As far as form is concerned, different people have different understandings. Some people think that this is the performance of traditional filial piety culture, while others think that this is the shadow of squeezing women in feudal dross. In fact, foot washing activities are not uncommon, from public service advertisements "foot washing for mothers" to activities advocated by schools and communities on Mother's Day, we can see such publicity reports. These propaganda and activities have not caused any doubt, because they advocate the filial piety and care of the younger generation to the elders, without gender distinction and emphasis. This time, when it comes to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, besides filial piety, there is still room for controversy.

As a relatively private individual behavior, foot washing is not a common way to express love in real life unless the other person needs help. When a daughter-in-law washes her mother-in-law's feet, it is easy to think that married women in feudal society obey the discipline of women's commandments and virtues, and the meaning of "filial piety" is weakened, and the impression of "obedience" is more prominent.

The original intention of the community is not difficult to understand, and it is of great practical significance to promote the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Not only in rural areas, but also in cities, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an unavoidable problem. Many families need the help of the elderly to take care of their children to keep the family running. As a result, adult children of many families in China live with their parents. Under the difference of two generations' different concepts and lifestyles, even the parents of children will have friction, not to mention the mother-in-law who had no blood relationship and no intersection of life before.

Under the intergenerational differences, only mutual respect, mutual understanding, mutual tolerance, children's gratitude to their parents, and parents' keeping pace with the times can make the families of generations under one roof happier and more harmonious. Kindness and affection, not washing feet, the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not become a big problem. The original intention of the community is worthy of recognition, but the way to promote the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can also keep pace with the times. Daughter-in-law can make up for her mother-in-law, take photos, and form a team to participate in the square dance competition ... In short, there are many ways to express love and promote relationships besides washing feet.