What is the most disappointing moment for a boy in love?

1. break up easily. Feelings can't stand the temptation, especially the temptation to break up, which is the most deadly. Wechat last time said a more straight man, girls would say goodbye; During the physiological period, boys say to drink more hot water, while girls say to break up; Boys are busy and have no time to accompany them. Girls will say goodbye. In fact, many breakups are just talk. What girls want is not to really break up, but to hope that boys can coax themselves. Indeed, if boys care about this girl, when they hear of breaking up, most of them will give in mainly and show weakness. But these two words are extremely destructive to love, which not only devalues feelings, but also consumes the energy of boys' love. When many boys hear a girl break up, they will think whether it is her angry words or a thoughtful decision. I can't help thinking: Is this relationship really dispensable? And the result of breaking up easily may be like "the wolf is coming." So don't do anything that hurts each other, and don't say what water under the bridge said. Otherwise, if one says goodbye and the other turns away, it will really go their separate ways.

2. Complaining is not understood. Perhaps, many girls want their boyfriends to have mind reading skills. I hope he can find all kinds of subtle emotions, good or bad, and understand the meaning of his words. I even feel that being perceived and satisfied before I say it is truly loved. However, there is bound to be a gap between people. It is doomed to fail to expect to find someone who fully understands himself. Parents can't fully understand you, neither can close girlfriends, nor can boyfriends. The three people in "Three-body" can enjoy all the information of each other, and they can understand each other's thoughts by brainwaves. But human beings can't. If they want to maintain a good relationship, they can only speak out and treat each other with communication, exchange, trust and honesty. In fact, a boy knows that every time you say nothing, something is wrong, but it is hard for him to know what is wrong. In many cases, only by speaking directly can you get a definite answer, which also reduces misunderstandings. Those girls who choose silence because they are afraid of embarrassment and suffer from loss may have unstable love. After all, if you keep silent, there will be a knot in your heart, which will accumulate slowly and then break out one day. This is a complete accident for the boy who loves her deeply. Because even if that boy is willing to face the problem together, he is willing to bow his head and admit his mistake. But the silent girl will still say, you don't understand me at all. But the boy who really loves you may not fully understand you. But he will always support you and hug you.

3. Take the initiative to admit your mistake but be questioned. As the saying goes, a man can't cry lightly, and a boy has been taught to be a man since he was a child. For boys, there are too many responsibilities entrusted by society, so they are few and unwilling to show their vulnerability. Especially when I meet a girl I like, I feel that I should be strong and responsible, and I want to take on more and give her a better life. But the more responsibilities they have, the more they are afraid of. He will be depressed because of the failure of his favorite team, sad because of the departure of his relatives and friends, frustrated because of the frustration in his work and life, and hurt by his sweetheart's neglect or incomprehension. In front of outsiders, he can pretend to be a cold lion, but in front of the person he likes, he just wants to be a spoiled child. I want your comfort, warmth, encouragement and company. For a boy, many emotions can be resolved quietly by himself, but he wants your gentle hug more. Especially when there is a conflict, after a quarrel, I need your hug more, instead of asking him what's wrong like a winner. If you can say: actually, I'm not right either. Only this sentence may comfort him a lot.

4. Being denied by girls. Boys who look strong and independent will be jealous after falling in love, become clingy and tend to think too much. In fact, boys, like girls, need a sense of security, dependence and companionship. And every boy wants to be firmly chosen and trusted by the girl he likes. He may not be good at words, neglect to express, and rarely make promises and vows easily. But he must love you and want to have a bright future with you. Maybe sometimes I don't say it, but I don't know how confident I am and don't want my promise to become a blank check. For boys, what they are most afraid of is that he can't afford what you like when you go shopping; Afraid of doing your best to protect it, it will still make you feel wronged; I'm afraid I'm not doing well enough, which makes you feel that love is nothing more than that. Therefore, we can only work hard silently to build armor that can protect you well. He is not afraid of the pressure and frustration of life, but even you deny him.

5. Be bound by love and lose yourself. Love a person, the most afraid is to lose yourself. Make yourself sensitive, anxious, and be swayed by considerations of gain and loss. And what he likes is the original radiant you. Even if it is not perfect and has many shortcomings, I still like it. A boy who really loves you doesn't want him to be the only one in your life and the world. What deserves your love is life, ideals and yourself. As Keigo Higashino said: The best way to keep fresh in the world is to make continuous progress and make yourself a better and more lovable person. When you are happy because of your new cute cat, he will be happy with you. When you burst into tears because of the sad plot in the novel, he will also be sad; When you are in trouble because of your study or work, he will follow suit. Similarly, you need to give him unconditional support and love in love. Such feelings will be healthy and long-lasting.