What kind of mentality is it that you don't want to associate with your relatives and just want to live quietly alone?

That's what I do. I try not to think about it.

Like a person, don't like busy, afraid of trouble.

The most important thing is that your conditions are not good. They usually see each other outside, and they don't want people to know their situation.

I know it's vanity, but I'm used to it, I can't change it, and I don't intend to change it.

I feel that being with my family is enough.

As the saying goes, distant relatives are fragrant and close neighbors are arrogant, which makes sense. Relatives should take care of each other and be self-aware, so that relatives will be closer. If one party only knows how to take, it will inevitably cause the other party's chilling. Many relatives are kidnapped by relatives, and after a long time, there will be nuclear, so it is better not to contact.

Relatives' topics, world outlook and values are different from their own. They don't want to hear some right and wrong, don't want to speak the same language, and feel tired getting along.

The elders in the past always lacked academic qualifications, and most of the younger generation were relatively highly educated. They hated listening to right and wrong, so they had to avoid it and have less contact. In addition, they are not conducive to family unity and harmony.

I don't want to associate with my relatives, and I don't want to walk around with my friends. Maybe my mother died early and saw through people's hearts too early. When my mother was buried, the faces of my father's brothers and sisters and my mother's brothers and sisters made me unforgettable. When you lost your loved ones, they were all trying to steal from your family. They often bullied my father in other places and rarely gave us a good look. Feelings stop here. Who knows you when you are down and out, when you are unhappy? I can't wait to get as far away as possible.

Remember what is good for me, and don't bother to waste time pretending what is bad for me. I'm not very active except my closest relatives. I got married in other places, and my mother's relatives have little contact, and so does my husband's. He and I have the same smell, and neither of us likes to walk around. It's better to brush your mobile phone at home than to talk nonsense socially.

I have only a dozen people on WeChat, and only the number of the child's teacher is in QQ. I have no money, borrowers can't help me, and rich people don't play with me. I have a good time alone. I don't like going to other people's homes, and I don't like others coming to mine. I don't have that much trouble, let alone asking about other people's homes. I can't help, I can't solve the problem, I won't make trouble, and I won't talk nonsense.

I may just be a person who doesn't want to associate with relatives. Tell me about my experience.

Relatives in parents' eyes are not making up stories, but telling what really happened.

Let's start with the background. My parents are very enthusiastic people, and their family conditions are not bad. They like to associate with their relatives.

There are still many such things happening to relatives.

I also asked my parents, "Why do relatives have to go back and forth when they do this?" ?

The answer given by parents is: "People live all their lives. Being relatives is fate. When everyone is right or wrong, don't divide it too clearly. "

I understand my parents' thoughts. It is always good to see more things, be kind to people and remember more people. Maybe they got help from their relatives. Because their experiences are different, I don't want to associate with my relatives because of my experience.

My family experience: not contacting my family doesn't mean I'm selfish, because I've been hurt, and I feel pain and don't want to be hurt again. If something really happens, I will rush up without reservation.

Experience: don't have money business dealings with relatives, it has nothing to do with the rich and the poor, and it has nothing to do with the rich and the poor. When money problems involve relatives, the simple truth becomes complicated.

So I don't want to associate with my relatives. I have my own life choices, which have nothing to do with wealth, mediocrity and nobility. Look at personal experience.

I don't want to associate with my relatives, because I have experienced such entanglements between them. I also do worldly things, but I don't want to have too much contact and intersection with my relatives at ordinary times. People's energy is limited, so doing more is better than doing less. Wouldn't it be better to live a quiet and ordinary life?

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Either hurt by relatives, or harassed by relatives too much.

Otherwise not.

There are two reasons for this reluctance to associate with their relatives. 1 is inferiority complex. Relatives are certainly not as good as you think in some ways. Maybe you are not on the same stage in ideology or outlook on life. A quiet life is also a good choice, as long as you are happy.

Hello, let me answer your question. Please forgive me for the bad places, because everyone expressed their personal views and opinions when answering questions.

There should be quite a few people who don't want to associate with their relatives. In my opinion, they should belong to a more introverted personality and an autistic mentality. This does not mean that there must be something wrong with the mentality.

In fact, I don't like to associate with my relatives often, because I am much more embarrassed than most relatives. There is an old saying: the poor don't run for the rich! In fact, this sentence is really reasonable, because the gap is too big, there is no * * * like language and life circle, and there are two worlds completely.

There are also some people who don't want to associate with their relatives. They may have asked relatives at the beginning, but they really look on coldly and cynically. Finally, looking back, I felt that I had no relatives to rely on, and my self-esteem and heart were hurt, so I simply stopped communicating.

There is another kind of people who actually don't want to break up with their relatives, but because they are too afraid of trouble, they feel that their own affairs will affect their relatives, don't want to bother others, and are afraid of causing them trouble. They are afraid that relatives will think it is no good for you to go to him, or ask for help or borrow money, so they are even more reluctant to disturb their lives.

There are also some rich people who don't want to associate with their relatives because they think others are poorer than him and they don't need your help anywhere. There are no business opportunities in front of poor relatives. There will be less and less contact.

I don't know what kind of mentality you belong to. In fact, no matter what kind of mentality, living a good life at home is king. There have been no relatives for thousands of years, only permanent descendants!

I remember a psychologist said that the most painful thing in the world is interpersonal relationship! So don't associate with relatives, there will be less trouble!

Some people visit relatives as a form. They walked around on holiday, and if they really had difficulties, no one would help anyone. I don't understand what it means to visit relatives in a formal way.