A quarrel with my mother-in-law

I quarreled with my mother-in-law again last night.

At about 9 o'clock last night, I was sorting out the information in front of the computer. My son, who is less than three years old, is by my side, playing with cars, playing hide-and-seek with my grandfather and playing with balloons. This is a great pleasure.

His father came in when his son was playing with balloons. He watched his son play with balloons, so he took out a bag and blew it up again. There are two balloons 60 cm long in the room; Two round balloons the size of blue and yellow basketball. Now dad blew two long ones. When he played the second song, he even asked me to perform for him. That balloon was about 20 cm before it was blown up. Because it is very long, it needs a lot of lung capacity to blow up, and after it is blown up, its cheeks will be very sour. I used to play when I was a child. After work, the company organized activities or decorated my friends' birthdays with balloons. I believe that people who have played with balloons should be very clear.

After the child's father blew the second one, I said, "Come here quickly, son, and watch his father blow two more extended buses for you (the child is simulating balloons and pretending to extend buses)."

When the son saw it, he happily took it over and played, and kept saying, "A lot of extended buses ..."

I said to the child's father, "Xiao Ming, don't blow it." It's too tired to blow. I will feel dizzy for a while and my cheeks still hurt. There are too many balloons in the room. The child ran back and forth. If it explodes, it will be shocked at night. "

The child's father repeatedly said, "Yes, yes, yes." Then I turned around and continued to write materials.

After a while, I suddenly smelled the rubber smell of balloons in the room. Balloons usually have no smell when stored normally, but when blown open, they will send out rubber roads. When I turned my face, my father was blowing balloons again, leaving them all over the floor, and suddenly there was no room to waste.

Seeing this, I was a little anxious and quickly said, "Xiao Ming, didn't I tell you to stop blowing?" Why are you still blowing? The rubber smell in the room is too strong. "I feel very lucky. The balloons my mother-in-law bought are of good quality. If it's a few dollars a bag, it's even better.

The child's father quickly smiled and said, "No more blowing, no more blowing."

"Xiao Ming, let the air out of the balloon. Don't put so much in the room. " I said as I opened the window to ventilate. Now in winter, there is a small crack in the window, which makes it difficult for air to circulate. Buildings are not like big yards, so don't worry about ventilation.

Hearing what we said, my mother-in-law who was watching TV in the living room came in at once and began to complain at the door, saying, "He was kind enough to let the children play, but didn't say he wouldn't let you play." Why did he still blow it? It's really tiring ... "Explain it to Xiao Ming.

I wasn't angry at first, just to ask the father to stop blowing balloons, and my tone of voice was very heavy. Besides, even if he doesn't handle balloons, I will do it for the children. However, when I hear that my mother-in-law is always protecting her son, I will be very excited when I see her son. I will raise my voice and speak in a bad tone.

I felt a surge of anger in my heart and said to the child's father, "If you don't deflate, I will explode." As he spoke, he prepared balloons with mechanical pencil. Two in a row, the child looked at me. I know he is not afraid to explode balloons in front of him.

A two-year-old girl who occasionally plays with her neighbor's house next door is frightened by the sudden explosion of balloons. She has nothing else to do, but from now on she is very resistant to balloons. She ran away when she saw other children playing.

As a warning, it is inevitable for children to play with balloons, so in order to prevent him from being scared by the sudden explosion when playing with balloons, I specially exercised my child and played a game of tying balloons with him.

I handed the pen to the child and said, "You try it, too. Let's pop the balloon and listen to the bang. " Children imagine balloons as all kinds of cars, and they certainly don't want to puncture them. He still has the balloon I punctured and asked me to blow it again.

Mother-in-law went on to say, "Don't puncture the balloon, and then scare the children ..." Mother-in-law said to my husband, "Xiao Ming, bring the balloon. I'll put it outside the window guardrail and don't let it blow. The child played every day when he was a child and didn't see anything ... "Then she always spoke for him.

We used to play when we were young, but the quality of things was really good at that time. No matter what we eat and play, there won't be so many additions. Now everyone knows that these things are made. Moreover, it used to be a yard, but now the building is poorly ventilated in winter. Needless to say.

Mother-in-law is very kind, afraid of our quarrel and wants to reconcile. But if the contradiction between us is really too big to be reconciled, you can understand it from the middle. There is nothing to explain about the little things that sesame and mung beans order now. Every time I emphasize a little to Xiao Ming, she either pulls a face or explains to him endlessly.

I am really angry. To tell the truth, it was our husband and wife, complaining about such a trivial matter as blowing balloons, which didn't reach the point of quarreling at all, and Xiao Ming couldn't stand the stimulation. We have been husband and wife for several years, and I still have the right to decide.

For example, when we have an argument, we are on the same side, make things clear, and then we will be fine. Maybe less than five minutes, and then we will talk about something else with mirth. But as soon as my mother-in-law joined in, the nature changed completely, and they became the two of them standing on my opposite side and quarreling with me. Many times, the quarrel between husband and wife turns into a quarrel between three people. I don't understand. A few words of bickering between husband and wife are not as serious as bickering. Why can't my mother-in-law accept this? She said angrily to me, is it not good to pretend not to hear?

Xiao Ming was also stimulated before, but it was not that serious. I feel that my mother-in-law has a tendency to be harmed by her son, and her reaction is particularly fierce every time. If I praise Xiaoming in front of everyone at ordinary times, my mother-in-law will be happy to add a few more words; If I complain about Xiao Ming, she will explain to him endlessly. So, now I don't want to chat with Xiaoming, especially in front of my parents. I really don't want my mother-in-law to explain this and that for him every time we communicate. I feel particularly depressed. I respect her as an elder, and I can't express myself as freely as my husband.

It is always good to communicate with my husband alone, especially when I am kind. When I complained about him, he was also careless and didn't take it to heart. I am not an angry person myself. Basically, if you are angry, you will be fine. After three or five minutes, we are together again, so we don't like it so complicated.

Sometimes I feel that my mother-in-law is such a strong person, so I talk to my father-in-law if I have nothing to do. It is natural for her to nag her husband. Did I say that my husband is a big deviant? Besides, I'm her daughter-in-law, and I said my husband did it for his own good. If it's not for the good of my family, why don't I talk to other men? I am strict with him, because I regard him as my family, and I hope this family will be better. If my mother-in-law is really kind to us, I really hope that she can give us some space, instead of always playing the role of judge for us, so that we can learn to solve our own problems and enhance our feelings through constant running-in.

I wonder how she understands it. She probably always thought I was bullying her son. If bickering between husband and wife is bullying, then my nagging to my husband is nothing compared with her nagging to my father-in-law.

On the other hand, she is a mother's distressed son, which I can understand. From the standpoint of mother and son, what the son did can be forgiven, but we can't always consider the problem from the standpoint that the elders are used to the younger generation. Also consider that we are equal, and my husband is not my son. How can I talk to a big man like a son? Besides, as a daughter-in-law, I don't think I have anything to be picky about what my husband does. I am a human being, not an almighty god. Did my mother-in-law ever think that she was also a daughter-in-law? How noisy it will be when she lives with her mother-in-law. What if I treat her the way she does?

But, in the final analysis, I don't want to quarrel. I hope the family is harmonious, the children grow up in a happy environment, and everyone in the family lives in a friendly atmosphere. I know my mother-in-law also wants her family to be kind. In fact, everyone has the same starting point, but the communication methods are not equal and the positions are different, so sometimes there will be differences.

My mother-in-law is a very responsible person. She is diligent and capable. She always thinks of me and is very kind to me, so I am always moved and grateful to her. It's just that I'm tired of looking after the children now and I can't help her share too much. But I always think that she and her father-in-law are old and must be filial, so I try not to make them angry.

Besides babysitting, I also help when I am not tired. I know her arm is not good, so when I go out to play, I basically don't let her hold the baby, but every time I come back, my arm hurts for a long time before I recover. At an early age, my husband said that children should sleep with their mother-in-law. I know her mother-in-law won't sleep. Children don't sleep honestly at night, often punch and kick, and wake people up several times at night. Sometimes it's hard for me to sleep again after waking up several times, so I usually don't let my children sleep with my mother-in-law, because the elderly can't sleep well for a long time, which is very harmful to their health. I might have been much better when I was young, but I always lost a lot of hair because I didn't have a good rest all the year round. The rubber band that used to be tight after two laps is now loose after three laps.

In fact, every family doesn't have too many big problems of principle, all of which are trivial contradictions. If you are lucky, there will be a husband who can reconcile them, but it happens that the husband can't act as a lubricant between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and sometimes even pick things up for some small purposes. Fortunately, my mother-in-law is still a reasonable person and will not let go completely.

Many times I want to talk to my mother-in-law. Also tried, the number of failures is greater than the number of successes. It is difficult for her to listen to people calmly. Often when I haven't finished two or three sentences, she has a tough attitude of eight sentences and ten sentences. Explanations are understandable, but an explanation is like a bunch of grapes. One thing involves many things, and I often add that it is difficult to discuss problems on the basis of facts even if I am not afraid of being tired again.

My mother-in-law is a very indomitable person and can't tolerate any grievances. She's finished, and she's full of anger, which doesn't solve the problem at all. Therefore, no matter what I communicate with her, she often choked me back before I finished. She was happy when she finished, and my mood is still there. My principle is not to be angry with old people and children. On the other hand, her son will suffer, and my mood will always find an outlet. So in order to avoid quarrels and minor problems, I slowly don't want to communicate with her.

Sometimes some small contradictions that can't remember what they are snowball slowly, and there are more and more negative emotions. If you don't know what to take, it will break out once. There is a saying that "it was never the last straw that crushed the camel, but the accumulation of many straws before." Therefore, a quarrel about something may be an emotion that has been squeezed for a long time, and it will be released when it meets the fuse.

I think I am a gentle person by nature, and I don't like to quarrel with others, so if you are willing to communicate, I will treat you with courtesy. If you can't communicate, you can only hang it as a time bomb.

Forget that a famous person once said that family matters are no small matters. Do you think that those couples who wait for a lot of trivial divorce because of different ways of squeezing toothpaste are just because of the problem of squeezing toothpaste itself? No, it is the accumulation of many daily contradictions caused by the lack of communication at ordinary times. So that when others finally asked, I couldn't tell them why. In fact, it is those little things that, together, have become irreconcilable contradictions over time.

I still advocate that no matter between husband and wife, between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, between Weng Xu and children, we should communicate on the principle of solving problems and give each other some space.

I hope all families can live in harmony!