I thought you understood me

What I fear most when interacting with people in the world is that I thought you understood me.

I have heard more than one person say before that China is a society of connections. The more people you know, the easier it is for you to accomplish something.

Indeed, it is like this. If you have many friends and wide connections, the road will be easier to follow. However, there is never a shortage of fair-weather friends around us. There are only a few who are truly sincere and can give a thumbs up to this person in your heart.

In interpersonal communication, what I am afraid of is that once I see you and get to know you, I will think that I can be your life mentor, that I can act arbitrarily on your life, and that I can use the advice of people who have experienced you. Affect the decisions you make. Of course, for such people, it is enough to ignore them and maintain a simple relationship, or even not maintain it and remain indifferent.

For strangers, we actually don’t care that much about everything they say, so we can say what we want to say without restraint. But the closer we are to the people around us, the less we know how to speak. Or, the closer we are, the less willing we are to speak.

Because, we all think that you understand me. Even if you don't say it, you still understand me, but there are so many tacit words in the world. Why do parents and lovers quarrel? It's because I think you understand me, so I don't say it.

But what happened was mostly different from what I imagined, or even completely different. At that time, we will be disappointed. The more disappointment accumulates, and eventually it will explode.

I thought you understood me. It is an emotional kidnapping. It is a kidnapping for you and others. He doesn't understand you and you feel sad and disappointed with him. But no one is exactly the same in the world, even clones are two completely different people.

I just hope that if something happens in the future, you don’t think that others can understand you, don’t think that others understand you 100%, don’t hold it in and say nothing, but can speak out loudly. .

I hope you will not feel wronged when you encounter something, instead of just saying "that's it" after something happens.

Of course, there will be people who understand you, then how happy you will be.

I just want to write something for you, and I hope you can read it.