Having two children at home: What is the difference between raising a little baby and a big baby?

The two-child policy has just been liberalized, and the vast majority of parents in China lack the experience of raising multiple babies. Therefore, it may be of some reference to talk about the differences between raising a small baby and a big baby.

There is no doubt that the biggest advantage of raising a baby is that parents are not just novices. They have some experience in raising children, so they will be fully mentally prepared. But (knock on the blackboard here), sadly, it is often found that these experiences are basically useless. Especially for parents whose two babies were born more than five years apart, their impressions from five years ago are often very little, and what they remember is usually not of much use, because the children are different, the situations are different, and the prevailing medical practices are also different. different. Therefore, parents of second-born children may have only a slight psychological advantage compared to new parents, nothing more.

When giving birth to a first child, parents are usually relatively young. However, by the time they plan to have a second child, many parents are already old or very old. A serious consequence of this is lack of energy, especially in the first few months after the second baby is born. Not to mention having trouble sleeping and eating well, the baby takes up almost all the time eating, drinking, sleeping and sleeping, and then the big baby is doing this and that. Basically, after a busy day, only one baby is left. It's the end of sleeping. It is precisely because of this that many parents of second children have begun to realize the importance of the body and have started running, fitness, yoga, etc., just to accumulate enough physical strength to raise two children, especially the younger one.

Of course, with the addition of a big baby (this difference cannot be ignored), the environment and process of raising a little baby will undergo many changes. First of all, Dabao will leave behind a lot of things, such as cars, beds, bathtubs, books, toys, clothes, etc. These used things are safe and save money, but of course this is not the most important thing. The existence and various needs of the first baby often make parents of the second baby feel overwhelmed. This problem will never be encountered when raising the first child, especially when the second child is just born, the consumption of manpower in the family will be extremely huge - the mother has to take care of the second child around the clock, feed and put her to sleep, basically He cannot take half a step away from school, so who will take Dabao to and from school? Who helps Dabao do his homework? Who takes Dabao to the park on the weekend? Who plays with Dabao? These have become new problems. It seems difficult to solve the problem satisfactorily with my father alone.

The existence of Dabao, in addition to adding a task line, also has a "function" that cannot be ignored, and that is "making trouble". Dabao's curiosity about his younger siblings and competition for his parents' attention will make Dabao do a lot of weird things, but his parents can't get angry with him. For example, the baby is clearly being put to sleep and needs to be quiet, but Dabao keeps coming in and out, opening and closing the door, making it impossible for parents to work properly; or just after putting Xiaobao to sleep, Dabao rushes in and shouts In a word, all the previous efforts were immediately wasted... If Dabao is too young, this problem will be more obvious. Basically, he will have to compete endlessly with the little guy for favor. Older children can also improve by giving more lectures.

However, having said so much, the last and most important difference is that the second baby will have an extra child who loves him when he is born. This simple, tender love was something Dabao would never be able to enjoy when he was born.