"The house is nice, let your brother live in it!" What should you do if you encounter a partial mother-in-law?

"Your house is nice, let your brother live in it!" How can a daughter-in-law win such beauty after meeting such a partial mother-in-law?

Parents have always regarded their children as treasures in their hearts, but they will always love a certain child more. We all say that all five fingers are not the same length, not to mention the love our parents have for us. Woolen cloth? After all, I can’t tell whose parents treat me better.

If you are not in a family with only one child, it is inevitable that some children will say: "My parents prefer my younger brother." They will complain that their parents do not have a bowl of water, but they want to It is very difficult to hold a bowl of water levelly. Maybe when we grow up, we will be able to understand the painstaking efforts of our parents.

It is not easy to get complete fairness. Sometimes, the child who is not particularly loved just wants to get a compliment or affirmation from his parents.

Xiaofang’s husband is the eldest son of the family. He also has a younger brother who is five years younger than him. This younger brother has been treated as a treasure by the family since he was a child and lives like a prince every day. In life, when he was eating, his mother brought the food in front of him, and when he wanted to drink water, she handed him the water. Even after he entered junior high school, his mother had to help him put on his socks every morning! He has been spoiled by his family since he was a child, and his parents would never criticize him loudly.

And this younger brother was raised like this since he was a child, which resulted in poor academic performance. In the end, he only attended a technical secondary school and returned home with nothing to show for it. Xiaofang's husband has never liked this younger brother, so her husband also tries to please his parents. Only when he gets good grades can he see his parents smiling at him. Normally, his parents don't even look at him! So my husband has been studying very hard and finally got admitted to a key university. After graduation, he successfully became a civil servant and had a very stable career.

Why did Xiaofang choose to be with him? Mainly because I liked his hard work and his positive and progressive attitude at work, plus he was very honest and family-oriented, so the two of them always got along very happily. Xiaofang's parents were also very satisfied. They thought he was very down-to-earth and could take care of the family, so they agreed to the marriage and helped Xiaofang buy a house in the city and pay the down payment.

All this developed very smoothly. Before getting married, Xiaofang had heard that her mother-in-law was so fond of her brother-in-law, so she was mentally prepared for all this. But when she actually married into this family, she discovered that her brother-in-law could be so lazy.

During the Mid-Autumn Festival, her employer distributed a box of mooncakes, and Xiaofang wanted to take them home and eat them with her family. Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law fell in love with this box of mooncakes as soon as I entered the house and said, "Hey, this taste is your brother's favorite, so just leave this box of mooncakes for him! There aren't many mooncakes in this box anyway." "In order to avoid unnecessary trouble, Xiaofang gave the mooncakes to her mother-in-law, thinking that it would be better to cause less trouble.

A few days later, my mother-in-law’s birthday arrived. As it turned out, Xiaofang and her husband's workplace was quite busy. After working overtime, the two of them quickly went to the cake shop to buy a cake and hurried back home. I was afraid that I would run out of things, so I gave my mother-in-law a big red envelope worth 6,000 yuan. My mother-in-law said happily that you are really smart, and the money saved me a lot of things!

So what did the brother-in-law bring back? Nothing was taken. I just wanted to say happy birthday, thank you for your hard work, Mom. Just such a sentence made my mother-in-law show off happily for a long time. The contrast was so strong that both Xiaofang and her husband felt very uncomfortable.

I thought it was just a few days after my birthday, but then my mother-in-law called again, this time asking Xiaofang’s husband to pay them some pension money every month. In fact, my mother-in-law has a pension, which is about every I can get more than 2,000 per month. When the mother-in-law asked her husband for pension funds, it was obvious that she wanted to spend them on her brother-in-law. This brother-in-law only plays games every day and stays in the Internet cafe instead of going home. When he runs out of money, he asks his mother-in-law for money. Xiaofang actually didn't want to give the money at all, but she was afraid that her husband would be caught in the middle, so she simply asked her husband to give it.

My mother-in-law has always been so partial to her youngest son, and Xiaofang has always felt that it is unfair, but fortunately they do not live together, and their lives are considered stable.

But such good times did not last long. One year after the marriage, her mother-in-law brought her brother-in-law to Xiaofang's house and wanted to live with them. I saw my mother-in-law carrying a lot of things to the door of the house, as if she was preparing to stay there for a long time. Xiaofang was afraid that everyone would laugh at them, so she let her mother-in-law live there.

As soon as they entered the house, the mother-in-law started to order Xiaofang! "We've been in the car for so long, and we're almost starving! Let your brother go see what's in the refrigerator and cook something he likes! Tomorrow you go buy some fish, some mangoes, etc. These are all your favorites!" The fire in Xiaofang's heart was suppressed, thinking that they would go back soon!

Everyone had a rest on the weekend, and the family sat in the house to eat. My mother-in-law said: "It's better for you to be in a big city! It's very convenient to do anything. Why don't you just let your brother stay here and help him find a good job? Then we're settled! We have a house and a job." , I can still take care of you if I stay here!"

This time it completely touched Xiaofang's bottom line, and Xiaofang knew exactly what her mother-in-law meant. If she lets her mother-in-law stay, this brother-in-law will be very difficult to maintain. But if she didn't let her mother-in-law stay, the neighbors would definitely laugh at her and say she was unfilial.

Then the best way is to negotiate terms with your mother-in-law and discuss each other’s interests. As long as her mother-in-law’s interests are involved, she will definitely go home by herself, and what her mother-in-law cares about most is the family in her hometown. A house.

Xiaofang said: "Mom, your idea is indeed very good. It is more convenient to do anything in big cities, and the work will be better than there. Then we will find him a job after a while. If you have a good job and find a suitable partner, you can sell your house in your hometown! Use the money to buy him a house, plus you still have your pension! We didn’t ask you to help us buy this house in the first place! , then you can make good arrangements for your brother-in-law’s house and help him pay off the mortgage every month!” “And you can still live with him. After all, you bought this house with the money from selling your home, and I I can still visit you often. We don’t need your help here, and we won’t pay you the monthly pension, because our life is not easy either.”

My mother-in-law listened! Xiaofang immediately understood what she meant. She thought about it carefully and realized that she was indeed in the wrong. Not only did she lose her house, but she also lost the monthly retirement payment Xiaofang gave her. I have to use all my money to spend on my younger son, so I might as well go back obediently!

Since then, her mother-in-law has never said anything about coming to live here again, and Xiaofang’s life has become much more stable.

When we meet such a partial mother-in-law, we must not blindly obey. In their eyes, even if you give everything, she will not take it seriously. There will even be more requirements for you to meet. We just need to do what we should do and have a clear conscience! Some people may think this is too selfish, but from another perspective, the other person doesn't care about your feelings at all, right?