How to make yourself calm and not impetuous

1, minimalist life. Laozi said: five colors are blind, five tones are deaf, five tastes are refreshing, and hunting is crazy, and rare goods harm people. It's the saint's stomach, not his eyes. Go and get this somewhere else. It means that colorful colors make people see things in a blur; Noisy voices confuse people's hearing; Various foods stimulate people's taste buds and make people deeply immersed in sensory pleasure; Various game activities make people feel wild and crazy; Rare things stimulate people's desires and make people's behavior out of control. Therefore, saints only want to eat their stomachs and do not pursue music and sound entertainment, so they abandon the temptation of material desires and maintain a stable and contented lifestyle.

Therefore, if you want to be quiet, the first thing you should do is to avoid the noisy life, give up moderately, create a minimalist lifestyle for yourself, use mobile phones, computers and televisions as little as possible, stay away from places of debauchery and dogs as much as possible, and minimize social activities mainly to stimulate sensory enjoyment. Don't brush WeChat friends circle every day, and don't brush Tik Tok every day. The result of brushing every day is that a lot of information will disturb your desire and have a certain impact on your mood. Seeing the happiness of other people's lives in a circle of friends, it is easy to subconsciously compare the embarrassment of your own life. I saw some money-making skills in Tik Tok, which will shake my current career. Being disturbed by such a huge amount of information every day will only increase your desire.

2. Easy first, then difficult. Many people say that practicing in the world of mortals is the best practice, practicing in heavy work and practicing in troubles is the best practice. Although this truth is true, it ignores the role of the process. Whether it's practice or peace of mind, it's always easy first and then difficult. Those who have a certain concentration or a certain concentration can also practice in prosperity. But for people without any foundation, it is better to start from an easy place. First, create a quiet atmosphere, practice in a relatively simple quiet environment for a period of time, and then go to the red dust treatment after a certain concentration, so that the effect is better. Of course, after you have a certain foundation, don't jump into dogs and horses at once, and don't span too much.

Step 3 meditate. You can also meditate. It is a good way to keep quiet to meditate 15 minutes every day. The method of meditation is simple. Keep your body upright, breathe naturally, and concentrate on your breathing. When I breathe long, I notice that I breathe long. When I breathe short, I notice that I am inhaling when I breathe in, and I am exhaling when I exhale, so that I can slowly focus on my breathing and concentrate on my breathing. Long-term practice can make my brain relax and become quiet. You can start practicing for a few minutes, and then slowly increase it to 15 minutes.

4. Cognitive adjustment. Cognitive adjustment is to break emotional distress with a positive view. You can read more Buddhist scriptures and philosophy books to broaden your mind. Most paranoia is caused by anxiety. It is necessary to change the unreasonable cognitive and thinking patterns, change the sensitive and suspicious character, and make the heart rich and powerful. Only in this way can we enhance our psychological endurance and anti-interference ability.

To make yourself stronger internally, we must first cultivate our sense of security and comfort our inner children. Anxiety is often due to the insecurity of being born in a family, and it is even more insecure when you grow up because of the excessive pressure of study and work. You can write down your anxiety. When you write down your anxiety, you can solve it one by one. You will find that what you are worried about is often not so bad. In the end, you will find that there is nothing to worry about.

5. Good work and rest. Reduce distractions, calm yourself down, and have good habits of work and rest, especially sleep. Only by keeping a good sleep can the brain eliminate toxins in time and stay awake the next day.

6. Pay attention to health. Let yourself be quiet and have a good physical condition. It is necessary to supplement nutrition in time, especially vitamin B. Many people are overthinking, anxious and confused because of physical problems. This sub-health state can be adjusted from the aspect of traditional Chinese medicine. For example, some people can't sleep because their hearts and kidneys don't meet, some people are prone to panic because of kidney yang deficiency, some people are prone to emotional excitement because of strong liver fire, and some people are too absorbed because of spleen yang deficiency. These situations cannot be solved by cognitive adjustment alone. Need to adjust the body function in time. When the body is adjusted, the five elements are orderly, the yin and yang are balanced, the fire and water are ji ji, and the energy is full, then the natural mind will not be so chaotic. In addition to conditioning sub-health status, you should also be able to exercise properly. Regular exercise can not only make the body strong, but also produce serotonin, which can reduce anxiety and make the body and mind happier.

7. Music therapy. Listening to some soothing music can relieve people's stress, relieve people's anxiety and make people's restless hearts calm down slowly. It's best to find some favorite ones among those soothing music. In addition, some white noise also helps to sleep.

8. Make a heart. Keep your thoughts in one place. Peace of mind will reduce unnecessary thinking. It's best to find what you like, and it won't disturb your mood particularly. For example, when playing Tai Chi Chuan, if you stand on a pile and think about meditation, you can practice routines first. From big to small, and finally to nothing. You can also read books, especially some history books, biographies, or books that can calm yourself down. Immersed in such a book, you can temporarily forget too many distractions. You can also write, take a notebook and pen, and then write down what you want to say. Gradually forming the habit of writing is a kind of dialogue with self, which will also bring quiet power.

9. Go into nature. You can take a vacation for yourself, go far away and travel to places you have never been to. You can also take a walk in the nearby park. Listen to the birds, smell the flowers, look at the beautiful nature and feel the beauty of harmony between man and nature.

10, aromatherapy. If you feel anxious and confused, you can also try aromatherapy. Lavender oil, rose oil and lemon oil can reduce anxiety and bring a sense of tranquility. Or you can pick a bunch of flowers and put them at home, and then you can smell them every day. You can also make your own osmanthus pillow and sleep with flowers.

1 1. Clean up negative information in time. We came from a family step by step, from school to work, and met many unsatisfactory things in life and work. Although we have tolerated and solved some things, the negative information they left has been in our subconscious, and it will erupt when we meet the right opportunity. Therefore, we must deal with our negative emotions in time in life. For the negative emotions that have not been dealt with in time before, we must also find ways to go deep into the subconscious and reconcile with them. Especially when you are from a family, you didn't get enough care from your parents when you were a child. The resulting insecurity should be resolved in time, otherwise this insecurity will bring you anxiety.

12, third-party perspective. Sometimes because we are too persistent, this obsession can't be cracked, so we have to start a third-party perspective. We should look at our life like a movie, and look at our life like a bystander, so as to jump out of the paranoid perspective and make ourselves less obsessed.

13, increase psychological energy. Sometimes we can't be quiet. The reason why we think too much is because our mental energy is too small to cope with complicated information. At this time, we need to appropriately increase our psychological energy, learn an optimistic interpretation style, give ourselves a smile every day, give others a smile, and make some positive self-suggestions. Cultivate more hobbies, be grateful and empower yourself psychologically.

14, chat in time. Everyone will encounter troubles sometimes, and it is easy to think when they are upset. What you need to do at this time is to find a good friend to talk to, and talk about your troubles and you will be relieved of your pain. In addition, friends will also give you some reasonable suggestions to help you improve your life. Of course, we should also master the degree of talking to our friends.

15, improve wisdom and ability. Both work and life need some wisdom and ability. When your wisdom and ability are not enough to cope with your current work and life, even if your temporary mentality is adjusted, you will eventually fall into pain again because of your mismatch with the environment. So you should be able to coordinate your ability and political integrity, improve your wisdom and ability, and adapt yourself to the environment.

16, don't let yourself be too idle. Some people say that since practice is separation, the quieter the better. But everything has to be measured. If you do nothing but eat and sleep every day, it will be easy to think. So at this time, you should be able to find something interesting to do, let yourself have something to do, and don't be too idle. In this way, gradually find meaningful happiness.