Shortly after getting married, my mother-in-law went to visit her in-laws and made her daughter-in-law angry. Should she go back?

Once, my friend Xiao Min sent me a message, expressing her mother-in-law's heart. I'm used to this kind of thing. After all, there has been friction between Xiao Min and her mother-in-law for so many years.

This time, it was because of a skirt. Xiao Min's mother-in-law bought her a dress when she was shopping. The style of this dress is very old, and Xiao Min doesn't like its color.

But Xiao Min is still very happy that her mother-in-law can buy clothes for herself. But she still can't help commenting on this dress.

Unexpectedly, her mother-in-law's face changed immediately and reprimanded Xiao Min: "You still dislike buying it for you, I don't know how good it is!" In the days after that, her mother-in-law never gave Xiao Min a good look.

Xiao Min complained to me, "As for this, I only said it when she was my own mother. How can I be a stranger? "

In fact, what she said has exposed the cause of the problem between her and her mother-in-law, that is, treating her mother-in-law as a mother.

This is also a mistake that many women make. After marriage, they regard their mother-in-law as their mother and have high expectations for her. The same is true for mother-in-law, who has high requirements for daughter-in-law. In this way, two people ask too much of each other, and once they are not satisfied, there will be contradictions.

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The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not a blood relationship, not a kinship relationship, but more like a social relationship. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should follow the principle that many people get along in society and maintain a certain sense of boundaries.

The sense of boundaries is not a long distance from each other, but a certain degree of mutual respect and understanding. Only in this way can mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live in peace.

Not long ago, Xiao Rui met a trouble. She got married only a few months ago, but something happened that made her very angry and quarreled with her husband's family. Now she still lives with her parents, and no matter how her husband Jia Yu begged her, she refused to go back.

It's not that she doesn't want to go back, but the thought of seeing that disgusting mother-in-law at home makes Xiao Rui very upset. She also gave Jiayu an ultimatum: either send her mother-in-law back to her hometown or prepare for a divorce!

Before getting married, Xiao Rui never thought that her married life would be like this. If given another choice, she wouldn't want to marry Jiayu anyway.

This is not because Jia Yu is bad, but because he has a good mother. Xiao Rui didn't know her mother-in-law was so nice until she got married.

Marriage has never been chosen together because a person is good, but there are too many problems to consider, and family environment is one of the key points that must be considered.

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When many women face marriage, their first reaction is: I want to find a man I love to marry. This is what many women pursue. I want to marry love.

But marriage is not just love, it contains too many things, and it is impossible to run a good marriage by two people's temporary passion.

Xiao Rui just didn't want to know this clearly, so she had to ignore the dissuasion of her family and marry the poor boy Jia Yu. Later, Xiao Rui also suffered.

Xiao Rui and Jia Yu met at a friend's birthday party. At that time, Xiao Rui was attracted by the handsome Jia Yu. On that day, they interacted frequently and had a good impression on each other. So after the party, they exchanged contact information with each other.

Jiayu is very interested in Xiao Rui. She often chats with her online and asks Xiao Rui out when she is free. The number of contacts between two people is increasing, and they have feelings for each other. Finally Jiayu confessed to Xiao Rui, and Xiao Rui promised to associate with him.

Being in love is the best time, and Xiao Rui enjoys the sweetness brought by love. She didn't think about the future, just wanted to enjoy the present.

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After a period of contact, two people also have a certain understanding of each other. Xiao Rui learned that Jia Yu's family was not very good. His parents are farmers, and he worked hard to go to college. Now, after working, Jia Yu began to feed his parents.

Xiao Rui didn't leave him because he was poor, but he was very considerate. When two people are dating, Xiao Rui tries to spend money by herself. Jia Yu also knew that Xiao Rui understood himself, so he was very moved, and it was also for XiaoRui's sake.

Two people have been in love for about a year and are going to get married. Their marriage was opposed by Xiao Rui's parents, who thought Jiayu's family was too poor, and their daughter would suffer if she married in the past. But Xiao Rui is not afraid of hardship. Despite her parents' objections, she insisted on marrying Jia Yu.

In desperation, my parents have to find another way: if they want to marry my daughter, they can take out100000 yuan as a bride price, otherwise everything is out of the question. They want Jiayu to back down.

Jia Yu had no choice but to go home and ask his parents. His parents borrowed money everywhere and really collected100000 yuan and gave it to Xiao Rui's parents.

Now parents have nothing to say, so Xiao Rui married Jiayu. But they don't have a house, so they have to rent a house temporarily.

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Xiao Rui thinks that married life will be very sweet. But I didn't expect Jia Yu's parents to move into this house one month after they got married.

Because they felt that they could not make money in the countryside, Jiayu's parents came to work in the city. Although Xiao Rui doesn't want to live with her in-laws, it's hard to say. After all, the money owed by his family is the bride price owed by his parents.

But Xiao Rui's mother-in-law, also is not a good crop. Because of the bride price, she has been dissatisfied with Xiao Rui. When she got home, she found that Xiao Rui could neither cook nor do housework, so she had to rely on her son to serve her. Mother-in-law is even more angry and often scolds Xiao Rui.

Xiao Rui was spoiled since she was a child. She couldn't stand it, so she quarreled with her mother-in-law. I didn't expect her mother-in-law to scold her, and the words were very ugly. However, Jia Yu looked at the two of them quarreling with her face and dared not speak.

Xiao Rui returned to her parents in a rage. Unexpectedly, a few days later, my mother-in-law also came to me.

XiaoRuiTian really thought that her mother-in-law had come to apologize to herself and wanted to invite her back. But unexpectedly, as soon as her mother-in-law came in, she sat unceremoniously on the sofa and began to criticize Xiao Rui's parents.

The mother-in-law said that Xiao Rui asked for a lot of bride price, and nothing could be done at home, so she relied on her son to take care of her like a waste. She also said that the family took so many colorful gifts to marry their son, not to let him take care of her, but to let her take care of the whole family.

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These words of my mother-in-law are undoubtedly harsh. Xiao Rui's parents look ugly. They didn't expect Xiao Rui's mother-in-law to be such an unreasonable person.

Xiao Rui's mother replied a few words, but I didn't expect her mother-in-law to fly into a rage and swear directly: "Look at the daughter you teach. It's a waste. Your family is also a tutor." The mouse's son can make holes, fish begins to stink at the head! "

Xiao Rui's parents trembled with anger when she watched her mother scold the street like a bitch. Xiao Rui, next to her, quit and immediately jumped out to scold her mother-in-law: "You old hag, shameless, how dare you come to our house and run wild. What qualifications do you have to dare to scold my parents? " You stupid rural woman are so arrogant. Do you believe that I will call the police and arrest you? "

When her mother-in-law tried to talk back, Xiao Rui and her mother pushed her out of the door together. After entering the house, the whole family was very angry. After that, Xiao Rui gave Jiayu an ultimatum: Either send her mother-in-law back or we divorce! This matter has not been solved yet, and the two families are still entangled, which makes people feel very embarrassed.

Many times, marriage is not only maintained by love, because passion always fades. Therefore, before getting married, we must think carefully, carefully observe each other's personality and character, and more importantly, understand each other's family environment, family members and so on.

Only in this way can we know ourselves and ourselves and win every battle. Marriage will also be less contradictory.