Educate children whether to keep them in captivity or free range?

I am a child at present and have not become a parent. Let's talk about my views based on my own 22-year experience and the experiences of people around me.

I think in educating children, we should do it: 70% free range, 30% captive, and relax. Free-range farming here is not completely free-range, laissez-faire, and captive farming is not completely captive. Children are treated like dead people.

For parents who are always with and around their children, you may not know that doing so will reduce their expectations and feelings for their parents. The following analysis is based on the above situation. First of all, after all, everyone has a certain freshness to a person, just like husband and wife. If parents spend too much time with their children, their sense of freshness and affection for their parents will decline, especially after their children enter junior high school. The result of this practice is that when children are adults and married, they don't want to see you and live with you (especially their sons), because you have exhausted their feelings for you when they were young, and their freshness for you is far less than when they were young; Secondly, due to the different growth environment and way of thinking, the contradiction between parents and children will also increase, which will also reduce children's feelings for their parents; Moreover, it is easy for parents who spend a long time with their children to pass on their way of thinking and behavior habits (good or bad) to their children. After a long time, children's way of thinking is easy to solidify and become rigid, because children can only improve their flexibility by dealing with different people, handling different things and handling different situations, and you take up too much time of children, and there are few friends around you except parents. If this is the case, they often force their children to do what they want. Therefore, parents should properly let go, let their children communicate with others face to face, and let their children know that there are many interesting people and things in this world besides you. As for the disadvantages of completely stocking children, parents should all know that there are online, so I won't say it here.

I think parents should spend more time with their children before they go to junior high school. At this stage, the child's mind is not mature, his personality is not perfect, he doesn't understand the world, and his behavior habits need correct guidance, so he needs his parents' company. After children entered junior high school, their consciousness and thinking began to really awaken, and they began to have their own three views and ways of doing things, but they were not mature and correct. At this time, parents should not treat their children with a compulsive attitude, but should play a guiding role. Some parents may say: I don't force him, can he change? I know that parents are experienced people, and they all want their children to take fewer detours and don't want their children to suffer. That's understandable. But in fact, it is not a bad thing for children to suffer some losses. As the saying goes, after children suffer losses, they will have more opportunities to reflect on their own shortcomings and sum up lessons and experiences. In this process, their thinking has also been exercised, and eating losses is far more profound than their parents' earnest teaching. At this time, there must be some parents who are worried about their children's study, afraid that their children will be playful and make friends carelessly. In fact, their grades depend on a person's way of thinking, learning methods and ability to solve and analyze problems. Many students around me often stay up late, sleep in class, and mix with people who don't study hard every day, but their academic performance is very good. I cite this example to say that parents should cultivate their children's ability to think independently, find problems, analyze problems and solve problems, so that children can have their own learning methods and rules of making friends, because the learning methods and above abilities in junior high school will directly affect the grades in senior high school. I think the conversation is off topic ... back to the right track. Speaking of guidance, this is a topic that parents need to study well.

Parents can't control their children when they go to high school. What parents can do at this time is to communicate with their children more. During this period in high school, children are often influenced by factors such as high pressure to enter a higher school, unsatisfactory test scores, and people around them who don't work hard but do better than me. Children's psychology will change, even distorted and depressed. At this time, parents should be keenly aware of their children's psychological changes, communicate with their children more and untie their hearts. As for how to communicate with children, this is also a science, and parents can talk about it in combination with their childhood experiences.

After going to college, the children have grown up and the three views have gradually matured. At this time, parents can almost completely let go of their children. The only thing they can do is to give some suggestions to guide their children to make a plan for the future. This plan will directly affect their future development. It's best to start from freshman year. Some parents are far-sighted and will let their children make plans from junior high school to high school. I won't say this. After all, it didn't happen to me.

The above is my opinion on whether children should be kept in captivity or in captivity. The code word is not easy, for reference only, don't spray it if you don't like it.