Find someone who is willing to talk to you.

A couple of friends around me are getting divorced recently. Both husband and wife are my good friends. I smoked all night and went to their house to listen to their mood. We talked for more than three hours that night, saying it was a chat. Basically, I'm listening. They're talking. Speak ill of each other, speak ill of each other. Subsequently, the man took out the divorce agreement that had already been written and put it on the table. The hostess picked it up and looked at it, as if she were reading an article that had nothing to do with herself. After reading it, I told him sitting next to me that it should be changed here: "The child can be yours, but I can't see the child without your consent." Because of disagreement, the two men argued about this issue for another half an hour. The whole room is full of their voices, and the divorce papers are quietly placed on the coffee table in front of them. It seems that everything has nothing to do with them, and the whole world has only their right and wrong.

I told them: I am not here to adjust, to persuade peace or to persuade division. I am your friend. I'm here to listen. After listening to it, I feel that you are like two children, fighting for a thing or a toy. So, I wonder if you can give each other some time and space. If one day you find that you really don't want to argue and your heart is calm, let's sit together. Is it separation or reconciliation? The decision made at that time was the clearest and coolest. I asked them, "OK?" They said, "Well, whatever you say."

As long as I am willing to talk to you, even if it is a quarrel, I think there is still hope. Because I feel it, they are all saying that they have done a lot for each other, but the other party is ungrateful. I think this is because we can't express, especially love. So, love is in their hearts. Love is often calm. How can I feel that quiet love when quarreling? Love needs a good expression; Love needs more listening.

A listener named "this woman" left me a message and wrote this sentence: the way for adults to end a relationship is not to quarrel and collapse. But a silent alienation. Although I have been hammered in my heart for a long time, I am still quietly on the surface. Cherish when you meet, and put it down when you miss it.

Another listener said: When I was a child, I broke up with my friends and told everyone around me with great fanfare: "I won't play with you." And when I grow up, I leave, often in silence.

I quite agree with this view. People who leave after accumulating enough disappointment are silent. I am willing to talk to you because I care; Willing to talk to you is to open your heart and face life with you.

You say I listen, you listen to me, the most romantic thing, that's all.