Women who are willing to lend money to men (please cherish those who are willing to lend money to you)

At the beginning of the year, I lent some money to a friend. At that time, the Spring Festival is coming. I don't have much money on hand except for some money I need for the Spring Festival. Therefore, when my friend came to borrow money from me for the first time, I hesitated because I didn't have much money. If I lend it out, I may not even have emergency money.

But my friend was very anxious and told me a lot, which made me feel that if I didn't lend it to her, I would be a sinner. So, I took out the money that I needed to give my parents red envelopes at that time and collected some money for her. My friend was grateful and gave me a time to pay back the money.

However, now that half a year has passed, the money has not been returned to me. Occasionally ask a few words, there will be various reasons to refuse, or have no money, or pay back the money in these two days, and then go up in smoke. In short, we have been refusing, but we have not paid back the money, which hurts our feelings.

I told a friend about it, and my friend was in the same situation as me. She received a phone call from an old classmate last year. The old classmate needs 10 thousand yuan for something at home and wants to borrow it from a friend.

At that time, my friend was very pitiful after listening to her old classmates' words, and she had some savings in her hand, so she agreed to lend her money and then turned around. However, after the money was lent, the classmate never contacted his friends again. After half a year, my friend wants the other party to pay back the money. The other party cried first, and then promised to pay 500 yuan back in a month. But the promise was said, but it was not fulfilled. Later, a friend asked her once a month, but the other party didn't hack her, but she never answered.

My friend felt very disappointed and hurt. Obviously, he lent money to others with good intentions, but now he is like a person who borrows money from others with an open mind.

I think, now many people have encountered the same situation as us, kindly lending money to friends or relatives, but it turns out that it is easier to borrow money than to ask for it, which makes them afraid to lend money to others easily.

For those who borrow money, I also want to say: please cherish those who are willing to lend you money, so it is not difficult to borrow again. Borrowing money also requires empathy. Put yourself in others' shoes and think about what harm you will do to others if you don't pay back the money.

First, emotional harm

In fact, people nowadays lend money to others, largely because they feel that they have a good relationship with that person, and that the other person is trustworthy and sincerely helps the other person.

Under such circumstances, if the lent money is not returned, the psychology of the parties will be greatly hurt. Will question the integrity between people, but also doubt whether friends are trustworthy.

Second, the loss of money.

To tell the truth, it is not easy for anyone to make money now. No matter whose money it is, it is earned through the efforts and hard struggle of others. Even if it is a few hundred dollars, it may be hard earned, or it may be saved at ordinary times.

People are willing to lend you hard-earned money, but you don't pay it back. How chilling that family is. After all, such a sum of money may not be used by others at ordinary times.

In addition, I also want to suggest that you can't lend money to three kinds of people:

Borrow money repeatedly

Some people may be the type who often borrow money. They borrow money from that man today and borrow money from this man tomorrow. Or borrowed money a few months ago and finally paid it back. A few days later, I asked you to borrow a bigger one. It's best not to borrow this kind of people, because they are highly unstable and may take money and leave at any time.

Borrow money to pay debts

Some people borrow money not because of something, or because they are temporarily short of money. Instead, lend your money to repay others' money, or lose a lot of money at cards and use your money to pay off debts; Or borrowed online loans, unable to repay, can only start with friends. You can't borrow this type either, because if you borrow it, the day of paying back the money will follow.

Borrow some money

Many people may encounter such a situation, that is, some people will not borrow a lot of money, maybe one hundred or several hundred at a time. But the frequency of borrowing is relatively high. Or borrow a large sum from you, you say no, and the other party says a few hundred. People who are really in a hurry to spend money can't take all 100 yuan. What's more, hundreds of loans are not too much. If you want to make a payment, people will not think you are good, but they will think you are stingy.

Conclusion:

Nowadays, many people have a very negative feeling about lending money to others, thinking that lending money to friends is the beginning of the destruction of friendship between two people. This is actually related to many people borrowing money and not paying it back. Although friends help and support each other, it doesn't mean that you don't have to ask for anything in return.

So, please remember: others lend you money as trust, please don't betray others' trust.