What should children do if they eat their fingers?

Let me talk about Xiao Jing's experience in a stage of kindergarten.

Once after school, the kindergarten teacher told us that Xiao Jing likes to eat fingers these days, and she will help us correct him. We also need to pay attention.

Later, through some videos sent by kindergarten, we found that Xiao Jing's frequency of eating fingers or biting clothes corners increased significantly when facing unfamiliar environments and people. For example, when teaching a foreign teacher, he couldn't understand what the teacher said, and his classmates were not in their class. He often eats his fingers in class.

After about two or three months, the frequency of children eating their hands has been greatly reduced, and now they basically don't eat. I just occasionally bite my clothes when I am nervous in a strange environment.

Why can Xiao Jing "easily" overcome the bad behavior of eating hands? And it is without too much intervention from adults.

I think our attitude is very important.

When the teacher just told us that the child likes to eat his fingers, we didn't feel anxious and wanted to stop him from eating his hands at once. On the one hand, based on our tolerance for children, we feel that eating hands is not a big problem; On the other hand, we don't know why he eats his fingers and how to help him solve this problem.

When you don't know how to help your child change his bad behavior, the best way is not to rush to correct him. This is a very important principle, because once we get involved wrongly, it may cause an irreversible situation.

Now we know that he likes to eat his fingers when facing unfamiliar environment and pressure. This is a way for him to relieve stress, which helps him to relieve stress in a strange environment.

If the teacher tells us this question, we will, like enemies, keep asking him why he eats his hands and what is the harm, and we are eager to correct his problem of eating his hands. I think it is likely to cause more adverse consequences.

For example, he will solidify the fact that he likes to eat his hands, and the frequency of eating his hands may be more frequent; He will think that we don't understand him and will resist telling us that he ate his hand, thus alienating us; When he eats his hands in the face of strange environment and pressure, we say that he eats his hands, and it is difficult for him to relieve the pressure and have fear of strange environment. ...

As for so serious? Yes, the details of children's education are very important. If we ignore some details in the process of children's growth, many consequences are unwilling to bear.

Wrong behavior that parents should avoid.

Eating fingers, picking up things on the ground, not paying attention to hygiene, being shy, watching TV ... In my opinion, the daily phenomena of these children are not a problem. We can guide them consciously, and there is no need to stop them or correct their behavior immediately.

Take eating fingers as an example. Some parents are anxious to stop their children. First, they preach: "Eating fingers is unsanitary", "Eating fingers is ugly" and "Eating fingers will lead to finger dysplasia" ... Children will beat and scold if they don't listen, and even say, "I told you not to eat fingers, but you didn't listen."

The child picked up the things on the ground and stopped them: "Throw them away quickly", "The things on the ground are dirty" and "Why don't you say why?" ...

In the process of children exploring the world, curiosity is a very valuable quality. If we are always eager to stop the child, it will hinder his curiosity to explore the world. By doing this, parents are closing their children in their own cognitive world, and we will harm him.

Helping children correct bad behaviors starts with relaxing our mentality.