"Women want to marry rich people, which is my feeling after entering the delivery room. It is difficult to divorce now. " what do you think?

"No matter how life treats me, I am still the person who loved life at the beginning. I don't care every time I get hurt. I soothe my wounds bit by bit, pretending to be strong is the real strength. Later, while loving life, I gradually learned to love myself. "

When chatting with classmates, a newly divorced classmate said something similar. She has only been married for two years, and her marriage has encountered emotional problems. When her child was only 1 year old, her husband hooked up with another woman and made excuses not to go home all day. She has a strong personality and can't tolerate such things.

For her who believes in love, her husband broke her heart. Of course she knows that this kind of thing has two results, and the best result is divorce. She would rather raise the children alone than live with her husband again.

Even if her husband knelt down, even if her father-in-law swollen her husband's face, she would not forgive him. A few days later, she divorced, and the children were too young to be with her.

Seven months later, she remarried under the repeated entreaties of her ex-husband. After remarriage, her husband listened to her and never dared to mess around outside again. Although there was still a shadow in her heart, she gradually forgave him.

At the beginning of her remarriage, people often made fun of her and said that she was a brave woman.

She said: I am also afraid of divorce, and I can't take the initiative to turn back when I leave. Fortunately, this step is right, and I am not used to him.

First, mistakes in marriage must not be used to.

There are many hurdles in marriage, and everyone thinks that marriage is very simple in good times. It was not until the arrival of adversity that they suddenly discovered that every step in the future was not easy. Sometimes a wrong step can never be undone.

In the face of your lover's empathy, you can of course choose compromise and tolerance. Only this method also needs to be divided into people. The more you tolerate some people, the more they will push their luck until you can't retreat.

Therefore, if there are emotional problems in marriage, don't let nature take its course from the beginning. Every weakness and forgiveness will increase the difficulty of later recovery.

Many people who were wronged in marriage didn't find out until they were cornered that they had spoiled the ungrateful person. No amount of forgiveness can help, so I have to divorce in a gloomy mood.

I saw a long message from a lady who told me about her grievances in marriage. These days, she has been thinking about a question: if I don't divorce, how can I live a good future life after divorce?

In her story, in the fifth year of marriage, her husband gradually ignored her. Not only did he not take care of her as before, but he even occasionally asked her to fall in love. Every time the husband and wife are in a mood, her husband encourages her to go out and fall in love and find a more suitable person.

This lady is certainly not stupid. She thinks her husband has changed his mind and doesn't like himself. Later, she confirmed her guess and found a big head of a woman in her husband's wallet, as well as a photo of her and her husband. They seem to be very loving, and people who don't know may say they are husband and wife.

Seeing that a woman is more beautiful than herself, the lady cried with heartache. I have always suspected my husband, and now I finally see the "facts." She tore her head off in front of her husband, but he ignored her. Find a man who loves you if you have the ability.

On that day, my husband completely admitted: Don't cry, I didn't know you when I fell in love with her in high school. She is my ex-girlfriend. I beg you to understand me. Just pretend you don't know. If you are really wronged, just do as I said before. You can fall in love at will, I don't care. When you think you can get a divorce, I will leave you.

The lady said divorce on the spot, but when she saw that her husband still didn't care, she was afraid.

She said: I was scared by him for the first time and gradually spoiled him. Since then, I have become more and more passive.

Second, marriage is only a moment from happiness to sadness.

This lady is called Qinqin for the time being. She is 33 years old. Married for more than 8 years, 7-year-old child. Since she got married, she has been diligent and took care of her family, husband and children wholeheartedly. Although her marriage is still going on, life in her heart is getting harder and harder. She put up with her husband for three years, but he still didn't repent and let her fall in love.

Qinqin said: I want to say that when men are not at home, women's lives are the most bitter, as if they can't see the future. His heart is cruel. One moment my marriage was full of hope, and the next moment my hope turned into despair.

Some marriages, from happiness to sadness, are very easy, and sometimes it seems to be an instant thing. On weekdays, it is quite simple to say the word "divorce" casually. If you really want to decide to divorce, there will be a lot of disappointment.

Qinqin found that her husband gradually didn't care about himself. He used to be very concerned about Qinqin and called her his wife when he came home from work. But since he came into contact with the so-called "ex-girlfriend", this man has changed.

Kiss and say: he is not so polite. Of course, I mind very much. I don't understand what happened to him. He has always loved me since he got married. But that night he hugged me and asked me an unforgettable question. He said he wanted me to fall in love, and he blessed me no matter who I loved. He is ready to retire. He asked me if I dared. I thought he was crazy, so I pushed him away and told him to get out!

Qinqin was surprised, but seeing her husband's expression, she seemed very serious, as if there was something to hide from her. In the past, my husband never said malicious words, but later he gradually said that he didn't even want to hug her. He always lets her look in the mirror first.

Qinqin said: At first I thought my husband was testing whether I really loved him. I won't be angry with him. But he always urges me to fall in love. He really said that no matter what I do, I can find it anyway, but I have to tell him. I feel that he really went a little too far. How can a man say such a thing to his wife? Won't this make me make a mistake? I feel very sad in my heart. I feel that he is a little abnormal and may not love me. Later, I was so worried that I found someone else's photo post in the wallet I gave him when I was in love, and suddenly I understood everything.

Third, I have been hesitating whether to divorce.

Since Qinqin found another woman beside her husband, her love seems to have collapsed. Husband always satirizes her for looking in the mirror many times. It turned out that he didn't like that ugly piano.

She was only married for more than five years that year, but she didn't expect her relationship to collapse so soon. Even if Qinqin and her husband had a big fight, even if her husband admitted everything and agreed to divorce, Qinqin finally chose patience.

Qinqin said: He said that woman is his ex-girlfriend and has known me for a long time. I hope I can understand him. If not, I'll get a divorce. His ex-girlfriend is just his excuse, and I am his first girlfriend. He had no girlfriend before me. He doesn't look like someone who has been in love. In the year of love, he also said that I was his first love. How did I get an ex-girlfriend out of thin air?

Qinqin is full of sadness at the thought that her husband is still full of lies. She decided to divorce and asked her husband to take out the materials immediately and prepare to divide the property. She just said angry words, but she didn't expect her husband to do so. Kiss regressed when she saw the divorce agreement she drafted. The child is too young for her to bear.

If you don't get divorced just for the sake of your children, it's not all. Kissing is also for yourself. After all, I have loved him for so long that I don't know what to do once I am separated.

Qinqin said: I sat on the sofa crying that day and tore up the divorce agreement he drafted. His heart is too cruel. How could he leave my mother for that woman?

In the story of Qinqin, I am a thrifty woman. Since getting married, she has been reluctant to make a living with cosmetics. I didn't expect her own efforts to get this result. Of course she's upset.

Qinqin's husband has been in contact with that woman since that day. Qinqin certainly knows that she is not his ex-girlfriend at all, but she can't stop her husband from "loving" that woman. Whenever there is a conflict between husband and wife, the husband will file for divorce. He will tell Qinqin, I gave you a chance, you can look for it. Don't blame me for being cruel, you can't grasp it yourself.

Qinqin said: We were not rich before, but we really loved each other. I am willing to suffer with him. Later, not only was it not rich, but even love was gone. He spent a lot of money on that woman, regardless of our mother. Sometimes after crying, I will hesitate to divorce. I've had enough for three years. In recent days, I have been thinking, what's the point of this marriage?

Fourth, why do women want men with good families?

"Do I want a divorce?" This sentence used to be the most repeated sentence in many women's hearts. I always make up my mind because I have concerns that I can't let go. After a long time, people gradually become numb.

Today, Qinqin's husband is still dating that woman. Even if the rural roads are blocked recently, he always walks out of the village in the wheat field at night and goes to the town to see the woman. Going at least once a week, I don't care about this marriage more and more.

Maybe in the eyes of Qinqin's husband, Qinqin has become a dispensable person. Qinqin has realized this. She regretted forbearing again and again and spoiled her husband. He used to cry and apologize occasionally, but now he doesn't care about Qinqin's feelings.

I asked Qinqin: Since your husband did this to you, divorce may be a new beginning. It's not your fault for the divorce, he has to bear all the responsibilities. What are you afraid of? Why are you afraid of divorce? Can you tell me something?

Qinqin told a sad story, and she was worried about her children. As for herself, it doesn't matter now. With her consent, I summarized her story as follows:

People used to say that people want to marry rich people, and I always thought those people were naive. After three years of life, I realized that I was naive.

My husband's family is poor, and my parents-in-law are still unwilling to work, so they point to an acre and three points to live. That year I fell in love with him and chose love.

I went into the delivery room once before I realized my stupidity. On that day, I seemed to have walked through a gate of hell. My mother-in-law was afraid of spending money, regardless of my safety, and insisted on giving birth naturally, which made the doctor angry and swearing. Fortunately, fate took care of me and I survived. If my husband's family is rich, do I still have to suffer those hardships?

None of his family can live, and his brother has no wife. I deserve it. I married him because I thought he was handsome. Ever since I met that woman, he has always thought that I am ugly, and even he is dead.

If I get divorced, can my children live in this family? Their family won't let me take care of the children. what can I do?

Fifth, the husband is not sensible as a child.

Kiss and ask me: would you like to listen to me about the children? Then I'll tell you. Even if I can't express myself well, you must write for me.

The following is also the story of Qinqin. This is a woman who was defeated by love, the last trace of rationality in marriage.

Once my love made people envy and hate, even my husband's fake "ex-girlfriend" envied me, saying that I was so lucky to find such a handsome husband. She said I didn't deserve it, that I didn't know men as well as she did.

My sadness will last forever, and I also want a divorce. I once told him that we were going to get a divorce. You go to her, and it's time for me to fall in love and satisfy your wish.

The other day, my husband said that I finally understood and he agreed to let me fall in love. I don't know how much water he said. All I know is that this man is not worthy of my love. I want to be brave once and get divorced if I don't retreat.

I really wanted to fall in love and met a man who cared about me. I went to see him secretly. He is my type. We just met, and I didn't even hold hands, so I chickened out. I think of my children again. I can't do this. I can't go with him. I can't leave my child.

My child is 7 years old and very sensible, more sensible than his father. Because I can't go to work, I have no money to buy all the food at home. I don't want to spend the money I saved. It's for my children to go to school. But my husband refused to give me any more money, so he had to save on preparing a birthday present for that woman.

Do you know what my child said to me?

The child said, mom, don't cry. I have money here. This is my pocket money. Let's go shopping and buy some meat for dad.

I saw the child take out what he called money from a convenient bag. My nose was sour and I cried on the spot. The biggest one is one piece, only eight pieces, and the rest are ten cents and two pieces. All these add up to only fifteen dollars and three cents. I'm really sad, crying into tears.

What do you think a woman like me can do? How can I have the heart to divorce such a husband who can't live, and such a sensible child?

6. Some divorces are forced by circumstances.

I answered the kiss and chose something that could be sent out in the article.

I can probably understand your sadness. It's really sad that you have to stick to your marriage. But your husband had psychological problems from the beginning. It can't be wrong. Many such men have gone through a similar process, but later he lost control. ...

This kind of problem is probabilistic. As you said, he was insane from the beginning, and you were right. I guess it's your ambiguous attitude that makes him feel that his dream can come true and that you are willing to find a boyfriend. If you had been firm from the beginning, you wouldn't have done it.

Divorce is sometimes forced by circumstances and there is no choice. I can probably infer that your husband will really care about you again only if you are brave enough to divorce. Make a clear statement and get divorced. You don't have to worry about that.

Whether you have children or not, he will definitely ask you to remarry after the divorce. As you said, his brother is not married and his family conditions are not good, so as a divorced man, he will soon realize and understand your importance to the family.

If you can't worry about your children, try to fight for them. Don't take it for granted that their family won't give you children. When you really get divorced, maybe he will go back on his word immediately. Even if he doesn't go back on his word, he will regret it after the divorce.

If you can find someone more suitable, you can let him go and cut off contact completely. If you can't find it, or want to give your child a complete home, you can remarry. Of course, let him beg you, don't promise easily.

Qinqin admitted it. She said, yes, it was like this at the beginning. I promised him to fall in love. Seeing his seriousness, I really thought about it, which is why he forced me like this. You know, I dare not say that that woman may have a husband, and she is still pestering my husband. I'm really ashamed that you saw it. Excuse me, how can I say such a thing?

Seven, women should stick to the faith of love.

I didn't answer her. I hope she can be happy. As for whether she dares to divorce, it depends on her own choice. In short, she must understand that her husband is afraid to divorce.

I have a classmate whose job is to study and analyze this strange marriage problem. She also said that divorce might be her only option.

I remember a colleague and sister once said this to a lady: Youth is limited, don't be too greedy. Learn to let go of things that do not belong to you.

Give this sentence to her and make sure that your faith in love is right. Any deviant road will not bear fruit in the end.

As the saying goes, there are countless ways to overcome sadness, depending on whether you can relax and dare to test him once by playing hard to get.

There is a little rule in marriage and love. If you don't go your own way at the most suitable age, the road ahead will be more difficult. Seeing a person's appearance earlier, you can grasp your happiness earlier.