Letters from daughter-in-law to mother-in-law in the 1980s.

You are just my husband's mother. Before we got married, you meant nothing to my life.

My life comes from my parents, and today's education, ability, upbringing, and dealing with people are all handed down by my parents, and nothing is contributed by you. So I don't understand why once I get married, the number of years I have lived for more than 20 years will be zero, and then I will become the so-called "your family" and the "youngest" person in your family. I say "youngest" because my position in "your family" is always smaller than my 2-year-old son.

To tell the truth, I'm mentally unbalanced. My parents raised me for more than 20 years, and you are the result of their efforts for more than 20 years. Basically, you just get something for nothing, ready-made

So when I do something for you, you should thank my parents and my work. Forget it if you don't appreciate it. You shouldn't still have a big opinion of me. You are always finding fault with what I do with a magnifying glass. You find fault in eggs. This is just a deal.

I have my own job during the day and have always been financially independent. I don't have to rely on your son at all, and I haven't lived on your son's salary yet.

What's more, my ability to make a living today depends on my parents' education and my ability to keep learning and growing. So I can't stand it as if I have to contribute to "your family" for granted, and then spend my own money depending on your face. Damn it! I don't owe you, I don't need your support, and I haven't taken a dime from you. I can respect your opinion, but I can't let you decide. So now I'm going to tell you frankly:

I'm paying the electricity bill, so you can't complain if you sleep with the air conditioner on in hot summer. I have to go to work the next day, and the quality of sleep is very important to me.

There is also "Buddha wants gold clothes, and people want clothes." It is my business to buy several sets of clothes and shoes. Please remember that these are all my own money.

I have my own judgment on spending money. You have to take care of your son's money. I really don't want to look at your face and use my own money.

Besides, don't always think how great your son is. If I go out to work, do you think I can travel to a country for two weeks last year? Where did you get the money?

I often think that you really mean nothing to me. If you have any formal meaning to me, you are just my husband's mother. All your kindness and credit go to him. He is the one who wants to repay you. My parents are the only people who can make me repay you. Would you feel comfortable if my parents were so critical of your son today? And to what extent can your son meet their requirements?

So if you want to eat fruit in the future, please ask your son to cut it for you, because that's what he should do.

Let your son wash clothes, too. After all, you have washed his clothes for more than twenty years (I have never bothered you with a pair of socks).

If you want to see a doctor, ask him to get off work early and take you there. I don't want to keep being deducted from attendance. In addition, when I have a cold, you will sneer at my poor health, so when you are sick, I can't mention too much empathy.

In a word, he is right to be filial to you, and I will give back my filial piety to my parents who gave birth to me and raised me.

If you want me to help you, you should at least shut your critical mouth and be grateful, because I don't owe you anything. Because you are my husband's mother, that's all. Do you think you would have the honor if he were not my husband?

Besides, you should watch more news. Now is the "housework" era. Since you haven't given me the money, I'll help you and you can laugh!

Finally, if I write this letter to you, you will feel that I have disrespectful behavior, but people respect each other, and I get along with you on this basis. If you can't respect my feelings equally, even though I will make concessions for your elders, I still have to make the bottom line clear. You will say "a daughter-in-law should know the truth", but I'm here to refute you. I was never raised by you, and I don't owe you anything. I have shown the greatest tolerance and respect for you and me, and everything else to learn is on your side.

Grandma, respect others and respect yourself!