Zhang Yimou: Be filial to my 11-year-old mother-in-law calmly and calmly, you are my relatives

In 2013, actress He Jun was dissatisfied with being persuaded to quit the production of "The Thirteen Hairpins" and went to the media to expose director Zhang Yimou's death.

According to her, Zhang Yimou has three children in Wuxi City, none of whom have registered permanent residence and are classified as superborn children.

As soon as the news was exposed, it immediately caused an uproar.

Zhang Yimou’s status in China is self-evident, but few people mention his private life.

On the evening of December 1, 2013, Zhang Yimou, who had been silent for half a year, admitted that he and Chen Ting had three children, officially responding to the issue of extra-childhood.

With the appearance of Zhang Yimou, all the privacy of him, his wife and his family gradually surfaced.

His wife Chen Ting is 31 years younger than Zhang Yimou and only two years older than his daughter Zhang Mo.

Zhang Yimou is 11 years older than his mother-in-law, Chen Ting's biological mother, and 8 years older than his father-in-law.

How did Zhang Yimou face his mother-in-law who was 11 years younger than him in life, and how his parents-in-law agreed to marry their daughter to him.

In Zhang Yimou's life, there were three crucial women who had emotional entanglements with him.

His ex-wife Xiao Hua accompanied him through his unknown school days, gave birth to his daughter Zhang Mo, and then divorced;

Actor Gong Li followed him for eight years, during which they filmed together Many prestigious movies, but failed to wait for a marriage certificate;

In the end, Zhang Yimou was accompanied by Chen Ting, who was 31 years younger than him, and gave birth to two sons and a daughter, who will stay with him for the rest of his life. .

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In 1979, Zhang Yimou, who was jumping the queue to go to the countryside, met his ex-wife Xiao Hua and fell in love with her at first sight.

Xiao Hua was born into a scholarly family. As they slowly got along with him, he was impressed by Zhang Yimou's talent.

But at that time, Zhang Yimou was just a poor boy herding cattle, with no money and no appearance.

Xiao Hua's father was furious when he learned the news that the two were in love, and ordered his daughter never to associate with him again.

And in order to make him give up, he also told him that his daughter was being pursued by three other boys.

The deeply affectionate Zhang Yimou did not want to give up this relationship, so he wrote his feelings for her into a 50-page love letter.

Maybe it was because he was moved by his deep affection, maybe because he cherished his talent, in short, Xiao Hua finally chose to marry him.

After marriage, Xiao Hua became the head of the family, taking care of all the family affairs, and was even more considerate of Zhang Yimou.

Once Zhang Yimou had a fever, Xiao Hua took care of him sleeplessly for several days, and did not go to work until his condition improved.

Shortly after getting married, Zhang Yimou was admitted to the Beijing Film Academy and began to study photography.

Going to college requires a lot of expenses. The reason why Zhang Yimou was able to study at school with peace of mind after getting married was simply impossible without Xiao Hua's support.

Later he came into contact with movies and became active as an actor.

Luck and talent allowed Zhang Yimou to win many awards after filming his first film.

In 1986, his film "Old Well" was released, and the film won him three Best Actor Awards.

In 1987, his debut film "Red Sorghum" was released and won the country's first Golden Bear Award.

Talented people can shine no matter what they do.

However, Zhang Yimou, who had a smooth career, gradually lost patience with his wife.

After giving birth to his daughter Zhang Mo, Xiao Hua focused entirely on his family.

After years of living as a housewife, she has long been out of touch with society, and her husband has less common language.

In addition, Zhang Yimou and Gong Li were in love at the time, and they had the same pursuit and topic of movies.

Finally, in the tenth year of marriage, Xiao Hua had no choice but to let go and give her husband the freedom to pursue love.

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Gong Li should be the most beautiful among all Zhang Yimou’s girlfriends.

She is also the person who best understands Zhang Yimou’s film art and pursuit.

Since 1987, Gong Li has become Zhang Yimou’s favorite heroine. In his shots, Gong Li has a different kind of charm.

The brave and courageous Jiu'er, Ju Dou who works hard to live, Song Lian who is unwilling to bow to fate but is eventually assimilated and even crushed by the culture of the compound, Qiu Ju who has a clear love and hate but has to struggle. , and the Juxian who has fallen into prostitution but is full of national justice...

Under Zhang Yimou's lens, Gong Li can always find the side that suits her best. It is he who has discovered her most unique beauty. , and the spiritual power that belongs exclusively to women at the bottom.

However, the two people who are so compatible at work have not yet gotten married.

Rather than saying that their views on marriage are different, it is better to say that apart from their appreciation of each other's talents, there is always a lack of love.

In short, after filming the last scene of "Grandma Bridge" in 1995, Gong Li angrily announced her breakup with Zhang Yimou.

In eight years, Gong Li spent her best youth in exchange for being ruthlessly abandoned by the other party.

Gong Li is looking forward to a status, otherwise she would not be willing to stay by Zhang Yimou's side for eight years.

It is said that during the relationship between the two, Gong Li's brother had several detailed discussions with his prospective brother-in-law just to discuss marriage matters.

But every heart-to-heart conversation only resulted in the question "Is the marriage certificate really that important?"

After the two broke up, Gong Li's mother was unhappy and hinted that Zhang Yimou was unwilling to make a commitment and did not want to give up the life of a prodigal son.

The second year after the breakup, she married Huang Hexiang, and the two stayed together for thirteen years.

And Zhang Yimou finally welcomed his wife, Chen Ting, who is 31 years younger than him.

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In 1999, while Zhang Yimou was preparing for "Happy Time", he fell in love at first sight with Chen Ting who came to audition.

Chen Ting’s hometown is in Wuxi, Jiangsu Province, and she was in her first year of college at the Beijing Film Academy when she auditioned.

Anyone who meets a respected senior who has won numerous awards will be very excited, and Chen Ting is no exception.

After experiencing the ups and downs, Zhang Yimou also developed a different kind of emotion when facing this innocent girl who had not been infiltrated by society.

Chen Ting is the only daughter in the family, and her parents are ordinary workers.

Although his family background is not good, he grew up with the love of his parents.

According to the memories of her classmates, she was the first girl in the class to own a Walkman during her school days.

Perhaps it was the enlightened upbringing of her parents that created her bold character, or perhaps it was because she had never been exposed to the dark side of the world. In short, Chen Ting confirmed her relationship without discussing it with her parents.

After 19-year-old Chen Ting established a relationship with Zhang Yimou, she soon discovered that she was pregnant.

Still a child after all, Chen Ting had no choice but to have a showdown with her parents. The worried Chen Ting parents followed their daughter to Beijing, intending to have a good talk with their prospective son-in-law.

Facing an internationally renowned director, the two old men, who rarely go out, were somewhat frightened.

Moreover, the other party is so much older than them. Not only is it a matter of seniority, but it is also difficult to speak even when it comes to addressing them.

Zhang Yimou probably saw the embarrassment of the two, and was the first to say that he sincerely wanted to date their daughter.

As for the age issue, as long as you truly love each other, you can transcend time. Moreover, he is older than Chen Ting, has experienced more than her, and can easily protect her from wind and rain.

As for the title, you can call it whatever you want.

Although one is 11 years younger than me and the other is 8 years younger than me, they are still father-in-law and mother-in-law.

After getting married, they become their own relatives, and they should be filial to them, which makes them feel calm and at ease.

After a careful and sincere conversation, Chen Ting's parents finally opened their hearts and decided to entrust their daughter to the man in front of them.

In 2001, Chen Ting, who was in her first year of college, chose to drop out of school and go home to give birth to Zhang Yisheng’s first son.

And in 2004 and 2006, they gave birth to a son and a daughter respectively.

In order to avoid unnecessary influence, Chen Ting did not obtain a marriage certificate from Zhang Yimou.

The three children she gave birth to became "little black children."

None of the three children applied for household registration in time, so schooling became the biggest problem.

Zhang Yimou sent his two sons back to his wife’s hometown of Wuxi. After each paying a loan fee of 30,000 yuan, they went to kindergarten on loan.

Because the youngest daughter is too young, she has been living and studying in Beijing since she was born.

The three children were never allowed to mention who their father was in school.

The children's teachers have never met the children's father, or even know that they have a father.

Even if a family of five goes shopping, there must be a distance of more than 300 meters between the children and their father.

It was not until December 2011 that Zhang Yimou and his wife Chen Ting obtained a marriage certificate in order to register their children.

As a celebrity, Zhang Yimou did not use his privileges when registering his children.

It was the 11th census at that time. As long as the couple brought their marriage certificate, they could go through the registration procedures for the extra children.

Because of this, the three "little black kids" finally got their hukou.

Chen Ting herself was not idle during the period of giving birth.

She still has a lot of youth, and she doesn’t want to waste her time on daily necessities.

After giving birth to her eldest son, she went on to college; after giving birth to her second son, she was admitted to graduate school.

In addition to continuing to complete her studies, Chen Ting also learned musical instruments such as cello and guzheng.

And accompanied her daughter to learn ballet together.

As Mrs. Zhang, Chen Ting seems to be living a pretty good life.

A woman who can remain anonymous for more than 10 years is probably the type Zhang Yimou has been looking for.

After Zhang Yimou’s death incident was exposed, Chen Ting and her three children finally had their names.

Zhang Yimou also dares to talk about his family in public.

When participating in "Crossover Ice and Snow King", Chen Ting took her little daughter Jiaojiao to cheer Zhang Yimou.

Although Chen Ting's appearance is a little ordinary, she looks like the type who knows how to get along.

Daughter Jiaojiao is exactly like her mother, putting on skates and skating on the ice in style.

Chen Ting opened her own Weibo, and the certification said "Zhang Yimou's wife Chen Ting".

She can finally appear in front of everyone openly, and her children can finally be in the same frame as their father openly.

Most of Chen Ting’s Weibo posts are related to Zhang Yimou’s work.

Daily work vlog on the set, promotion of new movies, and congratulations on box office records.

Occasionally, I will post some daily life, such as what I saw when I went out to play, or photos of my children’s life.

The eldest son Zhang Yinan followed in his father's footsteps and won the "Best Director" award at the age of 19.

In the family portrait posted by Chen Ting, the three children have grown up and their appearance has taken after their father.

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After Zhang Yimou and his wife Chen Ting established their relationship, he bought Chen Ting’s parents a villa in their hometown.

The neighbors in my hometown only knew that the daughter of this family married in Beijing, but they never knew what the son-in-law looked like.

In order to keep the son-in-law's secret, Chen Ting's parents did not even tell their relatives the truth.

After their daughter Chen Ting gave birth to her eldest son, her parents felt sorry for their 19-year-old daughter and went to Beijing to take care of her during the confinement period.

Chen Ting’s parents also helped take care of the next two children during their confinement period.

When the two grandsons went to school in Wuxi, they were both picked up and dropped off by the old couple.

After the incident was exposed in 2013, neighbors finally knew who the son-in-law of the Chen family was.

What followed was countless rumors.

After all, the daughter is 31 years younger than the son-in-law, and the mother-in-law is 11 years younger than the son-in-law, which is still difficult to accept in Wuxi customs.

The parents of the Chen family faced such rumors all day long, and their lives were greatly affected.

Fortunately, the two grandsons soon transferred to Beijing to study, and the old couple also came to live in Beijing.

The father-in-law and mother-in-law shared most of the household chores and the parenting process for Zhang Yimou.

When several children had fevers when they were young, the old couple and their daughter took turns taking care of them, and they also went to the hospital together.

As a well-known director, Zhang Yimou has a heavy task and is often stuck on the set without being able to go home.

Sometimes I am so busy that I am away from home for several months. Father Chen and Mother Chen accompany their daughter to take care of the house.

Father Chen and mother Chen would affectionately call Zhang Yimou "Director Zhang" and take care of him like their own son.

Due to his long-term life as a film crew, Zhang Yimou suffered from the root cause of his illness. His back started to hurt when it was cloudy and rainy.

His father-in-law bought him a large grilling lamp and asked him to remember to grill it and relax his back when he was on the set.

Zhang Yimou can’t tolerate spicy food, so his mother-in-law immediately remembered that he never uses chili pepper in his daily cooking.

Director Zhang’s work and rest schedule is irregular. He is busy for several days without leaving home, and it is common for him to return home late at night.

His mother-in-law would remember to leave the door open for him, and then prepare delicious meals for midnight snacks.

Living under the same roof all year round, Zhang Yimou gradually adapted to the care of the two elderly people.

He usually calls each other "Mom and Dad" and regards the two of them as his elders from the bottom of his heart.

He once said that they were relatives and would provide for them in their old age.

During the holidays, even if you cannot accompany your family to dinner, you will still send holiday gifts in time.

Sometimes when he is too busy, he will remind his wife to go out with his parents and he will pay for it.

He readily accepted the care of his father-in-law and his mother-in-law and his contribution to the family.

He also calmly provided food, clothing, housing and transportation to his father-in-law and mother-in-law, and watched their three children grow up together with them.

My mother-in-law will also go to the theater in person to buy tickets to support Director Zhang's new movie.

Dressed in bright and fashionable clothes, it is completely impossible to tell that she is an old lady who is about to turn 60 years old.

Although Zhang Yimou is 11 years older than his mother-in-law and 8 years older than his father-in-law, Zhang Yimou still provides filial piety as his son-in-law and the family leads a peaceful and warm life.