What about the mother-in-law?

Dealing with people requires skill, not to mention getting along with "natural enemies" like daughter-in-law and mother-in-law. When you get along with your mother-in-law, you should remember what you should do and what you should avoid. The following is the correct way for me to get along with my mother-in-law. I hope it helps you! It is not easy to accept the unchangeable and change an old stubborn mind. At this time, we must learn to adapt and learn to empathize. Many times, there are different views on one thing, such as the way to take care of children and the concept of consumption, but there is not necessarily a question of who is right or wrong. At this time, you might as well think about her from the perspective of your mother-in-law, and don't think that everything you think is right. As long as you have this idea, it is actually a wrong start. In life, adaptation is the greatest wisdom and ability. Changing an unacceptable daughter-in-law should adapt to her mother-in-law and look at the problem from her mother-in-law's point of view, but not everything should be like this. There must be something wrong with some old people's practices. At this time, the daughter-in-law can't let go, such as the education of children. Old people tend to spoil their children. At this time, we must bravely adhere to the principle and find ways to change the concept of the elderly. After all, the times are different, and the elderly should keep pace with the times. Don't just care about the old man's face, just forget it. In the end, letting unreasonable expectations be zero will hurt children. When a new family is established, both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will expect something from each other, but there is always a gap between ideal and reality. The more expectations, the greater disappointment. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should allow each other not to like themselves, and allow each other to have different ideas and ways of handling things. Besides, good communication is also very necessary. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may wish to inform each other of their taboos and bottom line from the beginning. Let your mother-in-law know what habits and shortcomings you have, and show her sincerity that you will pay more attention in the future. At the same time, you can also take the initiative to ask your mother-in-law, what she likes about you, what she hates about you and what she expects from you. Knowing this can avoid many contradictions in the future. Understand that the other daughter-in-law should be considerate of the elderly, and understand that the elderly can't think exactly the same as the young people; Mother-in-law should also be considerate of her daughter-in-law, treat her children equally and care more about her daughter-in-law. It is normal for husband and wife to be close, but don't ignore the elderly, think more and comfort them, and don't let them feel lonely and lonely. But even if the daughter-in-law takes care of her husband and her mother-in-law, her mother-in-law should think like this: "It is a good thing for young couples to be intimate." Never quarrel. Under no circumstances should mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel. If one party gets angry, the other party has to put up with it for a while and talk about it later. If there is a quarrel, it will inevitably expand the contradiction and be more difficult to reverse. After several quarrels and stereotypes, it is more difficult to reconcile. Don't tell your neighbors, relatives and friends if you have any complaints. Have the opportunity to talk openly between the two sides, or your son will seriously convey it. As an experienced person, the mother-in-law can't help but give advice to her son and daughter-in-law in marriage, work and raising children as an elder. As a daughter-in-law, be objective. If you think your mother-in-law is right, you should praise her more. If you don't want to take her advice, don't say "mother-in-law is wrong" directly, but imply that "I'm doing fine" through practical actions. How can a daughter-in-law respect her mother-in-law Is to keep a certain distance Many daughters-in-law don't understand this truth. They think that I am as kind to my mother-in-law as my mother, but it often backfires. Because your mother-in-law is not your mother, you can be spoiled, angry and even wild in front of her, okay? Absolutely not! Because you're not the piece of meat that fell from her. The ancients used "respect each other as guests" to describe loving couples. I don't think it is accurate to describe the relationship between husband and wife, but it is very appropriate to use it in the harmonious mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is different from that of ordinary friends. Don't expect the other party to open up to you and solve the problem after the problem happens. Always take the initiative to ask each other and express your thoughts and love. Mother-in-law should learn to let go. There is no mother in the world who doesn't love her son. But there is a limit to everything. Excessive care and interference will make a son mentally immature and mentally unsound. Mom should understand that all love in this world is based on aggregation. Only parents love their children in order to make them independent as soon as possible. Mothers should learn to let their sons grow up independently, make decisions independently and live independently. This is the greatest love for your son! The economy should be independent and stable. Family income, mother-in-law can't take care of it. This does not mean that she absolutely controls her husband's economy and manages him, but that she can't let her husband feel bound. This degree must be well grasped. Don't argue with your mother-in-law No matter what conflicts occur, you can keep silent, but don't argue with your mother-in-law, because it won't do you any good except annoy your mother-in-law and husband. No matter how tough and unruly your mother-in-law is, she is also her mother, just like your child is not good at all, but if outsiders really say that he is not good, you will always be unhappy. Be generous to your mother-in-law, but don't be stingy. Whether it is at ordinary times or during the Chinese New Year holidays, gifts and small money should be kept. You always give her things and money, and she will be better to you gradually. Don't speak ill of your mother-in-law in front of your husband. Don't speak ill of your mother-in-law behind her back. No matter what you say is unreasonable, your husband will be unhappy. It is also unwise to get angry with your mother-in-law and then give her husband a hard time. It's more useful for you to pretend to be poor than to give him a look.