What should I do if my child has poor academic performance?

Cultivate children's happy personality

Happiness is not only a mood, but also a "character". Happy mood has ups and downs, while happy personality is relatively stable. Happy personality can be cultivated in the following ways:

Intimate relationship with children. Knowing how to get along with others and live in harmony with others is an important condition for children to grow up. Parents can't completely control their children's social life, but they can guide their children how to get along with others through their close relationship with them. Parents can try to arrange their children to play with other children, such as participating in game activities of children of the same age, or taking their children to the playground to play with children; It would be better if children's friends can be invited to play at home at any time. Parents should also help their children develop an attitude of putting themselves in others' shoes. Sometimes, it's a good idea for children to talk about family members and things, and how people might feel in stories or TV programs.

Give children the opportunity and power to make decisions. Parents should try their best to give their children opportunities to know how to use their decision-making power from an early age. You see, at home, children can't control anything, from what to eat for dinner, what TV programs to watch, what to buy at home, and whether to go to the Children's Palace for training courses. Therefore, their childhood may not be as happy as adults think. In fact, it is an important aspect to let children make some choices freely, such as letting 2-year-old children eat tomatoes instead of cucumbers, or letting 6-year-old children watch a TV program allowed by their parents. As the child grows up, he will decide more important things by himself and be happier.

Teach children perseverance. To let children know that some people are happy all their lives, the secret lies in having a highly adaptive psychological state, which can make them quickly cheer up from disappointment. When a child is frustrated, parents should let him know that any difficulty will turn for the better and the future will always be bright, and teach the child to pay attention to adjusting his psychological state and restoring a happy mood. If there is an irreversible situation after children's efforts, parents should help their children find ways to comfort themselves, such as listening to music, reading books and talking to others.

Cultivate children's broad interests. Happy people can be happy in many ways. A child may be unhappy all night because he missed his favorite TV program; But another child with a wide range of interests, on the contrary, will read books or play games and enjoy himself. Parents should pay attention to their children's hobbies at ordinary times, provide them with choices of various interests, and give them necessary guidance. Children have a wide range of interests and hobbies, and naturally have a happy personality.

Maintain a happy and harmonious family life. Family harmony is also a major factor in cultivating children's happy personality. Some data show that children who grow up in happy families live happier lives as adults than children who grow up in unhappy families. So parents should do what they think can make people happy and explain to their children why they feel happy. The expert said: "It is very important to remember the happy days before and make it clear that the pursuit of happiness is your goal in life."

Second, how to "moderately" praise children

In order to make praise produce better educational effect, parents should accurately grasp the scale of praise in the process of regulating their children's behavior, that is, praise should be moderate.

1. When praising, dad should show his feelings moderately. Some parents are eager for their children's success, and their children will be ecstatic and full of praise if they make a little progress. Over time, it will inevitably encourage children's complacency. Other parents always hate iron for their children. Although they saw that their children had made great progress, in order not to make their children proud, they held back their inner joy and said nothing, whether in words or actions. Often, it will inevitably dampen children's initiative. The correct way is: when praising children, attach great importance to the role of feelings and try to be moderate. Sometimes a gentle smile to your child will remind you of many compliments that are difficult to play.

2. The contrast between praise and criticism should be moderate. Praise not only has the function of encouragement and guidance, but also has the function of criticism. For example, praise for A is a criticism of B in a sense. Some parents always praise others' children too generally in order to urge their children to make progress. After a long time, it will undoubtedly make your children lose confidence or have resistance.

3. The way of praise should be "real" and moderate. Evaluate children fairly and accurately. However, as a multifunctional means of educating children, praise can be used flexibly, that is, under the premise of seeking truth from facts, a little "virtual" content is allowed. The "virtual" here mainly refers to two aspects: one is the moderate exaggeration of the facts. For example, children "sweep the floor" in the yard just for fun. Mom and dad know this and don't have to tell the truth. They should praise his love of labor in time. This kind of exaggeration is beneficial and harmless, because it is not only an affirmation of children's correct behavior, but also lets children know that labor is a virtue. The second is the expectation of children's future. For example, children are not good at art homework. Every time I paint in kindergarten, my children always feel inferior. Mom and dad can say, "You haven't mastered the method yet. As long as you draw carefully according to the teacher's requirements in the future, you will draw very well! " Although this kind of encouragement transcends reality, it is essential for children. The key is to grasp the degree of "truth and falsehood" in praise. To this end, in the praise of false content, we should pay attention to three points: first, it should be conducive to improving children's self-confidence; The second is to be divorced from reality; Third, we should point out the direction for our children.

No matter how rich you are, you can't get rich.

"No matter how poor you are, you can't be poor in education, and you can't suffer children." This public service advertisement has been deeply rooted in people's hearts now. It is worth mentioning that the original intention of this sentence is to try to optimize the educational environment and improve the teaching conditions. In fact, the living and learning conditions of children in some gradually affluent areas, especially some wealthy families, are not what they used to be. They are not too bad, but too good. They are too arrogant to make progress, and people of insight have to exclaim: "No matter how rich you are, you can't get rich!"

What's more, the mouth is full of food, and the food is not tired; It is quite shocking to say that the school supplies used by these rich children are becoming more and more upscale: a box of mechanical pencil in 40 yuan is very popular, a pencil-box in 50 yuan is normal, a small schoolbag in 200 yuan is not surprising, and a series of books in 300 yuan are also very common. According to the clerk, high-priced products are not unsalable now, but cheap products are rarely sought after, and high-end products have become "fashion".

With high-end stationery, can academic performance follow? Some generous young parents believe that their children should never be allowed to suffer as they did when they were young, now that their living standards have improved. Other children have it, and their own children have to have it. As everyone knows, instead of loving children, it will harm children in the long run. In the embryonic stage of children's personality formation, it is true love for children and inexhaustible spiritual wealth to let them suffer some setbacks, spend less money, do more things and gradually enhance their sense of self-reliance. In this way, children feel that life is not easy, cherish the fruits of their parents' labor and stimulate the spirit of hard work and enterprising, which is good for their future. Rockefeller, an American oil tycoon, is the richest man in the world, with assets of $654.38+0 billion, but his pocket money for children is very tight. Wang Yongqing, the king of Formosa Plastics, asked his children to go to bed early and get up early, and not to waste money 1. It's so rich and cold that people clap their hands.

Success comes from thrift, failure comes from luxury, and luxury should stop at a young age. It is gratifying that parents are hardworking and rich; However, if children also become "rich", they cannot but arouse people's vigilance.

Fourth, some signals worthy of parents' attention.

Generally speaking, with loving parents and harmonious families, most children will naturally adapt to the school environment. But you can't just assume that everything is all right. Because primary school students' body and mind are easy to change, parents should always pay attention, especially those signals that can cause trouble.

"Hate school performance" is a very noteworthy signal. Maybe all the children will say bad things about the school, such as "our school playground sucks!" " ""That computer classroom is really too small. It is really boring for two people to share a computer. " And "the exercise books issued by the school are too poor." "and so on. It doesn't matter if the child is only unhappy occasionally, or because he doesn't talk, other classmates will think he is strange. However, if he often shows this way and shows great pain, it is worthy of parents' attention. In this case, parents should quickly find out the reason so as to remedy it. For example, Lingling, a first-year student, was very happy in the first month of school. When she comes home from school, she often says to her parents, "I became friends with XXX again today", "The teacher asked me to answer questions again today", "The teacher praised me" and so on. A month later, at dinner, she suddenly said, "It's good to be like grandma, so you don't have to go to school!" " "Her parents didn't care at first. Later, I found that Lingling said this almost every day, and she was obviously dissatisfied with the school. In this regard, Lingling's parents dare not neglect and immediately contact the school teacher. Through contact, they know that the reason why children are unhappy is that their pinyin pass exam results are not ideal. So they bought Lingling a box of Chinese Pinyin and helped her read and write Pinyin at home. Soon, the child's pinyin passed, and she was happy again.

It is inevitable that children will do something against the rules at school. Once this happens, the school teacher will inform the parents in time in the form of writing, telephone call or home visit. Be sure to pay attention to the "notice of foul" issued by the teacher to the parents. Never think of reasons to forgive your children or be partial to your children. The teacher issued a "notice of foul" not to threaten parents, nor to let parents know the teacher's difficulties. The "foul notice" issued by the teacher often contains some information about why the child is like this and how to help the child correct the bad behavior. For example, Xiaohui's teacher said in a home visit: "Your Xiaohui bit someone when he was fighting with his classmates at school. I asked him why he bit people. He said,' My mother said that if my classmates hit me, he would still hit me instead of biting me'. I think this is the child's nonsense (this is the teacher to take care of the parents' face). However, I hope that parents can emphasize to their children that there is something to find a teacher. "

Perhaps "poor grades" is self-evident. Most parents are very concerned about their children's academic performance, but unfortunately they pay too much attention. Whenever there is an exam at school, the first thing parents say when they see their children is "How many points did they get?" ? How do you rank in the class? "As a result of this excessive attention, children only study for grades. Children with good grades are ambitious, while children with poor grades look depressed. For children with poor grades, we must first look at whether the children work hard. If the child doesn't study hard, parents and teachers need to cooperate and try to make him study hard; If the child has really done his best (which can be learned from the teacher) and his homework is still not good, then he should study hard and find out the reasons before he can remedy it. If children don't want to study at all, they should try their best to remedy it.

Five factors affecting children's performance

One day, I received a phone call, and the other end of the phone was the anxious and helpless voice of my parents: "My child is in the seventh grade, but it is difficult to get grades." I'm so worried about me and the baby! We can't sleep every night! My hair has turned white! But to no avail! Tell me, what the hell is going on? Why can't children get up in grades? "

Yes, as parents, we always hope that our children can get 100, but things are often unsatisfactory. Children's grades can't go up, and parents can't open their eyebrows!

Therefore, if parents can understand some factors that affect their children's grades, they can make themselves more aware of the reasons for their poor grades, and then take more appropriate and targeted methods to help their children improve their grades.

The factors that affect children's academic performance are:

(A), the child's psychological pressure

In fact, some children do not get good grades, not because they are all thumbs, but because their parents give him too much psychological pressure. Many parents, when their children's grades are not good enough to meet the established requirements or standards, always show their emotions in front of their children-anxiety, anger, disappointment, discouragement ... In fact, these will bring great psychological pressure to their children.

Children are always sad and even discouraged when their academic performance is not good. Some children, especially those with poor economic conditions at home, still feel sorry for their parents. Some parents always say to their children, "Why are you so stupid?" ? Look at others, how good and great they are! Why did you fail the exam? Stupid! "So children will begin to doubt their abilities and give themselves a psychological hint of' I can't'. His sense of inferiority and guilt is getting stronger and stronger. Academic performance is even more difficult.

Therefore, parents should give more encouragement to their children at home and make them believe in their abilities, thus reducing their psychological pressure, enhancing their self-confidence and making them study better.

(B), children's learning methods

Some children's poor academic performance is not due to laziness. On the contrary, many children study very hard and want to spend all their time on their studies, but even though they spend so much time, they always fail. In fact, this situation is often because children have not mastered better learning methods.

As parents, we should get in touch with teachers more to understand their children's learning situation at school, and ask teachers to suggest learning methods that children can apply, so as to refer to the methods put forward by teachers and combine their actual level and study habits to sum up the unique learning methods that are most suitable for children.

At the same time, it is necessary to understand the basic situation of children's learning. For example, some children can hardly understand what the teacher is saying in class because of their poor foundation and poor grades. In this case, it is necessary to help children to make up from the most basic content, and at the same time help teachers to make progress. At the same time, it is necessary to tell children what the teacher said in class. Don't let the children just "fill the loopholes" and let them know some new knowledge, especially when the new knowledge has little to do with the previous knowledge. Encourage and help children to master new knowledge. Otherwise, children can only "make up" endlessly over and over again.

Some children's grades in school are not very bad, but their grades just can't be raised, and parents are very anxious. In this case, parents should know the child's real level-not the result of passing the exam, but how well he usually does his homework, how many are right, whether he can do difficult problems, and so on. If children can't play their level normally in the examination room because they are afraid of exams and other reasons, they should be encouraged to believe in themselves and help them face the exams with a relaxed attitude. Perhaps, in the near future, you will find that my children get such good grades!

(3) Children's interests and hobbies

In addition, some children have poor academic performance, not because they are "stupid", but because they think learning is "boring" and "not fun". Their hobbies are not above this, so they don't study well.

For example, some children draw very well! His paintings can win prizes in cities and provinces, but the result is that he and his parents "can't lift their heads". When talking about his paintings, mom and dad proudly straightened up and shouted loudly, but don't mention academic achievements. As soon as they mentioned this achievement, they began to "silence is golden", bent over and lost their voices.

Therefore, for such a smart boy, first of all, you should tell him that you can get such good grades, on the other hand, it is enough to prove that you are smart and can learn well! Only in this way can he have enough confidence to study. Secondly, we should combine his existing hobbies and cultivate his interest in learning.

There are also some children who are "biased" and only like one course. And I like this course very much, which can be the first in my class, the first in my grade, and even the first in the whole school. But other subjects are just like myrrh, so much worse. Similarly, parents should start with his favorite course to help their children develop interest in other subjects, or combine this course to tell him the connection between other subjects and this one, so that he can understand the importance of other subjects and start studying other courses seriously.

Above, we have given some factors that affect children's academic performance and targeted small methods. I hope it will help improve children's grades. We just want to draw a brick to attract jade. At the same time, you are welcome to tell us your opinion or some ways to educate your children yourself.

How to correct children's inattention

According to the survey, "children's inattention" is a headache for many parents. To correct this problem, we can start with children's health, personality and family environment.

Studies have shown that the degree of children's distraction is inversely proportional to their age: at the age of two, the average attention span is seven minutes; Four years and 12 minutes, five years and 14 minutes. The older a child is, the more he will gradually know how to focus on important things and increase the time of concentration. Therefore, judging whether a child is focused or not should be based on the length of attention of his age, not on the subjective feelings of his parents.

Children's inattention is usually manifested in two situations: first, attention floats, and the focused target will often shift; Second, absent-minded, often immersed in daydreaming, forget the immediate things. The latter is actually not a child with inattention, but his attention is misplaced. As long as parents correct them with their heart and let them turn their minds to the main things, they will often have amazing performance and achievements. There are many reasons for inattention. Physiologically, if the child is unwell, the police force or perception is underdeveloped, he is naturally active, and there is something wrong with the nervous system or brain micro-function, there will be inattention. These conditions must be examined and treated by doctors. In addition, lack of psychological security and self-confidence, excessive dependence, lack of patience or emotional distress are also the reasons for inattention. Most of these situations are caused by educational methods and growth environment. In addition to solving physical problems, parents should also realize that concentration is actually a behavior habit that can be trained, studied and cultivated. Therefore, while complaining about children's inattention, we should also reflect on ourselves. For example, children playing games are concentrating on cultivating the habit of concentration. At this time, parents must not disturb, interfere or interrupt at will. Usually, parents can properly match the game time with their daily life, designate a fixed corner to play games, arrange the environment in an orderly way and reduce children's distraction. Parents should not ask their children to do things that are not interesting or beyond their ability. In order to prevent them from escaping the criticism of adults by constantly changing their activities.

In addition, the atmosphere at home must be stable, avoiding moving frequently, and there are too many people coming and going at home. Don't buy too many toys and books for your children at the same time; Make them glance left and right, at a loss, unable to cultivate the habit of being careful, patient, repetitive and focused on one thing.

Parents should set an example and show concentration, persistence and patience. Once you find that your child is paying attention, you should encourage and praise him.

For young children, you can start with telling a story and increase the number to train. As for older children, they are encouraged to do interesting and competent jobs, and when they finish one thing, they start to do another, and the time invested is gradually increasing. In addition to reminding yourself not to be distracted, parents should also show a kind attitude. As long as these methods are adopted, children's inattention can be improved.

How to make children feel at ease to do their homework

After the children entered school, some parents began to have a headache: many children could not do their homework with peace of mind. Although some children seem to be sitting there quietly doing their homework, they are actually wandering around and absent-minded; Other children do their homework as if they are running an endless long-distance race, from school to home until midnight, but the quality of their homework is still very low, full of loopholes and mistakes. Parents who want their children to succeed are worried.

Therefore, they have come up with various countermeasures to change this phenomenon. For example, take a strict "discipline" approach: if you don't finish your homework correctly, you are not allowed to eat, sleep, watch TV or ... some parents just sit next to their children and supervise them, and even use corporal punishment. However, in fact, these measures have had little effect.

So, how can we deal with this situation of children? This requires parents to take targeted measures according to their children's psychological characteristics, not to be rude and not to be eager for success. Among them, the following points should be noted:

1, to create a good family learning atmosphere.

To let children study with peace of mind, parents must first settle down by themselves. They can read books, newspapers and do things that interest children without making any noise. It is far more effective to create a quiet and good learning atmosphere for children than to sit by and supervise them. Parents should understand the truth that "example is more important than words". Children still don't know what to study for. They can only imitate their parents and learn from them.

Don't nag your children.

Some parents don't want their children to feel neglected when they write homework because of the need of emotional communication, so they always like to ask their children questions when they write homework. "Do a few? How many more? " It seems to care about children, but I don't know how to interfere with them from time to time, so that children can't concentrate, and their thinking is always interrupted. Therefore, parents should be reminded not to nag when their children are studying.

3. Pay attention to receiving guests and don't affect children.

For a family, it is common for neighbors to visit and friends to visit. But some people talk endlessly, completely forgetting that there are children doing homework in the room. Talking with adults is the easiest way to affect children's attention. Children's studies will definitely be affected. Therefore, parents should try to arrange to receive guests in places that do not affect their children's study or during their entertainment time. It is also best for relatives and friends to visit their homes on children's rest days. If there is something urgent to visit their home, it is necessary to arrange the time compactly so as not to affect the children's study and rest.

In short, children can't do their homework well, so we can't just look for reasons from children. As parents, we should always consider whether we are not doing well. If so, we should correct it. If not, we should encourage them and try our best to create a good learning space for our children.