How to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

I have never thought that there will always be conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, no matter how big or small they are. I have never thought about any conflicts between me and my mother-in-law, because my mother-in-law is so honest and honest, and I am so simple. In the blink of an eye, my mother-in-law has been here for 20 days. My husband always talks about her because she cares so much about the baby and me. Sometimes I even think about the purpose of having a son, and I don’t feel comfortable raising a child for him. Although my husband also cares about his mother-in-law, his caring words also have the meaning of reprimand and joke. But this was also how they got along. My mother-in-law and her younger siblings have lived together for five or six years, and they have been thinking about her very much. Every night when we sleep together, she talks about how she is doing. I'm not jealous, because my siblings are really capable and sensible. They are three and thirty this year. They are mothers of two children. They are generous and sensible. The couple has been running a department store for several years and they are very good to us. They are called "Sister-in-law" every day. I'm just getting used to it now. I was still young at first. Although I had just been upgraded, my cooking skills are not as good as hers. Plus my husband is still a child at heart. We are just like this. My mother-in-law always talks about how my siblings’ mothers are doing. She sells vegetables for them. When my siblings’ youngest son celebrates his birthday, my mother-in-law even makes a special trip to buy cakes and other things. Then she says to my baby, “When you get back, your grandma will do it.” I'm sure I'll do whatever I want for you...etc., I feel sad. Occasionally I would laugh and say where did her grandma come from, and how she got so sick while riding in a car. Thinking about it, our family is really incomparable, the conditions are not enough, and my parents will not be able to do this. They only have rules for me to take the baby to see them, and there is no rule for coming to celebrate my grandson’s birthday. Two days ago, I was packing up my summer clothes and putting away my winter clothes. My mother-in-law was sitting next to me. When she saw my husband and I’s clothes, she kept saying that our clothes were gray and ugly. Then she said that my siblings’ clothes were just a few. There is no need to pack up any items. I suddenly felt that we had made a mistake and should not have asked her to help and let her see it. Today, the gauze my husband bought for me online arrived. I couldn’t wash it during the confinement period, so I asked my mother-in-law to soak it and dry it for me. My mother-in-law kept complaining that she didn’t buy this gauze even after having two younger siblings. . In fact, our lifestyles and values ??are very different from those of our siblings. However, my parents-in-law and my siblings are very similar in everything. Naturally, there are many things we don’t agree with when we come here. My husband is still thinking about going on a trip this year, but if he does go, he will be nagged to death: Neither of us knows how to save money before we buy a house! I really hate houses, just because we didn’t buy a house, we seem to have become wretches! Four Old people like to talk about this. We can't afford it here. We can't live in the city and have to make monthly payments. We don't know why we bought it and put it there. We don't have the money to buy it as an investment like others. My husband plans to buy a house at home this year. Alas! Poor us, what will happen if we don’t buy a house for five or ten years? Please pay attention to your words and deeds this year. I will try my best to be a good wife and keep my tail between my legs. Wait until I buy clothes. I secretly took it back, unpacked it and washed it myself. By the way, now that I am so fat, I will definitely need to buy new clothes. How to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law 2 I am Donglin Xiting. If you have a story, come to me. Click "Follow" above and you will be mine. When talking about marriage, we cannot fail to mention the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an unavoidable problem in all marriages. But having said that, if there is a conflict, there will be a solution. If it is resolved, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can help your marriage. If it is not resolved, it will become a stumbling block to your marriage. Next, let’s talk about how women should handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in marriage. There are 4 points that need to be kept in mind. You must pay attention to them because you can’t escape them. 1. Face the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. You must have read many articles or movies and TV series about the conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. You may also have heard people around you tell you about their conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. However, you should be cautious about how to deal with this kind of relationship when it falls on you. Think about it. First of all, women must remember that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a relationship that you must face in your marriage. You must face up to this relationship because it is a part of your marriage. You need to list some foreseeable problems in advance. Think about solutions. Don't take it seriously, and don't let it take its course until then, because there may be many unexpected problems at that time. If you are not prepared in advance, you will not be able to deal with them easily, and it will only make the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law deeper and deeper. No matter how terrible others describe the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you should not worry and treat it calmly to handle the relationship well. 2. Treat it as a subsidiary marriage. As we mentioned in the previous point, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is part of the marriage, because the mother-in-law is your husband’s mother, and you cannot ignore her existence.

Therefore, you should try to manage the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as a subsidiary marriage. Even if you cannot treat the relationship with husband and wife with the same care, you should still have the attitude you should have. After all, mother-in-law is also a human being, not a devil. If you are considerate, filial, and sensible, you can also impress her. If you try hard but can't move her, it just means you're using the wrong method. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is essentially the same as interpersonal relationships. There will always be breakthroughs. You have to observe carefully. If one method doesn't work, just try another method. If you insist that she is the "evil mother-in-law" and just complain without trying to solve the conflict, then you will only be tortured all the time, because if the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not resolved, it will follow her. 3. Men are the key. On the surface, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is just a relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but in fact it is a relationship between three people. Don’t forget that the only person with the most property between them is the man. Therefore, men are the key point in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and they are also the breakthrough point in resolving conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This requires men to consciously maintain the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, break them down one by one, and then reunite them. If men understand this, there will basically be no conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. However, many men don't understand this. When a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law occurs, he will run faster than a rabbit and wish to stay away. If this is the case, it requires women to guide men to participate in resolving conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If you know how to do it, teach him. After all, he is her mother-in-law's son, and it is easier to approach and convince her. 4. There must be communication. Since the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a relationship between people, if you want this relationship to be of high quality, communication is essential. This is just like how you need communication when talking about clients, making friends, or falling in love. It requires spiritual communication and material communication. It should be noted that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a relationship between women, so this should be taken into account in terms of communication. It is said that women know women best, so use your instinct to do what they like. Since you can conquer the mountain of men, mother-in-law is no problem to you at all. The premise is that you must be willing to take the initiative to manage the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and be willing to take the initiative to resolve conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If you don't want to, then no one can save you. Many people may have opinions after reading this article, saying that mothers-in-law are not that simple, and that all mothers-in-law in the world are evil mothers-in-law who stifle themselves to cause trouble for their wives. This is where some women are narrow-minded. Saying this can only mean that you have never faced up to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and have never thought about going into business to solve the problem. You are just struggling and complaining, but is this useful? Has this resolved the conflict between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? Of course, if you really don't want to manage the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, then stay away from your husband and there will be no problem if you don't have contact. But one thing you need to pay attention to is that you may become someone else's mother-in-law in the future. Now you can escape as a daughter-in-law, but when you become a mother-in-law in the future, will you continue to escape? Your daughter-in-law also says you are an evil mother-in-law. How do you deal with it? Therefore, if you think more from the perspective of the current relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you will be able to handle the relationship with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law with ease in the future.