What should women do in a patriarchal family?

Admit that my parents don't love me, and face this fact, don't always expect my parents and keep a distance from them. Generally speaking, in a patriarchal family, daughters will please their parents and give them the money they earn. Parents will subsidize their sons, but they will have a bad life. As for parents, because I didn't like my daughter from the beginning, my daughter came to please them again. Naturally, their daughter did the dirty work and the benefits were given to their son. After all, their son is their own and their daughter will get married sooner or later. Parents will not boss their daughters around because they prefer their sons. There are several ways to change this situation:

Women must face the fact that their parents don't love you and accept it. I know it's hard to admit that my parents don't love me. Who doesn't want others to love me? But only if you admit this fact, can you get rid of this net in your family and not be exploited by your parents. If you haven't realized this, no matter how much you pay, your parents will think that you haven't done enough. Fan is a good example.

Second, it is not easy to talk about yourself in front of parents. An unpopular daughter is often the most filial. They hope to win the love of their parents with their own efforts. Unfortunately, in general, the more a daughter gives, the less her parents like her. Therefore, when the daughter goes home, don't pretend to be generous in front of her parents. Tell her how hard she worked and get her parents to give up the idea of exploiting you.

Third, if possible, try not to live with your parents. If the parents are eccentric and still live together, the daughter's psychology will be very unbalanced and it is easy to generate resentment. At this time, if you are an adult, move out, as long as you are not exploited by your parents. On holidays, I will buy them some gifts, do my filial piety, and only do part of my daughter's responsibilities.

Therefore, in a patriarchal family, women should understand the truth that they should work hard in this life, otherwise, their parents will trample on you and exploit you in the end. The men you meet in the future will also disrespect you and think that you have no one to support you.

When you have the ability to make money, do your duty and give them some alimony. In addition, you have no obligation to dedicate all your money to them, help them buy a house, or even support their younger brother to study and get married ... If you do, it means that you have made contributions to your family, and you have the right to obtain family status and demand their respect.

And don't give up your family property casually. As long as the married daughter contributes to the family, she will have property rights in the future, and the law and morality will support you. Live for yourself and think more about yourself. At the same time protect your wealth. You own and control your wealth. Don't let them plunder at will.

If conditions permit, find someone who loves you, love him, and build a family with him. Treat your children equally in the future, so that this son preference will not continue.

Preference for boys is a thinking habit passed down from generation to generation. Because in China society, families from ancient times to the present are generally supported by men. Whether it is farming, business or being an official, most of them are men's talents, and the income at home is basically earned by men. However, due to the limitation of natural conditions, women can only become subservient to men and have children.

However, son preference is by no means innate. It is by no means that women are born to accept the reality, oppression and harm of son preference, but a social malady that needs to be resisted and resisted.

Because they think that after their daughters get married and have their own family, they can no longer serve the family. Therefore, parents who prefer sons to daughters will feel that there is no income from investing in their daughters. On the contrary, when a son is sick, he will stay, support the elderly and die, which also continues the blood of the family, so he is more willing to contribute to his son.

However, what they don't know is that in contemporary society, women and men enjoy equal right to education. Women are fully capable of earning the same money as men, supporting their families with money and even earning more than men. On the contrary, sons often become "helpless fools" and moths at home because they have been too concerned and spoiled since childhood.

They also forget that a daughter can get a bride price when she gets married, and it is not that she gets nothing when she gives birth to a daughter. Just as fruit trees are saplings, they are despised and treated coldly when they should be protected and cared for. The fruit tree bears fruit, but all her relatives and friends who treat her badly come out to compete as gardeners and grab the harvest fruit.