What do you mean by nagging (the consequences of nagging children are so serious)

0 1 nagging is not a good thing. I accidentally read a report some time ago that the consequences of nagging children for a long time are terrible. I subconsciously thought of light rain. Because of work, the light rain less than two years old is taken by my grandmother during the day. However, grandma has a characteristic, which is nagging. One day when I came home from work, I happened to meet my grandmother nursing Xiaoyu. The child is still young, eating dishonest and active. During the period, I always heard my grandmother say: This child can't eat well! Come on, open your mouth. Ah, eat.

After a while, it was estimated that the rice fell to the ground when it rained. Grandma said that the child always scattered food everywhere and refused to listen many times. It's not good at all. I packed the rice and continued to feed. I can't help repeating these words. I went over to my grandmother and said, please don't keep nagging a child under two years old. (Of course, the tone is not so strong ~) I really don't want to see my son become a child who has no opinion and is insensitive to external things in the future. And all this must start with the nagging of family members. This is by no means alarmist!

Many parents in life, including those who often leave messages in my backstage, say the most annoying thing: Why do my children still refuse to listen to me after I have said so much? I did it for his own good.

Your nagging is meaningless. What is nagging? The dictionary defines nagging as saying the same thing over and over again. Imagine, when someone whispers the same sentence in your ear over and over again, will you feel bored? When you are upset, you naturally want to resist, not obey! The Monkey King has a headache when I think of "Only You ..." sung by Tang Priest. There is even a scene where the Monkey King can't stand it and directly hits the master ... Some experts once said that the more you nag your child, the more meaningless what you say.

In fact, in retrospect, when we adults nag our children, we are actually constantly expressing our meaning to them. You think the children will listen if you keep talking. In fact, when you only care about yourself, it is completely different from children. For children, what mom and dad say is not communicating with him at all, but more like a kind of self-venting of parents, which has nothing to do with themselves. Therefore, children are naturally disobedient. Nagging will only weaken the power of language. Say so much, the child may not be able to digest it. In fact, communication, especially the communication between parents and children, is sometimes unnecessary because of the "blood relationship". It is easier to have unexpected effects by leaving some space for children to think properly.

Ask yourself, do you really love children? Speaking of loving children, I want to ask my parents a question first: What is the first sentence you ask when you come home every day? I asked many parents around me this question, and most of them answered: Have you finished your homework? Why don't you do your homework? Including the concern that parents usually show, the most is the child's academic performance.

Often hear such words, children with immature psychological age may think: Do you love me or my academic performance? Therefore, children are rebellious and hope to get more attention from their parents. Parents may feel that they love their children of course, needless to say. Caring for children's grades is also to make children live better in the future. However, love needs to be expressed in order to be perceived.

Imagine that when you come home from work, the first thing your husband says to you is not "wife, I'm home" but "I'm starving. Is the meal ready? " How do you feel? You will probably complain, and the last two people quarreled at dinner. Similarly, hear the sentence "Have you finished your homework?" Every day, children will also have a rebellious attitude towards their parents and hate learning.

I hope all parents can understand that children are not afraid of being tired, suffering, not being understood and not being truly loved! As parents, we only care about whether the child is tired or not, no matter how high he flies! When you really love children, children will naturally have demands on themselves, because children only work hard for "love".

The premise of love is respect. I have seen such a set of shots in Animal World: the spider lays a ball of eggs and guards around it every day. After the spider hatched, it stumbled around its mother like a toddler. Mother spider is busier, chewing all kinds of prey into pieces and feeding them to the born children.

The child grew up gradually, and suddenly there was a strong wind, which blew up all the little spiders and floated away from the mother's net with a silk. This is really a spectacular picture. Countless little spiders are flying in the air like rain, and then their silk breaks and floats away. Okumo still stopped in the middle of the net, and didn't seem to panic at all, just quietly watching his children leave.

Anyone who has seen Where is Dad Going knows that Li Rui, the village head, has always been deeply loved by children, which is why he can be the village head for four consecutive seasons. It is not unusual for one person to make one child like both children, but it is not easy to make a bunch of children like them. After careful study, I found that every time the village head talks to the children, he will kneel down, look at each other with his eyes, and talk to each other seriously and peacefully. Don't underestimate this simple action, it means that you put down the "superiority" of adults and regard the child as an independent individual who needs respect. And when you stop telling your children what to do with condescending attitude, they will listen to you.

If some children don't want to listen, it's useless for parents to say more. It only annoys children. As parents, we need to understand our children more, find more effective ways of communication, and make them obey with the most appropriate expressions. This is the most labor-saving and effective education.

How harmful is nagging? Parents who will educate their children are tolerant, relaxed and generous, rather than telling their children what to do. Good parents will respect their children, change "speaking" into "listening", and only make principled suggestions to their children, thus gaining their trust and recognition.

Conversely, if children are nagged for a long time and have nowhere to escape under the influence of negative emotions, they will begin to "selectively deaf" to protect themselves. In this way, parents' education will not work.

Parents' nagging is a way of education that can't keep up with children's development.

Parents' nagging will make them lose their hearing.

Parents' nagging belongs to a way of communication that looks down on people and doesn't respect others.

Parents' nagging will break the communication between parents and children, and children will lose their attachment to home.

Parents' nagging will make children feel insecure.

Excessive nagging makes children feel controlled.

Parents' nagging can easily make children gain "immunity" and damage the parent-child relationship.

Parents' nagging is one of the important reasons to stifle children's sense of responsibility.

Parents' nagging is a negative way of thinking and unhealthy attitude towards life.

Parents' nagging is a disguised comparison and label.