How did you survive when you were at your lowest, most helpless, and looked down upon?

How did you survive when you were at the lowest point in your life, when you were most helpless and looked down upon by others? There are several answers to this question.

First, when you are at the lowest point in your life, don’t go to anyone to complain, because no one will listen to you so much. It is best to work hard and survive silently. Get through this tough time!

Second, there may be a dark time in life, it depends on whether we can persevere. Can you continue to work hard and not give up on yourself because of a little setback or because of these things? The consequence of this approach is that not only your friends will look down on you, but your family will also look down on you!

Third, the best way is to slowly make yourself stronger through your own efforts. In the end, you still have to rely on yourself. No one will be willing to help selflessly. Except for your parents, there is nothing you can't endure. Those who survive it, face the reality and work hard, they will slowly get better, and they will slowly become stronger!

In short, that’s how life is. If you work hard, you will see hope. If you keep complaining and not working hard, you will regret it in the end, because no one will help you, the only one who can help you is yourself! Think about it!

Many years ago, my son was born prematurely at 28 weeks due to premature placenta. He was only 1 pound and 2 pounds when he was born. He suffered from 11 serious diseases such as severe cerebral palsy, heart disease, hyaline pulmonary disease, and congenital glaucoma. Doctors said After being resuscitated, there may be problems with intelligence or physical function, so we should consider this carefully. My husband's business failed and his friends defrauded him of most of his assets, and he suffered from depression. So he resolutely gave up the child. I feel that we as parents feel sorry for the child like this. It would be a sin to give up this life again, so I am determined to raise it, no matter what the consequences are? Just try your best.

My husband couldn't bear the double blow, so we divorced. Next came the medical expenses for the child in the neonatal intensive care incubator, which almost cost tens of thousands a day, sometimes even as high as tens of thousands. The divorced ex-husband no longer cared about it. I didn’t even do confinement. On the third day after giving birth, I took silk gift samples and promoted them one by one. It wasn’t until I reached an agreement with a foreign trade company and made my first business deal that I got 100,000 yuan. My son’s medical expenses were protected. When I was tired and in pain, I was always the first to run over to the hospital during visiting hours, look at my little kitten-like son through the incubator, and tell him the pain in my heart.

Later, the child’s vital signs finally stabilized and the child weighed 4 pounds. The doctor asked me to take him out of the hospital. He said that the child would have intellectual problems in the future and might not be able to stand upright or walk. I was very happy after visiting him. , I didn’t hear the doctor’s concerns clearly at all. After being discharged from the hospital, I slowly compared with other children and found out that my child really had many problems. The high intraocular pressure caused by congenital glaucoma caused the child to suffer from eye nerve pain. He would cry so hard at night that he could not sleep for a long time. The neighbors all had objections. Later, I took my child to a doctor at Beijing Tongren Eye Hospital and they performed an operation on the child, which saved the child's eyes, which were about to go blind.

As the child grew older, I found that the child could not sit, stand, or turn over, so I quickly helped the child with hyperbaric oxygen and rehabilitation training. The child basically spent his growth in the hospital. When my child reached school age, I went to school to register him. When the teacher saw my son, he kindly advised us to go to a special school. He was worried that our child would not be able to follow the class and would be discriminated against at school. But I'm more worried that if my children don't receive formal education, won't their future be ruined? After looking for several schools, a principal finally took the child in, but the child just didn't respond in class and couldn't listen at all, so other children bullied him and treated him as a fool. In order to make the children follow the class, I would re-teach the class content to the children every night after work. Only then did I realize that the child had no memory at all and almost no learning ability.

I was overwhelmed with despair at that time. Later, the art teacher at the school said that the child had a talent for painting and could be cultivated in this area. Later, after arduous persistence and hard work, my son was finally admitted to the Academy of Fine Arts, specializing in oil painting.

I am really grateful for those helpless and trough days. Only by persisting and working hard can you have the best harvest!

The lowest point in my life began in the second half of 2008. It’s a long story, but looking back now, it’s like an arrangement from somewhere, verifying my personal numerology experience.

If you are patient and have the chance to see this true story of mine, let’s talk about it slowly and share my mentality adjustment in the difficult situation!

At that time, as a practitioner of the point-based teaching method, I followed my mentor (Mr. Yao Xiangren, the founder of the point-based teaching method, who was also the old principal of my school and was recognized by everyone as the best teacher in the history of the school). A good principal has good academic conduct.) Integrating theory, method and practice, he studied the point-based teaching method down-to-earth. He took more than 100 experimental classes. In addition, he applied for the city's key projects and wrote related papers. , all goes well, ready to roll up your sleeves and work hard! I am full of expectations and believe that my teaching career will definitely reach a higher level! But life is unpredictable! This is the real situation before encountering difficulties in life: often when you think it is the peak moment of your life, difficulties will quietly follow you! I still remember clearly that in April 2008, some teachers from the school, led by the new principal, traveled to Zhouzhuang, Zhangjiagang, Suzhou City. They met a middle-aged monk in a temple in Zhouzhuang. Maybe it was fate. He asked me to tell my fortune from palm reading, facial reading, and horoscope. He said that I would encounter career setbacks in August of that year, but I must deal with it with strength and magnanimity, and I will definitely have a bright future in the future! At that time, I basically didn’t believe this and just listened to it as a joke. But in August, the monk’s prediction was really verified, because the school’s personnel arrangements were decided in August, and I was deliberately or unintentionally plotted against me. I came down from the front line of teaching and specialized in teaching research. To put it bluntly, I was deprived of the right to speak on the podium! As you can imagine, I am preparing to work on the front line of teaching with great ambition, and work hard to innovate teaching! Such a blow left me mentally unprepared and indescribable psychological pain. At this time, I suddenly remembered the monk’s reminder and informed the old principal, who had experienced many hardships and ups and downs in life (he was once a professor at the Chinese Department of Nanjing University A top student was labeled as a rightist because of one sentence, and then he was sent to the suburbs of our small county to grow vegetables. He worked hard and grew vegetables very well and invented many new varieties, which was praised by the local people. His behavior verified the words of a philosopher: "Excellent people are excellent everywhere." His body is empty and his actions are chaotic!" When I reflect carefully, I must try my best to adjust myself and get out of the predicament! How to face reality, the old principal is the best example! He is so good, has such a high IQ, and has such strong abilities, but he still encounters hardships! Encourage me that life is like this, as long as you want to do something, you must go through the trials of life! When facing difficulties, we must adjust our mentality, continue to work hard, and work hard to implement the point-based teaching method!

The problem is that I can no longer attend class, what should I do? After learning from the painful experience, I decided to readjust my life plan, cheer up, and do three things every day: don’t waste time, don’t waste energy, and don’t waste emotions. Since we can’t engage in classroom teaching research, we can research individual teaching! Position your life like this: be a healthy person! The four standards of health that I have established are: no fat on the body, no turbidity in the body, no darkness in the mind, and no wretchedness in the spirit! For the rest of my life, I have tried my best to promote the point-based teaching method and transform the ideas of the point-based teaching method into personalized education research on the point-based method!

These are probably my journey out of the predicament in life. Now I am "Personalized Education by Point Distribution Method". I hope it can inspire you.