Parents are always sarcastic and sarcastic. What should I do if I hit you?

Parents are the kind who are passive outside and show off at home. Two people can't talk and do things all their lives, and life is not good. Vent all kinds of disappointments on me every day and scold them for my bad luck all my life. In fact, I am now in my forties, and I gradually feel that such parents are very inferior, because they have no skills and no knowledge, and they have no sense of security and self-confidence all their lives.

Now they are over 70 years old, and I am over 40 years old. I don't know whether they ruined my life or I ruined theirs. Anyway, they are sick, so I should take money to contribute, not a penny less. Since I am a family in my life, I have no choice.

Outside, my father is an easy-going good man and my mother is a compromise person. At home, my mother is an impatient and strong person, always sarcastic, sarcastic and scolding me. My father is a swing. When my grandparents had conflicts with my mother, he stood on my grandparents' side indiscriminately. When my mother scolded me, he stood on my mother's side without hesitation.

I remember when I was a child, my mother first asked me to cut potatoes. Looking at the dark kitchen knife, I hesitated. My mother immediately shouted impatiently, "Hurry up! What are you doing? "

I crustily skin of head picked up the knife and cut it a few times. Suddenly, when the potato rolled, the blade cut my finger and a piece of meat fell. I covered my finger and cried. My mother quickly found gauze to wrap it up for me, scolding: "You will get paid for doing some work!" " The father on the side teased: "Do you still have the face to cry if the work is not done well? ! "My heart is vacant and silent.

One winter vacation, I was doing my homework. My mother's endless complaints made me very unhappy, so I just said. My mother immediately complained to my father next to me. My father glared at me, raised his hand and threw my pencil case to the ground. At the same time, he scolded, "Don't go to school if you don't want to!" I jumped in anger and smashed the pencil box. I said angrily, "If you don't go up, you won't go up!" "

One night, I was cooking dinner, porridge was cooked, steamed bread was hot, and I was washing spinach. My mother came in and shouted, "Why are you so slow?" Can't do anything right? ! You lazy bastard, what time is it? Spinach is not ready yet. ! "

I was also furious at that time: "You let me die, I am no longer your family!" " "

Mom is even more angry: "You just make me feel cold. I didn't expect you to hate me so much. " ? How dare you talk to me like that! Am I just in a hurry to go to work? Say what's wrong with you? "

My heart hurts even more: "It is you who hate people. You beat and scold me and yell at me every day, which makes me feel bad. You are not in a hurry to go to work, but looking for a fight! "

Mother suddenly stopped talking. After a long time, she said, "When I was a child, your grandmother did this to me. I know your grandmother did that because she was in a hurry to go to work. She never complained about your grandmother. Don't you understand me? "

"No, just because you don't realize that this is a kind of injury, so you inherited such a bad way, and this pain has continued to me, making me feel that life is worse than death. I was forced to make up my mind that this pain must not continue. In order not to have a miserable and desperate child like me, I would rather not get married in my life! "

Mother was silent, and since then, she has restrained a lot.

Through these things, I realized that my parents didn't really want to hurt me, but they didn't realize it themselves. If you have the same problem parents, you should communicate with them well and let them know what you have done to hurt you. I think ordinary parents will reflect as long as they realize that they are hurting their children. Good luck!

1. In their view, cracking down on education is an incentive way to stimulate children's self-motivation.

2. Their parents were the same when they were young, which is also the subtle influence of family background.

3. Some families are in poor conditions, parents are busy with their livelihood and have little patience with their children.

Fortunately, now we pay more and more attention to encouraging and educating children. Compared with cracking down on education, praising children's specific behaviors realistically is helpful to improve children's self-confidence and self-identity.

So we also see that today's children will be more independent and dare to express their opinions than before.

1. Sit down and have a good talk with your parents, or write to tell your parents that you don't like this way, which will make you feel inferior and have no confidence.

When parents use this method again, remind them not to say that at once. Because it is not so easy to change a person's behavior habits and thinking patterns.

I want to adjust my mentality and tell myself that it's just that my parents can't express it, not that I'm really that bad.

4. When doing things, try to leave your parents' sight and avoid them, which can reduce their "unpleasantness".

Try to make some achievements, so that when parents say this again, they can refute it with confidence.

6. Strive for independence as soon as possible, leave your nose and live independently.

In fact, most parents will change slowly when they are old, and they will treat their children carefully. But this kind of education will be "inherited", and if you are not careful, you will live more and more like your parents.

I hope my answer can help you.

Being a parent is the first time for many of them, so it is normal not to be fooled into making mistakes. Just like we are children, we don't know how to satisfy the Excellence in our parents' eyes. Children who always fail to meet the standards may also be helpless in the eyes of their parents. This is the first time. Please forgive me first.

What if parents are always sarcastic, sarcastic and attacking people?

Two aspects. In general, parents love their children, but they just don't know how to express their love. Their sarcasm and sarcasm are mostly intended to stimulate children's enterprising spirit, hoping to arouse children's resistance and prove that they are not what their parents say. In fact, this way is really useful for some children, although they are injured, and most of these children are stubborn. They won't communicate with their parents, they will only be bored. Parents only see the usefulness, and then continue to strengthen until they hurt each other's feelings. Other children will also resist. The way to resist is that if you say I can't do it, then I can't show it to you. In this way, parents will be more disappointed, and children will become more and more confused and at a loss. It doesn't seem to work well. For children, parents are the external environment. All you can do is communicate effectively and tell them that sarcasm is painful for you. In contrast, you prefer to be encouraged and praised, and your shortcomings will be supplemented by their encouragement. You will try your best not to disappoint them, but parents should understand that you are an independent individual and can't meet all their expectations. There will always be disappointments, but you must have worked hard in your life. Please make them believe in themselves. Then guide them to read relevant books.

All of the above can be done by the external environment. In fact, this part of the change is very difficult. Others are always out of control, and the best change has to be yourself. I must be able to withstand pressure. It's just that my parents will face more social negation in the future. If every negative is in my mind, I will be depressed for a minute. Use your parents' sarcasm as your whetstone. No one can decide your life in this world as long as you don't give up. People's abilities can be developed. Just because you can't do it now doesn't mean you can't do it in the future. Use your Excellence to give the best answer. Change yourself, adapt to the environment and survive better.

Finally, love yourself, love yourself, love yourself. Love yourself before you can love others. No matter who denies it, don't give up easily

My parents are trying to forget their children's success so that they can tell them. Don't always attack you with sarcastic remarks. The most important thing between people is communication. My child likes to procrastinate in his homework in the second grade. I sometimes say sarcastic words when he is angry, but later I regret it. I think how I was angered by my child. I shouldn't treat him like this, or I will feel useless in the future and tell him that I am afraid of his paranoia. Therefore, I suggest that you can take the initiative to talk to adults about your thoughts. Let adults know how you feel in your heart, and let adults know what language to express in the future will not hurt you [smile]. I hope I can help you.

Growing up, I have never been praised by my parents, which is probably a common problem of the older generation of parents.

As a generation who grew up under the daily repressive education of parents, we can't help feeling a little sad when we read this article. I never understood it when I was a child, and I didn't agree with it when I grew up. Fortunately, our next generation has learned.

1, there is a growing heart: parents, you can't force yourself to turn grief into motivation and try to be a better person.

2. The art of learning a language: At present, some jokes made by Tik Tok are very good. No matter the wind and rain outside, or the "injury" of our loved ones, we can go back calmly.

3. Try to communicate: If you are an adult, you can find an opportunity to sit down with your parents and talk about what your parents said at a certain moment, what you were thinking at that time, and tell your needs. I think they will understand.

4. Write it at the end: When you have graduated, when you set foot in the distant future, when your parents can't see you several times a year, when your parents' thinking can't keep up with what you call new things, then you will find that your parents have gradually changed, and those ironies, sarcasm and blows have turned into caution and expectation, so cherish the time together. After all, they are old.

Friends who ask this question, I think you should be an adult who has not entered the society for a long time. You want to do something, but your parents always beat you.

This feeling is very uncomfortable, and your self-confidence will be destroyed. You are helpless.

Although I don't know what kind of predicament you are in now, you must make changes if you want to control this situation.

First, the change of thinking.

First of all, your thoughts should not be influenced by your parents' blows. You should turn the blow into motivation.

Second, the change of direction.

Comprehensively analyze where you think the time, place and direction of people are.

Third, the repositioning of the target.

Do what you are good at according to your own advantages, and study and cultivate in depth.

The rest is to stick to being yourself.

When everyone is moving in the direction they choose, and the family can't see when the result will come, the family is anxious for you. They are impatient and want you to give up and start over.

However, only you know where you have arrived, and my persistence has been rewarded. Even if there is no return, at least I tried once.

Parents always dig at you because they want their children to succeed and to protect their face. If you become a successful person, he feels that there is light on his face. If you are poor in all aspects, and he feels ashamed and can't stand it, he will take it out on you and dig at you. Undoubtedly, this method of education is definitely incorrect. So what do you do?

You can tell your parents when they are sarcastic. You said: ten fingers have their own length, and not everyone will succeed. What you have done can only hurt my self-esteem, hurt my self-confidence, make me miserable and worried, and make me unwilling to study and work, which is not conducive to my success. What's more, as a parent, have you succeeded? Other people's parents have tens of billions of assets, do you? So I hope you won't satirize me in the future. Don't worry, I'll try. I'm not sure whether you can succeed, but I won't regret it if I try.

So you have to get out of these pains and troubles, just pretend they didn't say anything, going in one ear and out the other. The best way is to turn these cynicism that hit you into motivation to spur you, and always remind yourself that you must work hard, constantly improve yourself and get closer to success.

Maybe my answer is beside the point, but I still want to answer it.

My parents are tolerant of me, and they usually give priority to praise. I think girls criticize too much when they are young, and people will be timid, so they hear very little criticism.

It's my turn to take charge. God, what can I do for a son who doesn't know much about the world and is bursting with confidence every day? What my husband and I can do is cynicism, cynicism and fighting.

As soon as the exam was over, we blew it together. We played very well this time, and we can get into the top five without getting full marks. Then my husband and I were beaming. Within three days, I heard that the ranking was from the third to the fifth to the tenth. Almost every time we know a classmate's grades, he moves back one, which makes people not crazy.

Tell us that our homework is almost finished after 8 o'clock every night, and we can go to bed early today. As a result, we were still writing at eleven o'clock, still writing at twelve o'clock, knocking at the door at half past twelve in the middle of the night for our old parents to sign and punch in!

However, with a little praise, your little tail will be held high immediately, and you will feel like a hero little prince all over the world. Complacency is so easy. How dare you boast as a parent? Minute suppression is real. While suppressing, I worried that I was not pushing hard enough, so I let go and flew into the sky.

My son is thick-skinned and strong-hearted, and we have suppressed him many times. His ability to defend himself has improved rapidly. The usual suppression and denial have just begun, and his self-defense saliva has been flying all over the sky, drowning our old parents.

So now the dialogue is usually:

Parents: You too. ...

Son: What's wrong with me? I am now! @% % % & amp； % & amp……

Parents are forbidden to talk.

The son wants to argue that the old parents have laid down their arms and surrendered.

I don't think my son will be sad because of our satire, sarcasm and oppression. First of all, he is not sensitive and nervous. The other one, he can feel our love, so we didn't really hurt him.

In fact, no parents are willing to crack down on the satire and sarcasm of their children. They mainly want to succeed.

In China, there is an old-fashioned education, and everyone has different attitudes towards these practices of their parents.

The way to educate parents is to listen, but there are also some irritability.

Therefore, how everyone is educated by their parents, then some people will live under their parents' education.

The other thing is that the more her parents satirize and suppress her, the more positive she will be, and she feels that if my parents say so, I am really sorry for them if I don't work hard.

Of course, some people think that when his parents say or scold him, the pressure in his heart may not be so good. Of course, the most important thing is to see how his personal psychology thinks.