What's it like to live with your ex-husband after divorce and never leave home?

Divorced women who don't go out, in reality, is not a strange thing, it can be said that it is very common. In the eyes of outsiders, they are incomprehensible and like gossip.

Divorce does not leave home, and common interests prevent her from leaving this home. I once knew a couple, the man was a civil servant and the woman was a primary school teacher. Their marriage was introduced by relatives. Married for three years, childless, feeling to the point of divorce, but still divorced. But they still live together, just knowing the inside story, others know that they are divorced. None of my colleagues outside know. The reason why they don't leave home after divorce is that the man wants to be promoted to section chief and the woman wants to be a primary school principal. They sacrificed their marriage and feelings for their career.

If you don't leave home after divorce, your child will become a concern and a tie. Especially women, can't let go of this piece of meat in their hearts. They are worried that their children will suffer too much injustice in single-parent families, so they would rather sacrifice their own happiness than let their children who are still growing up suffer too much injustice.

Divorce does not leave home, and each other is still somewhat unwilling. I want to give each other a chance under the same roof. Many divorced people later remarried, largely because they didn't leave home after divorce.

In fact, divorce is a helpless choice for both parties. The familiar and unfamiliar feeling of not leaving home after divorce was very embarrassing in the first days of divorce.

What's it like not to leave home after divorce?

My ex-wife and I are the same. Our divorce is the result of understanding and negotiation. Considering that it is suitable for her to remarry in the future, she voluntarily gave her two houses and a new house. Because of economic reasons, there is no decoration, and it is temporarily uninhabitable. At present, we are still living together. Outsiders don't know that we are divorced. She still cooks and does housework every day. After a long time, it will definitely affect her later life. I didn't want to delay her, so I advised her that she had made arrangements for the decoration and moved quickly. She hasn't said it for so many years. I don't want to leave my hard-built home yet. In fact, she still cares about me and says that I am narrow-minded and can't tolerate her affairs. I don't mean to care, but I really hope you are well.

When I was sick, she sought medical advice and took care of me day and night. Without her, I will leave. This is the feeling of life and death. Life is not satisfactory because of sequelae. She followed me for more than three years, and everyone fulfilled their responsibilities and obligations. "Woman" is not an object. She has ideas and needs. I also understand that she has friends in the meantime. When I turned a blind eye, she also frankly admitted that she had not kept it from me. When she has friends, her temperament is calm and not strong. What can she blame others for? She also respects her privacy. Considering the mutual affection of the past, it is a compensation for her life and death to accommodate. After completing the formalities, it also avoids embarrassment. Why do people spend their whole lives in your broken car? Who can have patience? I hope she can live comfortably. I really can't bear to live like this. It's not love, it's family. The divorce is entirely for her own good. She didn't leave. She takes care of her life and does not give her living expenses. It's not about money. First, she doesn't want to delay her. Second, without the little red book, her trust is very poor.

I made it clear that she didn't leave and was not worried. Heartless, informal, my heart is full, what is this called? She is kind to me, and it is not appropriate to force her to leave. She is very helpless. After the divorce, she is free, understand her and be considerate of her. Life is not easy, and several of them are complete. I'm not married anymore. I live with my partner. I don't leave home after divorce, and I can't interfere with others too much. This feeling is very sour and stressful. She is kind, at least she still cares about me. What should I do? I have to bear my own problems, so why bother others. I live in separate rooms under one roof, accommodating each other and trying to persuade and negotiate. Although I am introverted, I am also a bloody person. Later, I turned down her kindness and helped her decorate the house. Now that you have made a choice, you must accept it. There is no need for moral kidnapping. There are various reasons now. This situation is not uncommon. The solution is different, and it doesn't hurt others.

I have a female colleague. After the divorce, she just stayed at home and lived with her ex-husband. The reason is also very helpless. When she divorced, the house was awarded to one person in half, but no one could give half the money to the other.

At first, it was calm. Ever since a female colleague dated her boyfriend, her ex-husband has been sarcastic before going out, which is very ugly. Moreover, when she was chatting with her boyfriend on the phone at home, her ex-husband deliberately spoke loudly, ruining the situation and making female colleagues very angry. What is even more unacceptable to female colleagues is that sometimes the ex-husband will ask for the same room, and the female colleague finally moves out to rent a house.

According to the situation of female colleagues who have not left home after divorce, such a living condition is very bad and it is difficult to live in harmony. If we can live in harmony, we probably won't get divorced, so it's better to live separately after divorce, which is good for both sides and won't affect their lives.

I am also a divorced woman who doesn't go out. What has my life become? I am too helpless, and I am not a heartless woman. Since my ex-husband gambled last year 10, I gave him two or three chances. It's no use. Did not know how to cherish, and finally divorced. The woman lost the meat that fell on her. My two sons are six and a half years old and my daughter is twelve. It's been almost a year. How many times have I argued? Tell mom not to quarrel and mom not to leave this house. Yes, if I leave this house, the three children are the most innocent. We had a fight recently. My ex-husband said he was changing, and his salary was paid to me in July. He said he didn't gamble and asked me to give him a chance. Otherwise, he will continue to gamble and say that if I leave this house, he will leave this house. 108, Xiangxiang's operation made me leave the sea. Otherwise, I won't keep my ex-husband's salary, as long as he gives me some living expenses. Life is so helpless that I want to live it again for myself, but I can't leave my responsibility behind. I am a mother, sometimes very contradictory. I have lived for my children all my life, and sometimes I am unwilling. We quarreled the other day and cried for a long time. When you meet something you like and fit, you can only give up. Sometimes I feel good or bad. Ordinary me, how can I become a bad woman who plays with others' feelings and can't give others happiness? I let go and feel at ease. I can only say I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I broke your heart, and I'm so helpless. Maybe we are not meant to be together. Good men can't meet good women, and good women can't meet good men. God will create man. My life is doomed to be too rough. Let nature take its course, so do i.

Everyone's feelings are empty except the parties themselves. There are two such examples among my distant relatives. Because we live near each other and know each other better, I will only talk about the situation of these two women being watched.

An elderly man, now in his seventies, divorced on 1972. A younger man, now nearly 40 years old, divorced on 20 12. The reasons why they don't leave home are as follows:

First, women's household registration falls in rural husband's family, mainly farmers;

Second, the house is the self-built foundation of collective land. Divorced men and women divide part of the housing foundation, the contracted land is divided according to the block evaluation, and the woman cultivates and harvests herself;

Divorced couples in their 30 s and 70 s have a son and a daughter, and their husbands are looking for partners outside, and they rarely go home with two children; The younger one is a farmer, a boy and a man find a girlfriend to live together for two years and then go their separate ways;

Third, I haven't heard that these two women have the intention to remarry;

Fourth, the in-laws treat their daughter-in-law as their own. There is no discrimination between families and neighbors, the village has remained unchanged from generation to generation, and the original in-laws are still the original names;

5. After divorce, men and women don't see each other twice a year and have no communication with each other; The young divorced couple live in different rooms in the same hospital. The woman is called the man's full name, and the man is called the woman's last two words. Men who work hard also help, and young women serve their in-laws step by step. They have never heard of or seen what women have done for men.

Sixth, the impression of dozens of old women is a feeling of willingness, and the impression of seven-year-old young women is a feeling of thinking about things all day.

My wife and I commented on them: these two are capable and hard-working, with good popularity and integrity. Apart from their feelings, there are no ups and downs, and there are no signs of fighting this fate.

Who would want a divorce if marriage was not unbearable? Some people say that marriage is very confusing and divorce should be sober. After divorce, don't get emotional. But in life, some couples still live together after divorce for various reasons. This state is called "divorce without leaving home".

Whether it is good to stay at home after divorce varies from person to person. What's it like to live with your ex-husband after divorce?

1, Ms. Zhou, divorced for 2 years, used to live together and had no feelings.

Ms. Zhou said that after the divorce, he stopped interfering in my life and I didn't interfere in his life. Anyway, this is how I live together, and I am used to living together. I feel nothing. Divorced, but more free, maybe we are not suitable for being husband and wife, but more suitable for being friends.

2. Ms. Qian, divorced 1 year, forced to live together, a little embarrassed.

Divorce with her ex-husband is because of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and her ex-husband is stupid and filial. Because my ex-husband can't take care of the children, I came back to live for the healthy growth of the children. But many things are embarrassing. If you say it doesn't matter, it's because children matter. If you say it matters, you are divorced. So I plan to move out when the children are older, and I don't want to live together anymore.

3. Ms. Ma, divorced for 3 years, doesn't want the old people on both sides to know and live together.

We agreed to divorce, divorce at home, and live together without letting the old people on both sides know. But in life, emotion and work, the two sides do not interfere with each other.

4. Ms. Ding, divorced 1 year, pretended to be husband and wife during the day and became a roommate at night.

Because the house was bought by my ex-husband when I got married, I couldn't get it when I got divorced. We live together, just pretending to be husband and wife during the day and roommates at night. Nothing will disturb you except polite concern.

5. Ms. Sun, divorced for two years, is ready to move out, and living together for a long time is not the way.

My ex-husband and I divorced because of family chores. After the divorce, we calmed down for a while and tried to remarry and live together, but the result was still not good. Frequent quarrels are not good for children. So, the child is left to my ex-husband, and I'm going to move out. Living together for a long time is not the way. For the sake of children, it is more appropriate to get along with ex-husbands and meet less.

A thousand couples have a thousand ways to get along, and not every way suits you. If you are divorced, it is still recommended to live alone, so that you can find happiness that suits you.

My feeling is to take my lover home to sleep. Very natural. There is nothing to be embarrassed about.

Divorce and staying at home are common in rural areas for three main reasons:

First, the husband had an affair and had to divorce and marry a woman outside. But women are unwilling to remarry for the sake of their children, so they can only choose to divorce and not leave home.

The divorced couple will still live together in marriage. Either men can control the reality and their predecessors and live a de facto "monogamous" life. Either the husband secretly came back behind his current wife's back to meet his ex-wife's needs!

This is the case with a distant relative of mine, who divorced and married his lover after dating someone else. Every time I go back to my hometown, the incumbent will scramble to follow me, fearing that he will spend the night in his hometown. But even so, it can't stop him from getting back together with his ex-wife. In his later years, after living with his new wife for more than 20 years, he divorced and returned to his ex-wife. Now the old man and the old lady are very happy together!

Second, after the husband had an affair, he was unwilling to give away his property, and he couldn't come up with other money, so he refused to leave home. This situation is really embarrassing, but there is nothing I can do. More often, children have grown up and don't want to get married again, so they can only live in their original home.

I once knew such a woman who was kicked out of the house after her husband had an affair. After more than ten years, the man came back and went his own way. The man also brought a woman back, but her luggage was thrown out by her and her son.

Although they are divorced, she can tolerate her homeless husband living at home, but she will never allow him to bring another woman back, let alone rekindle his old love and relive his old dreams!

Third, this kind of divorce is also the most at present, in order to avoid debt. A man owed too much foreign debt, negotiated a divorce with his wife, and then transferred all the family property to his wife's name.

In this case, the relationship between two people before and after the divorce is not affected, and even outsiders sometimes don't know that they are divorced. Nature is a gentle duty, not less at all!

In short, for whatever reason, husband and wife still live together after divorce. It's really embarrassing to keep your distance from them and get along coldly. But if you continue to have sex, you won't be embarrassed, but you will find a different feeling. After all, you are not your lawful spouse now!

In this case, it seems far away from me. In our rural areas and towns, there is almost no such thing, so I always think it is the product of big cities.

So, what is the main reason for not leaving home after divorce? I think it is a house. For example, the husband and wife * * * have a house worth 6 million yuan, but no one can give the other 3 million yuan, and no one will give in. In the end, they have to "divorce and not leave home". This is also the main reason why I position it as a product of big cities, because in rural areas, no one has several houses, even if they are just broken houses. Moreover, in rural areas, it is not difficult to build several other houses. What's more, in rural areas or small towns, divorce is mostly solved immediately, which is rare.

Therefore, this strange phenomenon only occurs in big cities.

So, let's talk about how it feels to live with my ex-husband after divorce. I think it mainly depends on the reasons for divorce.

I have read some stories. There was a couple who chose to divorce because one of them was infertile, and both of them divorced and stayed at home because of property reasons. The relationship between husband and wife is as always, so in front of outsiders, they don't talk to each other, but they still eat a pot of rice and sleep in a bed at home.

There is also a couple who agreed to divorce because one of them had an affair and their relationship was very stiff. But for the sake of elderly parents and underage children, the two still live together. In front of outsiders, the two are still loving couples, but they stay out of it when they get home.

Of course, there are also some couples who pay compensation for houses or demolition, and there are also many fake divorces.

Therefore, divorced women who stay at home and live with their ex-husbands should feel different for different reasons, which can only be said to be mixed feelings.

The feeling of not leaving home after divorce is that your house has been demolished, but you still live in this demolished house. Actually, this is a fact. You should leave this house or keep it. If you are still attached to this family, why did you choose divorce in the first place? Actually, what I want to say is that you can find a house to live in anywhere. If divorce is your choice to leave home, then you should move out quickly. I think this tangle is unacceptable. If two divorced people face each other again, there will inevitably be some embarrassment or suspicion, so I think divorce should run away from home. If you think leaving home will affect your children or other reasons, I think it's an excuse. Otherwise, if you don't have these preparations, why divorce? So I said that if I regret after divorce, I can remarry. If I think it's for my children, it's all an excuse.

It is inevitable that you will be embarrassed if you don't leave home after divorce. You said that two people live together every day, just like living. Just one more divorce certificate, and nothing else has changed. So this kind of life is an obstacle. I think this embarrassing lifestyle should be over, except renting a house or staying in a small hotel. Better than at home.