There is a formalism called punching cards, which can't cultivate good habits, rob children of their time and have hardships.

I don't know if you have noticed that there are more and more "punching cards" around you. Some just need to punch in a fixed software, some need to share punching in a designated group, and some need you to share it in a circle of friends. ...

The first two are ok. I especially hate punching in the circle of friends: friends have their own things to do. Who cares what card you punched? This kind of publicity, besides disturbing everyone, has the value of advertising, and I can't think of any other significance.

This is not the case. In recent days, the winter holidays have been held one after another, and the circle of friends has been screened by a new round of children's punching homework: all the pictures and videos are proofs, look! I'm insisting!

Our son's kindergarten homework is "good habit of punching in". We need to take photos of children taking part in housework every day, and then send screenshots to the group. Teachers will specialize in statistics.

Why do you want to bask in it? The teacher means to let everyone witness the growth of children together, but we know very well that this is also the enrollment demand of kindergartens.

It's a little troublesome, but at least it's relatively easy to finish. My friend's daughter's homework is not that simple.

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My friend's daughter is in the middle class in kindergarten, and winter vacation homework watches the clock. Parents need to take a long video of a child telling a picture book for more than 1 minute every day and send it to the class group.

In the teacher's words, the starting point is to exercise children's expressive ability with positive energy and cultivate children's reading habits.

Friends are perfectionists. In order to complete this punch-in, she needs to choose the books to tell her children in advance every day, read them several times first, and then let the children "rehearse" themselves. Only when there is no problem can she start recording.

Sometimes there are many mistakes or the video is not recorded well, and friends will instruct the children to redo it.

The child's patience is limited. In the first few days, it has developed to the point where friends hold their mobile phones and avoid them. Every time you need a friend to coax you into cooperation; And as soon as the mobile phone is put down, the book in the child's hand will also be put down.

My friend thought it was not worth it, but the teacher praised me. But reading is a happy thing. What used to be relaxed and casual has now become a burden and a task.

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I also know a stay-at-home mother, whose children are only in large classes, and her spare time is full every day.

Math punching, English punching, Chinese punching, sports punching, and other odds and ends. I counted that there are nearly 20 punch-in tasks.

This "chicken baby" is so powerful that I find it incredible. Ask her weakly: How much does it cost for you to let your child learn so much every day?

My mother said to me mysteriously: it didn't cost much, but it also saved a lot of money. I basically picked up these things for nothing. I completed the required number of punching days, refunded the tuition in full, and learned knowledge for free, which won me more than one job.

More than half of these nearly 20 courses are completed online; Regardless of whether children can digest it, let's say that they spend a few hours with their eyes every day, which greatly exceeds the recommended maximum screen time.

I asked my mother: what should I do if the child can't finish?

Mother said: so I made a special list to prevent myself from forgetting; Learning is better than not learning well. When it's too late, I help him punch in.

I finally understand: I study 20 courses every day, not because I am too anxious, but to finish punching-punching is just an end, a means of bonus hunter.

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There is a famous law in psychology called "2 1 day law", which means that it only takes 2 1 day to form a habit, and people's behavior will form a habit as long as it is repeated more than 2 1 day.

The original intention of punching in is exactly the same.

For us, punching in should be an incentive and an auxiliary means to help children develop good habits.

Punching in is not proof of learning style: punching in is not equal to learning, and punching in time is not equal to success-punching in can only prove that you have done one thing at most.

I have seen athletes who insist on punching in, making running as natural as breathing and making themselves more and more self-disciplined;

However, many people work hard to punch in, but in the end they get nothing: they seem to work hard, but in the end they just deceive themselves.

I hope that everyone will not forget the original purpose, and don't put the cart before the horse and let a meaningful thing become a waste of life.

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Then, you can't rely on punching in. How can we make children more self-disciplined? I have three suggestions for you.

1, set the rules and let the children do it themselves.

For children, the initial self-discipline comes from the constraints of rules; Give children full freedom and make rules for them.

For example, we agreed with our children to watch 15 minutes of cartoons every day. At that time, we will ask our children to turn off the TV and do other things, and strictly enforce the regulations. Even if the child is noisy and wants to watch for a while, he can't easily compromise.

In the picture book Magic Kiss, mother raccoon said to raccoon: Sometimes, we all have to do things we don't want to do.

Because everyone's behavior needs to abide by the rules, it is one thing to do it or not, and it is another thing to do it or not.

2. Do a good job in time management and let children be the masters of time.

The opposite of self-discipline is called procrastination; If adults' procrastination is purposeful, then children's procrastination is more of a silent protest or a disregard for the concept of time.

When children are young, there is no concept of time at all, which requires parents to guide their children to manage time scientifically and effectively, help them to make a timetable, and guide them to complete the set tasks according to the timetable.

For example, when a child needs to complete something he doesn't want to do, we can guide the child to give a deadline for completing the task.

As long as the children finish in this period of time, the rest of the time can be freely controlled, so that children can do some easy things to buffer, so that children can have "pleasure feedback" and taste the sweetness, thus stimulating their initiative and enthusiasm for learning.

Otherwise, let the children finish one homework and then do another homework endlessly. The children have no hope and it is strange not to delay.

3. Be a good example for children and let yourself be self-disciplined.

Numerous examples have proved that no matter how good the educational concept is, it can't compare with the word "example".

You are a mirror for children to learn. You brush your mobile phone every day complaining that your child is addicted to games and doesn't like learning. Completely unconvincing.

Adults have no self-control, and children will have a great chance to follow suit.

The winter vacation is coming, and the good opportunity to overtake in the corner is coming.

Excellent children will get better and better, and the gap with ordinary children will get bigger and bigger.

I hope we can all learn more valuable knowledge, master more useful skills, see more colorful world and help our children live a self-disciplined life according to their own situation.