Don't quarrel with your boss

In the tenth year of work, I am extremely eager to have a wise man around me to pull me back before I make a mistake, or to teach me not to make mistakes in advance. However, there is no one around me, and I always keep falling forward. Why don't you write it down as a lesson? I have stepped on these minefields. I hope you won't step on them in the future.

Rule number one: don't quarrel with the boss.

I quarreled with my boss three times.

First time? I have just worked for less than a year and quarreled with my second boss in my first job in front of a lot of people in the office. He has just been my boss for less than two months.

The second time? Second job, arguing with the boss on the phone.

The third time, the third job, I confronted my boss in his office.

Now that I think about it, every quarrel is bad, and I was stupid at that time.

There is only one reason why you quarrel with your boss. You can't help being angry when you think you are right. There are many reasons why you are right. The boss doesn't understand you, and you can't convince him. The most important reason for quarreling is that you think the boss is not as good as you. Is it a false proposition that the boss is not as good as you and the t a is above you? Of course not. This is a bloody reality. Our imaginary self is much better than our real self. You can't even handle the relationship with your boss well, let alone well.

I don't regret or apologize after every quarrel. But when I saw that other people also solved the problem in a more euphemistic way, and this other person's workplace was smoother than mine, and the seemingly "timid" TA got everything that TA wanted, I began to reflect on myself.

Why do you quarrel with the boss? No matter how unreasonable my boss is, after all, TA has higher status and greater power than me, and holds my destiny in this company. When we first went to school, we learned that "rationality is not high", but we must practice one lesson at a time.

When you quarrel with your boss, the whole company looks at you. Even if you are a genius, it is scary to have all the evidence to prove that you are right. Because you are an uncontrollable genius, do you really need a genius for this job? If you are irreplaceable, why should you treat your work with an irreplaceable attitude?

I feel lucky so far. None of the three bosses who quarreled above gave me hard shoes. At the same time, unfortunately, I didn't meet a despicable person who killed me, which made my arrogance in the workplace continue to add fuel to the fire. Until the day I worked for ten years, I suddenly found myself a mediocre person. After working for ten years, I didn't bear the label of winner in life. I did the most work and was consciously valued by my boss, but the words of salary increase and promotion kept beating around the bush.

It suddenly dawned on me that the reason why bosses tolerate me may not be that they are generous, but that I am a useful person. I feel that I am a generous person. Ask yourself, will I promote someone I can't control? I will try my best to please and coax TA, and make him work seriously and responsibly, but I won't give him a high position, because this person is emotionally unstable, and I don't trust TA to get a high position.

Yelling in person and contradicting the boss is a taboo in the workplace, because this is not an absolutely fair, black-and-white society.