How to manipulate people's hearts from a comprehensive perspective?

Looking at people in an all-round way is to comprehensively examine a person's strengths and weaknesses, achievements and mistakes, strengths and weaknesses.

Looking at people historically means that we can't look at people in isolation from history, and we can't just look at a person's present without understanding his past.

To look at people concretely, we should not only see the similarities between a person and his group, but also see his unique personality. Specific person specific analysis.

In the process of looking at people, it is often the case that the face is summarized by points, thus affecting the understanding of a person's overall image. "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" cannot truly reflect a person's whole picture. Only by treating people as a whole can we have a more comprehensive, profound and true grasp and understanding of a person.

Therefore, judging a person should be based on the principle of fairness and justice. The so-called knowing people and being good at their duties should not only guide and promote outstanding talents, but also encourage and recommend inferior talents. Taking these three aspects into account when evaluating talents will be beneficial to the country and the collective. Otherwise, real people will be buried from now on. If there are outstanding talents, the public cannot recognize them. And most people judge others according to what they hear, thinking that their views are correct. This is a common mistake they make when examining talents.

"Zi Tongzhi Han Jianji" uploaded; On the surface, Pang Meng, the general who fought against the enemy at the end of the Eastern Han Dynasty, was humble and often did business with Liu Xiu. Guangwu trusted him very much. Emperor Guangwu said to others: "Pang Meng is also a person who can comfort six-foot orphans and send a hundred lives." It can be seen that Emperor Guangwu Liu Xiu relied heavily on Pang Meng. Liu Xiu, Guangwu Emperor, once ordered him to attack Dong Xian, the king of Haixi, together with General Gaiyan, the Tiger Tooth. Because the imperial edict was only given to Gaiyan, Pang Meng was suspicious and insecure, so he rebelled. Liu Xiu was so angry that she almost went crazy. The whole army crusaded against Pang Meng and was beheaded at the end of the month. Guangwudi only ignored Pang Meng's character based on his usual impression. Therefore, as a leader, first of all, we must have a big picture of people, not just relying on our own impressions.

Lin Zexu, a national hero, is a visionary leader in how to select and cherish talents. Almost every time he passed by, he inquired about local talents and recorded the situation of all kinds of talents in order to select people according to the quantity. What is more noteworthy is that his concept of employing people summarized from his long and profound painful experience is still thought-provoking even today. In his reply to Shao Shu, he said: "husband is the first country to attach importance to talents, but talents do not mean that there are no talents, and they are used and no one makes the best use of them." When it is not used, it is still clumsy, unable to make the best use of it, or bound by grammar, and its people's ambitions are trapped and unable to stretch, and talented people in the world are also proud. "

This is what Han Yu said: "The strategy is not in the right way, the food can't be used to the best, and it can't be solved." Obviously, I don't know his talent. Where is "there is no horse in the world"?

Lin Zexu once wrote a couplet; "All rivers run into the sea, with great tolerance; The wall stands thousands of miles, and there is no desire. " "Tolerance" means to have a broad mind and tolerate others; "Neda" is a broad-minded person, and it will be as big as a river and sea, which is a big event for me. No matter whether they are outstanding politicians or outstanding entrepreneurs at all times and in all countries, they can make use of their strengths and tolerate their weaknesses. If you don't see the strengths of others, you won't listen to different opinions. If you have shortcomings, you will be demoted. If you make mistakes, you will be exempted from punishment. This is the "world uselessness".

As a leader, it is like the sea. Therefore, the big spring can accommodate Koizumi, the pool can accommodate the big spring, the ditch can accommodate the pool, the canal can accommodate the ditch, the creek can accommodate the canal, the creek can accommodate the creek, the lake can accommodate the creek, and the river can accommodate the lake, and finally return to the sea. As long as leaders have both ability and political integrity and have measurement, there will be no disobedient people under them. If leaders can recruit talents by virtue and accommodate talents by quantity, then their career will flourish. On the contrary, if the leader's moral ability is not wide, he can't attract talents; If the measure is not grand and can't reassure people, it will inevitably bring disaster.

Since ancient times, talents have been valued for their knowledge, so the ancients said that Bole came first and Maxima came last, because only Bole had the ability to identify Maxima.

The ancients had a story about paying a lot of money for horse bones. It is said that the King of Qi wanted to buy a swift horse and asked Bole to do it for him. Bole first bought a pile of bones of a swift horse with a large sum of money. Later, the King of Qi found out and blamed him. Bole said that the bones of a maxima can still be worth a lot of money, so the living maxima will be sent to your palace soon. Sure enough, someone who had a swift horse later gave it to Qi? The story of Maxima shows that there is no shortage of people in the world, but people who can distinguish talents. As long as you have the heart to find out, even among the piles of slaves, you can find a good minister to govern the country.

To understand people correctly and scientifically, we must understand people as a whole.

First, look at people in an all-round way. Connect people's performance in all aspects with the situation. Grasp the essence and mainstream of people as a whole. You can't catch one point and ignore the rest, so you can't see Mount Tai.

Second, we should look at people historically, not only at present, but also at all their history and work.

The third is to look at people from a developmental perspective. People are constantly developing and changing in practice, so they can't stay the same or "die". We should pay attention to the dynamic changes and trends of people in all aspects and see their potential and development prospects. The fourth is to look at people in practice and pay attention to performance. Listen to what he says and watch what he does, not what he says and does. We should pay special attention to people's performance at critical moments, such as high winds like grass, horse power from a distance, and gold from fire.

In judging people, in order to avoid suspecting human errors, the employer must proceed from the objective reality, understand and inspect the identified object at multiple levels and from multiple sides, and cannot suspect that there is a big problem just because the object is too small, nor can it guess at random just because the user has a criminal record. Some people think that what they have seen and heard is true, which has been said before this book. What they have seen and heard with their own eyes may not necessarily reflect the facts. In some cases, what people say and do may be insincere and necessary. Changing the sentence "People can't help themselves in Jianghu" to "People can't help themselves in certain circumstances" has a wider scope of application.

A group of people had to cross a deserted area because of major changes. They had only one bag of rice left, so everyone chose an honest man to manage the rice and boil water for cooking. When the elders of this group were exercising, they found the young cook stealing rice. The old man is a little sad, thinking that people who have always been honest will lose their nature because they are in danger. The old man kept quiet about it, but his view of the young man has completely changed. Later, the young man died on the battlefield. When the elder mentioned this matter again, the people who were with him told him that the young man was not stealing rice, but that bird droppings had fallen into the pot. He couldn't bear to waste it, so he quietly picked up the rice and ate it. Hearing this, the elder sat for a long time.

Although Ibuki is very filial to her stepmother, she often pulls carts barefoot for her stepmother in winter. Once, there was a poison bee on his stepmother's clothes. Birch saw it and didn't have time to say hello, so she reached out and helped her stepmother take it off. Stepmother shouted: "White birch pulls my clothes!" " Gifford suspects that Birch wants to flirt with his stepmother. Unable to wash away his shame, Burch committed suicide to show his innocence.

The experience of reading people tells people that it is true that words are not as good as deeds. Because people's eyes look at people, they may have some illusions for various reasons. Therefore, to fundamentally understand people, only through practice, practice produces true knowledge. We should not only judge a person, but also focus on his practice and see how he behaves through practice. In daily life, some people can deceive people with sweet words, but it is difficult to cover up their hypocrisy with their practices. Fake action can deceive people for a while, but it can't deceive people for a lifetime. As things continue to develop, their true colors will eventually be exposed. Practice will prove that what is true is true and what is false is false.

In history, we can't identify others with the above methods, but look at others wrongly with our own hearts, and judge others' ideological activities with personal experience, common sense, opinions and inner thoughts as standards and references. There are many such lessons.

During the Northern Wei Dynasty (AD 53 1 year), Er Zhurong took control of the state affairs, and another minister, He Huan, led troops to attack Er Zhurong in the name of cleaning up your side, so he won the hearts of the people and gathered positive forces, and finally succeeded in killing the Er Zhurong family.

Er Zhurong's younger brother, Er Shilong, is a general in other provinces, recruiting and preparing for revenge. One of his departments will be called Fang Bi. At that time, he was appointed as Qingzhou secretariat. He is a famous soldier and has always been loyal to the Jules family. He rallied his men, trying to cut his arm and blood into an alliance, and worked with Qi Xin Qi Xin to help Erandao Dragon with all his heart.

Commander-in-Chief Feng is an assistant and has won his trust. He put forward a plan to Fang Bi: "Now the world is in chaos and people are unhappy. We should show sincerity. If we risk the cold and sacrifice our blood for an alliance, won't we win the hearts of people all over the world? " Is a bloody person, frank, caring, think this idea is very good, so he called all his subordinates and local people, naked in front of everyone, in the ice and snow, to Feng He.

Looking at Feng's trembling hands, he couldn't help laughing and cursing: "His grandmother is a bear, why are you shaking?" Do it quickly, I'm cold! "Encouraged feng, raised his knife and cut his chest. Unexpectedly, with a gentle push, he killed Fang Bi and took his troops to the Emperor Jiemin.

It can be seen that his people were not sure, regarded the traitor as a loyal minister, did not make good use of people, and finally died.

Any talented saint is bound to be maliciously slandered by sinister and shallow people. At first I was confused and left out, but in the end, I didn't need it. It shows that talented people are difficult to be identified and used because of the rumors and slanders of adulterers.

Although it is unlikely that modern workers will lose their lives, it is still common to ruin the career prospects of companies, so employers must be careful.

Look at people, listen to their words and observe their actions. Emphasize that people should not only listen to what they say, but also how they do it. Doing is what we call practice.

Therefore, judging people should focus on practice, from which we can know what we are like, and practice is the standard for judging people.