"Man, don't overestimate your feelings. Your relatives actually don't want you to live better than him. " what do you think?

In fact, I think this matter may not be absolute. Maybe some relatives still want us to live well, but most relatives should not want us to live better than him. In other words, relatives want you to live well, but they don't necessarily want you to live better than him.

Tell me a story of my own.

When I was a child, my family was poor, but my uncle's family was in good condition. Because my uncles' homes are in the same village, I will often go to their homes to play. At that time, my uncle was not bad to us, but one thing was that our family could never borrow money.

I remember when I was in college, when my brother got married and borrowed money from them, he basically didn't borrow a dime. My uncle also promised to buy me a big color TV when I was in college, but he didn't buy it either. At that time, I seemed to be afraid of borrowing money. I would be coldly seen when I went to my uncle's house, and my words were strange.

Later, my brother and I both found good jobs, and our income gradually improved. By our own efforts, my brother and I gradually got a house, a car and a home. At this time, uncles and cousins who once looked down on us gradually came.

What are they doing here? They came to borrow money. They think that since our two nephews and cousins are rich, we should lend them money for flowers. My brother is a sentimental person. Because of his kindness, he lent money to every uncle, but as a result, he never paid it back, which made both sides laugh rather than laugh about paying back the money. And because I remember my childhood, I refused to borrow money. It is also because I refuse to borrow money, my uncle's family are too lazy to contact me, and I am too lazy to take care of it. I don't even want them to contact me, because once they do, nothing good will happen.

In fact, I have seen through several uncles. When we have a bad life, it is absolutely impossible to get some benefits from them. And when we had a good life, they came to curry favor with us and tried to steal from us. If you don't get the benefits, you will have nothing to do with us anymore.

So, I think many times relatives don't really want you to live better than them. Even if they want you to live better than them, they want to get some benefits from you for nothing. Of course, there may be some relatives who sincerely wish you a better life than them, but not many.

In my opinion, even if there are relatives who want me to live worse than him, I will still attach importance to this affection of my relatives! Because, the views of relatives can't affect my life, and if my life is missing the affection of a relative, the most basic point is that when I go back to my hometown for the New Year, I will lose the taste of the New Year!

Parents are born with emotions. Since we were born, our seven aunts, seven uncles, seven aunts and seven uncles have been around us, as well as those cousins. They are all related to our blood, and they are all blood relatives. I think at this point, the vast majority of relatives still hope that everyone will live a happy and healthy life. As for the few people who want you to be inferior to him, this will not affect your family ties, because his views will not affect your life, how you should live, and how you live. Just one thing, let's not undermine each other!

Man, don't overestimate your affection. Relatives are afraid that you are better off than him.

This sentence is not groundless, and it is also true in my husband's house. Two brothers and one sister, just these three brothers and sisters, don't get along well. My husband is the second child. At that time, my brother and two children were brought up by grandparents until they lived in high school. My husband and I also know that my in-laws are too busy to talk. She gave birth to a second child in 2006 and took it to kindergarten. Life pressure is getting bigger and bigger. It happens that my brother's eldest son is married and his youngest son is working. I want my mother-in-law to come and pick up the children. I'm going out to find a job. Now my brother can't do it. I want my mother-in-law to take care of her grandson. He is the boss, and he is very interested. My mother-in-law is afraid of him and dare not bring it to us. Finally, there is no way. Husband earns money alone, two children go to school, living expenses are not enough, and they have to work overtime. My husband and I discussed doing some small business and having time to send our children to school. The better the business, the better the life. My father-in-law saw that we were very busy, so he came to show us the game. Now my brothers and sisters are unhappy and always find fault with his father for help.

Anyway, their brother and sister have the same personality and thoughts. I feel uncomfortable to see that you are much better. I'm afraid you are better than them. If they are in trouble, they can only help them. You want them to help you. There is no way. If you don't do well, they want to see your jokes. If you are better than them, they are afraid that you will hate you. I really don't know what they are!

Therefore, the sentence "Don't overestimate your family, relatives are afraid that you are better off than him" is simply reflected in my husband's brother and sister! I wonder if you have such a brother and sister around you?

It's hard to draw a conclusion in one sentence whether it overestimates or underestimates family ties!

Because the situation of each of us and each family is different, and the way of understanding and thinking of relatives and friends is different, then it determines what the relationship between relatives is like!

True affection is what you call overestimating affection. Such relatives (including parents, brothers, sisters and other relatives and friends) don't care whether you are rich or poor. They will treat you as always and will think of how to help you when you are in trouble!

There is a relative in my family. I call him cousin. His grandmother and my grandmother are sisters. Although we are distant relatives, we have been in contact for generations and have a very good relationship! And my cousin's uncle's house. At that time, my cousin was too poor and broke up with his cousin's house!

However, some family relationships are different. Get close to you if you have money, and alienate you if you don't have money. As the saying goes, "Nobody asks you if you are poor in downtown, but you have distant relatives in the mountains"!

There is also a kind of affection, even if the blood relationship is closer, he will not say it, but he hopes that you will have a bad life and that you are not as good as him!

Before, there were two brothers in our village, who were close friends, cursed each other, kept away from each other, and even strangers.

Therefore, whether you overestimate your family and whether your relatives want you to live better than him can basically make a more accurate judgment according to your actual situation!

Hello, I'm the ancient city police. I understand this sentence (man, don't overestimate your family, your relatives actually don't want you to live better than him), and my opinion only represents myself. First of all, everyone is selfish, and everyone has his own ideas in his heart. Everyone wants to show their sense of superiority and pride in life and career, so that relatives and friends around them can look at themselves with new eyes. Relatives will compete with each other, no matter how my children are, how your children are. Often those who have advantages are in high spirits, and those who have no advantages are humiliated. Flattery is the most common phenomenon among relatives now. You have led a good life by your own efforts. When relatives meet, I say he has a future. You see, people nowadays have the ability to do big business and be big bosses. If you need money to talk, your relatives will lend it to you. Your life is bad, your investment fails, your relatives don't even want to look at you when they meet, and they laugh at you behind your back. I told you there was nothing he could do. You see, he is poorer now and has no skills. He thinks about getting rich every day, doesn't do serious work, and doesn't see if he is the right material. If you want to borrow some money, you are pushing it. Either you just lent it out, or you are short of money recently. Find someone else. I think this phenomenon is common in everyone's family life. Sometimes relatives are really not as good as good friends around them. I am happy for you to see that you are developing well. Seeing that you failed, I will try my best to help you make a comeback. There is an old saying that when people are hungry, don't eat onions and burn their hearts. Don't leave your relatives if you are poor. It's chilling. Life is different, put your mind right. I often share with you what I say to myself. I treat everyone around me with a normal heart. I don't flatter you if you are rich, and I don't slander you if you are poor. You are all my relatives and friends. I'm right about everyone around me. I just need to ask people around me.

Eight of the ten deceived people were cheated by relatives and friends. In criminal cases, why do the police always investigate from the people around the victim? Because usually the most motivated person is the person closest to the victim.

I have a friend who took wedding photos with her fiance for the wedding, but at this moment, her fiance had an accident.

It turned out that the honest and kind-hearted fiance was soft-hearted at the moment, and he couldn't stand the cousin's repeated begging and made a guarantee for his cousin. As soon as his cousin got the money, he ran away, leaving no one alive or dead. Before long, my cousin's family disappeared for no reason.

Millions of dollars fell on her fiance at once, even if he sold all his property, it was still far from enough. There is no wedding room, no money for the wedding, and a lot of money is owed.

Friends go home and cry. When my friend's parents learned about the situation, they resolutely opposed this marriage. First, I don't want my daughter to marry and suffer. Second, I feel that this son-in-law has no brains and is not worth entrusting.

In this way, a beautiful marriage was soaked in the soup. A good man with good economic conditions and good career feelings was ruined by his relatives.

Don't always think that relatives are relatives, they will never harm you. When people are desperate, they like to start with people around them.

After all, every man for himself and the devil take the hindmost.

No matter when, people can't harm people's hearts, but it is indispensable to prevent people's hearts.

Relatives with similar blood ties and the same ancestors are our fetters in this world. We should often walk around and exchange warmth.

However, relatives are just relatives, not family. They should have a sense of boundaries, be shy and be alert.

Never overestimate your affection, and never let yourself be hurt by it, otherwise you will hurt your body, but your heart will get cold.

Every time I go home, my seven aunts and eight aunts will come to see you. Ask about salary, ask about health, ask about playing with feelings, and ask about home.

Don't be moved, they don't care about you as much as you think. They just want to satisfy their gossip, and they just want to make sure that you and their children have a good life.

At their age, the only thing that can be compared is their own children. Your life sucks. They may also be chilling, but if you live a better life, they will be 100% jealous of you.

Ma Yun said that the only people in the world who really want you to be well at any time and in any situation are your parents.

Compared with others, especially those around you, you are jealous, especially those who like to be jealous. This has always been a common problem of human beings. Your relatives are no exception.

So relatives can come and go, but pay attention to these three points.

The first point. Don't tell your relatives everything.

Use hydrogen lightly, but don't talk too close to hydrogen, no matter how good or bad, you can only talk half.

The second point. Don't bother your relatives too much.

You're disturbing him. He is just gossiping outside. Say all kinds of bad things about you.

The third point. Don't trust your relatives too much.

Remember that people are sinister, and you can trust your loved ones. He may pit you to death. Don't you know what's going on

That's right [slapping me in the face] Take me for example ... I am 3 1 years old or single dog. My relatives at home said they introduced me to someone, and I haven't introduced him for years. Then, as a dutiful son, I often keep my salary with my mother, almost 300 thousand. I saved it for my wife. When those relatives found out, they borrowed all the money, and my mother was also coaxed.

There is a small bank in the town that is not protected by law. If relatives invest money, the interest is high, so people who don't know anything about my mother also invest tens of thousands of dollars every month to get interest. Suddenly the boss ran away, and my mother didn't know. When I arrived in the town, I found that the door was locked, and my relatives took out all the money one month in advance without saying anything. Now the boss comes to our house and says he can't get his money back. I am still very happy.

Now I have my parents' card and passbook with me. Those relatives all know that I am unfilial. They said in front of my parents that I wouldn't give them money. I go back to my parents' house every month to buy rice flour oil and pay 500 yuan for living expenses. After all, the consumption in the town is not very high, but it is generally enough. Water and electricity are only paid once a year. Those relatives rush me blindly every day. In fact, they are just greedy for our spare money. Hey [black line]

Your relatives actually don't want you to live better than him.

Modern people are becoming more and more indifferent. They don't really want to be indifferent, but more and more people pretend to be good to themselves.

Whenever a group of relatives get together, you will always receive each other's "kindness" inexplicably.

Every time I go home, my seven aunts and eight aunts will come to see you and be caring and attentive by your side. Ask about the salary after finishing, ask about health, and ask about the emotional destination after finishing.

Don't be moved, they don't care about you as much as you think, they just want to satisfy their gossip. They just want to make sure you have their children.

At their age, the only thing they can compare with is their own children. If you live a miserable life, they may feel distressed, but if you live a little better, they will be 100% jealous.

Don't tell your relatives everything. Be close to your relatives, but not too close. Talk to relatives, good or bad, only half.

Similarly, if you are down and out, don't let your relatives know. Because I really care about you, and there are very few people who want to help you. There are not a few people who laugh at you and even hit people when they are down.

Relatives with similar blood ties and the same ancestors are our fetters in this world. We should often walk around and exchange warmth.

However, relatives are just relatives, not family. They should have a sense of boundaries, be shy and be alert.

Never overestimate your affection, and never let yourself be hurt by it, otherwise you will hurt your body, but your heart will get cold.