On the first day after marriage, the daughter-in-law offered tea to her mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law said, "Daughter-in-law, give me the bride price money." What should I do?

Two people in love have deep feelings, and marriage is a small matter between parents. A woman may not consider the man's family when she is in love, but when she is married, she must carefully understand the personality of the man's parents and lover before deciding whether to get married. The shortcomings of parents seem simple, but in fact they are extremely complicated. Including trivia between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, trivia between husband and wife, trivia between family and in-laws, and so on. Women are very picky and don't understand. Marrying rashly in the past is likely to lead to unhappy marriage and the breakdown of marriage relationship. Don't think that you will be happy if you marry the person you love, and don't think that you will be happy if you marry the rich. Getting married is not that simple.

Married to the person he loves, the man has no responsibility and sense of responsibility, the woman will not be happy, married to the rich, the husband's family is stingy, the woman can't enjoy a good material life, and she is angry with the husband's family everywhere. The grievances and pains can be imagined, and marriage is not happy. When a woman marries, it is very important for a man to take responsibility. Secondly, it depends on the character of the man's parents. It is an indispensable condition for a woman to marry a responsible man. As for the character of the husband's family, we can attach importance to it or ignore it. After all, perfect marriages are rare, and perfect in-laws are even less. Women can only get a perfect and happy marriage if they don't get married blindly and impulsively.

I wrote this article because I met a friend in my life. She loved a man very much, but because her mother-in-law was stingy, she chose to go back to her mother's house on the first day after marriage, drafted a divorce agreement and ended her marriage.

Yu Mei is a kindergarten teacher, born with red lips and white teeth and quiet personality. She has many matchmakers. In her heart, she has always liked Xiang Li, a community cadre. After graduating from college, Li wants to be assigned to work in the community. This young man is cheerful and sunny, enthusiastic and straightforward, and also very energetic. My parents are engaged in building materials business and their family conditions are very good. Because eldest brother Li Xiang's children work in Mei's kindergarten, they often meet, but they have no chance to get to know each other better.

The director saw Yu Mei's mind. Her family is Li Xiang's neighbor, so she wanted to make a good match for the perfect match. Only she hesitated, found Yu Mei, smiled and said, "Daughter, if you want Li Xiang, I will tell him. I watched this young man grow up and have a good personality, but there were some minor problems when you got married. " When Yu Mei heard that the director was going to match the bridge, she blushed. When she saw her faltering, she became nervous and asked anxiously, "Does he have any congenital diseases?" The director was happy: "Look at you, where did you get sick? What worries me is that Li Xiang's mother is a good player who hates money, but she is also a well-known cheapskate. The money in her hand is only allowed to go in and out. " After hearing this, Yu Mei's expression relaxed a lot: "Li Xiang and I both have jobs and wages, and we don't point to her for support. Old people have the habit of thrift. " Yu Mei, who has no experience, just considers people.

After a year of love, Li Xiang and Yu Mei got married. The wedding was grand and romantic.

According to custom, on the first day after marriage, the newly married wife should respect her mother-in-law for tea to show filial piety. Of course, Yu Mei wants to impress her mother-in-law. She got up early, put on delicate makeup after washing and dressing up, and put on a cheongsam woven with red gold thread, which was a celebration. She and Li Xiang knelt on the mat in front of her in-laws and respectfully handed the tea bowl to her mother-in-law: "Mom, have tea." Mother-in-law "well", end in the past. However, Yumei is puzzled. My mother-in-law didn't drink this cup of tea, and then looked up at her with a democratic face. Li Mei's heart sank. Did she do something wrong this morning?

My mother-in-law sat there and said solemnly, "Yu Mei, in order to marry you, I gave your family 20 thousand yuan as a bride price." Your family is not short of money, and it is not easy for my family to make money. You both have jobs, daughter-in-law, please give me the bride price. "

I have always heard that my mother-in-law is short of money, but she asked her for a bride price on the first day of tea worship, which made Yu Mei feel incredible. She said seriously, "mom, it's just a custom to give a bride price, just to look good on face." Besides, my mother's family also gave it to you. Others are hundreds of thousands, and my parents will gladly accept it if you give it to 20,000. " Now you want to go back? "

My mother-in-law sneered, "You don't know what to do. We do business, and the money is in the goods. This 20 thousand yuan is my working capital. "

In mei with a wry smile, she knew that the husband's family's economic strength, at least millions of savings, how do you need to wait for the bride price of twenty thousand yuan to reverse the dry Kun? Everything stems from her meanness and selfishness. Daughter-in-law has no place in her eyes, only money is worth cherishing.

Yu Mei stood up angrily, turned back to the bedroom and simply packed her clothes. He ignored Li Xiang's stop and returned to her house. Her mother-in-law's excessive demands disgusted her and she was extremely disappointed with this marriage. She didn't feel any warmth and care, only felt chilling.

I don't advise my friends to follow Yu Mei's story. Since I understood my mother-in-law's meanness and meanness before marriage, I should know what I will face after marriage. You shouldn't end your marriage in a rage because of the bride price, no matter what your man thinks. In fact, the problem of Yumei is easy to solve. When her mother-in-law embarrassed herself, Yu Mei first asked Li Xiang what she thought. If he realizes his mother's behavior, Yu Mei will choose to divorce again. If Li Xiang also thinks that her mother did something wrong and stood on Mei's side to help Yu Mei, then if Yu Mei divorced rashly, she would really miss a good husband. Mother-in-law's meanness and meanness have little effect on a woman's marriage, but the key depends on her man's personality. If men are responsible, Yu Mei will be unhappy with her mother-in-law, but due to the coordination between men, the marriage will be happy. The mother-in-law is stingy and treats her daughter-in-law as an outsider. Daughter-in-law regardless of mother-in-law, stay away from such mother-in-law and live a good life with her husband.

If the mother-in-law interferes with the marriage, let the husband come forward to solve it. Let the husband be responsible for the pension problem in the future. There's no need to be too impulsive. Go back to your mother's house on the first day of marriage, and then choose to divorce. Marriage is no joke. You must think it over. If you really can't accept the bad behavior of your future mother-in-law, then don't marry. If you know the mother-in-law's personality, you should learn to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage. You can neither be bullied by your mother-in-law nor let her interfere in your marriage at will. Don't choose to get married and divorce before you know that your mother-in-law has bad conduct and ask your husband about his mother's views and attitudes.

Advise some women: don't treat marriage as a child's play, and choose divorce after marriage. I'm not defending a bad mother-in-law, but because women are not worth it. I finally chose a man who can be my lifelong companion, but I ended my marriage hastily because of a bad mother-in-law's words. This is not only irresponsible for your own happiness, but also hurts the man who loves you. No matter how bad the mother-in-law's conduct is, if the husband is responsible, then she can't stand much trouble and still enjoy herself in marriage. Women should remember one sentence: men's responsibility and responsibility are the foundation of women's marital happiness, and others can't influence their own marital happiness. If you marry someone, don't divorce on impulse. When a man who is very critical of himself has no sense of responsibility and responsibility, it is not too late to choose divorce. Otherwise, it's really not worth missing someone who can bring you happiness.