Nezha broke 4 billion, which pain points did it hit the modern family?

I saw Nezha a few days ago, and I burst into tears several times. ...

1. Little Nezha has no friends, so he can only stay in the yard, and his mother can only play football with him ... Seeing this, I shed tears. The child's nature is to play, which binds him, and he will definitely be sad.

2. Nezha has a strong nature. His parents don't let him go out, and everyone who goes out avoids him ... whether he is isolated in the group or at work, he must be sad.

3. When going out to play with children, everyone avoids him except a little girl who is not afraid of him. Little Nezha was not very happy at that time ... In the group, if others are avoiding you, it must be your friend who stands up and understands you.

4. Nezha made friends at the seaside, but saved people but was wronged by the villagers ... At this time, Nezha should have been wronged, but it was really sad that he was misunderstood by others when he did something good.

Nezha's parents invited many people to celebrate her birthday. Nezha invited his only friend, but I didn't expect it to be his own enemy ... At this moment, I also cried. Sometimes everyone will hurt us except our best friends.

In order to protect the safety of Nezha, my father traded his life for Nezha's. Nezha knew, but refused. Finally, he faced the disaster himself ... all parents in the world love their children, and even at any time, parents will always protect their children. This is the greatness of family ties.

Of course, I think everyone was moved by that sentence: My life is not up to me!

Accompanied by many parents, I gave my children to his grandparents, regardless of my own children. When I get home, I just work, or I don't go home at all. I can't see my children all day, and my children can't see my parents. Nezha's parents didn't give him corresponding care for his performance. They're all ghosts. Nobody cares about Nezha. Nezha did this because he was not accompanied by his parents.

Although we don't have three short years like Nezha, who can guarantee that I don't need my parents' company?

Parents who force their children to be excellent but never care about their children's hearts believe that people who have seen movies are not only infected by Nezha's super-burning plot, but also moved by Jing Li's deep love for their son.

You know, in the past film and television works, Excavate was the representative of patriarchy, dignified, cold and inhuman. Even people like Chen Tangguan regarded Nezha, who committed crimes everywhere, as a demon, and he didn't know what to do. But in this Nezha, Jing Li has been trying to eliminate other people's prejudice against Nezha. On the road of growing up, he played the role of a loving father, a mentor and a lighthouse, and constantly influenced Nezha with deep love. Especially when learning that Nezha would be punished by lightning when he was 3 years old, Li Jing quickly begged Taiyi to take him to heaven to intercede. Without saying anything, he chose to die for his son with his own life.

On the occasion of his third birthday, Li Jing even said, "Even if you ask one by one, please invite all the people in Chentangguan to celebrate your son's birthday." The heart of fatherly love is really comparable to the sun and the moon.

Compared with the East China Sea Dragon King who lives next door, his love for Ao Bing is a little rough and blunt.

The Dragon King of the East China Sea never cared what Ao Bing wanted. He just selfishly put all his ambitions on him, gave him a spirit bead, dressed him in dragon armor, and wanted him to regain the prestige of the dragon and get rid of the notoriety. With the hope of the whole people, Ao Bing was forced to embark on the road of "burying Chen Tangguan alive". Until the duel with Nezha, I was awakened by Nezha's crying, followed my heart and stopped living for my father. Now it seems that the East China Sea Dragon King, who raised his children to be strong, is very similar to those parents who impose their dreams on their children in life? In order to continue their ideals and glory, many parents send their children to training institutions they don't like, help them choose their favorite majors, find a promising job for their children, and even arrange lifelong events ...

What if the child becomes more obedient and better? But that's not what he likes. He is unhappy. He may live in pain and depression. Have you ever cared? …

Why is there such a heartbreaking tragedy as the killing of Goofy's mother, the suicide of a 15-year-old versatile girl at Peking University, and the depression of a 15-year-old child?

It's not just because parents or schools have put too much pressure on them and placed too much hope on them!

They dare not lag behind, excel or speak freely. Those unbearable burdens can only be borne alone in a self-enclosed world!

So as parents, can you try to be gentle and rational on the road of "parenting"?

Can you learn to teach him from the perspective of children first?

Can children do what they like and dominate their own lives?

I wonder if parents have ever felt this way.

When I came home from work, I was exhausted. Seeing children playing football in the living room, running around, taking off their shoes, putting on slippers, walking to the front of the sofa, lying comfortably and taking out their mobile phones, they want to watch TV quietly or have a quiet rest. At this time, the child suddenly ran to your side and picked up the football to hit you. For the first time, you said patiently.

"Baby lovely! Dad is tired and wants to have a rest. Go and play by yourself first, ha! "

The child said "Oh" and left.

Just calm down, a football hit you on the head with a bang.

Then, you got angry. You have never seen such a disobedient child. Why is your child so stubborn? I work hard to earn money to support you. Can't you give me a break?

Maybe you beat him up, maybe you yelled at him, maybe he would cry, or he just ran away from home.

Is education really that difficult?

The child just wants you to play with him for a while. Can't you make such a simple request?

In Nezha, Nezha's mother sacrificed her life to play shuttlecock with Nezha. Doesn't she know it hurts? Doesn't she know that her children are strong? Of course she knows, but she knows that the child needs her company. If she stays a little longer, the child will be happy for a while.

Contrary to his mother, Li Jing certainly loves Nezha deeply. He can trade his life for Nezha's, but he ignores the most important point, which is companionship. It is this trivial negligence that, at the end of the story, Nezha was almost blacked out by Shen Chenggong's provocation, and it was this negligence that almost became the biggest regret at the last critical moment.

Maybe you want to give children a lot of things. You earn money hard, buy him the best clothes, feed him the best meals, and enroll him in many talent classes, so that he can not only win at the starting line, but also run much faster than others on the road of life. You try very hard to put a lot of things on him, but you don't know what he wants most is his parents, their company and their understanding. They are children, and what they want most is the simplest thing.

Therefore, when you complain that your child is disobedient and unruly, don't worry about whether you have educated your child well and spent time and patience. You don't teach and preach seriously at ordinary times. Why should he listen to you when you give birth to him and raise him? Educating children is simple, but it is not that simple.

It took only 1 hour 29 minutes for the film to break through 100 million, setting a new record for domestic animated films to break through 100 million for the first time in a single day. Douban scored as high as 8.7, and Cat's Eye and Taobao movies scored 9.7 and 9.6 respectively.

From the beginning, the film tells the story that the Buddha of the Yuan Dynasty made a huge mixed bead into a spiritual bead and a divine pill. Taiyi real person was ordered to send Zhu Ling to Li Jing's home in Chentangguan, but Zhu Zero and Shenwan were switched by mistake.

Nezha, who was supposed to be a hero of Zhu Ling, became a veritable incarnation of the devil, and the film officially opened the road to Nezha's transformation.

Parents' best love for their children is companionship

Because of the "God Pill", people all know that Nezha, born with divine power, will harm the world. They are afraid of him, discriminate against him, throw stones at him, and no one wants to be friends with him.

Mr. and Mrs. Li Jing were worried about Nezha's accident and kept him at home. In order to eliminate people's prejudice against Nezha, Mrs. Yin, Nezha's mother, is busy exorcising demons and comforting people every day, and even takes time to kick shuttlecock with Nezha.

In the face of Nezha's dissatisfaction, she always said "I'll play with you enough next time", but Nezha didn't wait until next time.

Is this very much like us who are usually very busy and are overwhelmed by various expenses such as mortgage, car loan and children's cram school every day?

Facing the child's simple request of "Mom, can you play with me for a while", we looked at the mountain of work and could only refuse the child again and again with a guilty face and told him to accompany him when he was free.

In order to change the spell that Nezha was destroyed by lightning three years later, his father Li Jing spent a year looking for a way to save him, even at the expense of his son.

Father loves nothing, and Jing Li's love for children is great, but it is also regrettable. Because Nezha didn't want his father to change his life for his life, he tore up the symbols that changed his life and fought against Thunder alone.

In the film, Nezha's sentence "My only regret in this life is that I can't play shuttlecock with you" made countless people cry.

Yes, we are as busy as a top every day, trying our best to give our children the best life. In this way, what children want most is the company of their parents.

There is a description in Intimacy:

When a child's psychological needs are not met, he will feel that he has no sense of belonging, that he is not important, and that he is not worthy of being loved. These minor injuries will accumulate in the subconscious.

When you grow up, you will become sensitive and inferior, afraid of rejection, fear of being denied, and fear of being abandoned.

The warmth of family and the companionship of parents are the most important backgrounds of children's lives, which will warm their hearts and make them grow into healthy and happy people.

Harvard psychologist Gilbert has a famous saying: Ten years later, you won't regret missing a project, but you will regret not spending an extra hour with your children.

A child's childhood is only once, and he can earn it again without money, but the child's growth process has been missed for a lifetime.

Good kids love to brag.

Nezha is naughty and always makes trouble. Although Mr. and Mrs. Li Jing have a headache, they never say anything that hurts their children.

Mrs Yin knows that Nezha seems stubborn, but in fact she is kind-hearted. He deliberately played practical jokes on the people to scare them, but he was very angry and accused them of being biased against himself.

In order to comfort their son, Li Jing and his wife lied that he was reincarnated as a spirit bead, and the purpose of reincarnation was to help the people cut off demons. Nezha believed it and practiced hard. Later, he really saved the people from fire and water and became a hero in everyone's eyes.

In the popular movie Looking Up, Ma Fei was half a beat slower than others when he was a child, and was dubbed by teachers and classmates as "missing a string". Ma Fei's mother also thinks that he is born more stupid than others.

Even the closest people define themselves in this way, and the only fire of hope left in Ma Fei's heart is extinguished. He is gradually tired of learning, self-abased, broken and broken, accompanied by suicidal thoughts.

Ma Haowen, his father who has been away from home for many years, firmly believes that Ma Fei is very smart. He responded to those who questioned his son: "My son is not stupid at all!" "He will be the best child in this school."

Ma Fei passed the penultimate exam. Ma Haowen saw his son's slight progress and praised him as a genius. Encouraged by his father, Ma Fei regained his self-confidence and turned from the penultimate to become an excellent astronaut.

Ma Fei said, "It was my father's love and trust that changed my life."

Fu, the Olympic champion, mistakenly entered the swimming world because of asthma. When she showed her talent in the swimming competition, Fu's father proudly praised her daughter for "you are the best" and "you are a genius" regardless of other people's strange eyes.

Fu also admitted that it was her father's unconditional trust and encouragement that gave her the courage to break through all kinds of difficulties and obstacles.

Educator Chen Heqin once said: No matter what you want your children to do, what kind of people you want to be, what kind of things you want to learn, what kind of knowledge you want to seek and what kind of problems you want to study, you should have a magic weapon, encouragement, that is, encouragement and motivation.

Parents' mouths determine their children's future! The best way to make children grow up in a good direction is to praise them.

When a child encounters setbacks, even contempt and hostility, parents' unconditional trust and encouragement are the driving force for his inner growth, which can ignite his inner fire, help him dispel the haze, regain self-confidence and become a better self. Let the children be themselves,

It is the best gift for parents to give their children.

Louise Hay said: Life is about finding yourself. Your only task is to go deep into your heart and know who you are.

Nezha, the "magic pill", is destined to be the embodiment of evil in the eyes of the world. But Li Jing said to Nezha: "Don't care about other people's opinions, you just have to be yourself!" If you don't accept your fate, it's Nezha's life. "

This passage of Li Jing is an important reason that influenced Nezha to change his destiny and become a hero of salvation.

And "Zhu Ling" Prince Ao Bing originally represented the embodiment of kindness and justice, but he was destined to be a demon when he was born, and he also shouldered the hope of turning the whole Dragon family into serfs and making great strides, but he was helpless and went astray, drowning the Tangchen River.

It is Nezha's phrase "My destiny depends on my destiny" that makes Ao Bing understand that the secular vision is to imprison his destiny. As long as you don't accept your fate, you can break the secular concept and be yourself.

Just like in the movie Forrest Gump, Forrest Gump is an imbecile with low intelligence and a strap on his leg. The students laughed at him as a fool, pushed him out and insulted him.

Although Forrest Gump's mother is an extremely ordinary woman, she has never bound Forrest Gump with her own eyes and those of others. Her eyes firmly said to Forrest Gump, "You are like everyone else" and "You are not a fool, but a fool who does stupid things".

Before her mother died, she lay in her hospital bed and said, "I am destined to be your mother." I will try my best to do it well. I believe you can change your destiny. "

This great mother has made Forrest Gump's extraordinary life with freedom and love, so Forrest Gump can definitely live his life in his own way!

Yin Jianli, an education expert, said: The real high-level education is to let children be themselves, become free people, and become the people they originally expected and liked.

In the process of children's growth, the best gift parents give their children is to help tear off the labels on their children, guide them to develop in a positive and optimistic direction, give them confidence, encourage them not to care about other people's opinions, stick to their original intentions and face them bravely.

May every parent nourish their children with love and trust, let them have a free, independent and healthy personality and explore a broader life.

Be yourself

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If prejudice is a mountain,

Then try to be strong,

Go and conquer it!

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Movie theme song

There is no doubt that this summer was bombed by a domestic animation.

"Nezha" has gained a good reputation in "off the charts" with its magnificent giant system, super-burning pictures, hilarious jokes and those pain points that make people cry. Only five days after its release, it broke the box office record of1200 million yuan.

We rediscovered Nezha, who grew tenaciously in rebellion, and redefined Excavate, who became soft in majesty.

We see ourselves who are not treated well by the world, and we also find ourselves who are not resigned to the world.

We are stung by "the prejudice of human heart is a mountain" and moved by "my life depends on myself".

At the movies, many people laugh and then cry.

I summed it up, the reason why Nezha attracted tears from the whole network was because it just hit the pain points of three kinds of people!

0 1

A misunderstood adult who always wants to win once.

Nezha in the film was born as a "magic boy". He was imprisoned, despised and misunderstood, and he was a little monster in everyone's eyes.

In the cruel reality, he had to wrap himself up. Pretend not to care, pretend to be free and easy, pretend not to care, hum:

"I am a little monster, carefree; Kill people without blinking an eye, eat people without adding salt. " ...

At the same time, in his heart, there is a flame, which is to prove to the world that he is not a monster! It's not a demon!

He studied practice and magic in the real life of Master Taiyi, just like his parents, in order to come out and kill the magic and tear off the inherent label that others put on him.

Who knows, after he came out, he bravely saved the little girl from the sea witch, but the villagers insisted that he was the monster who took the little girl.

People's prejudice is really a mountain, and you can't move it if you want to.

But Nezha is arrogant by nature. He didn't give in to the mountain. He wants to rewrite his destiny. If he doesn't accept his fate, it will be Nezha's life!

So there was Nezha, the hero who broke through the deadly confrontation between thunder and lightning in the final Chentangguan War.

When Aobing, the son of the Dragon King, had given in to his fate, the semi-demonized Nezha grew six arms and became a red-violet, which launched an earth-shattering contest with his own destiny.

Finally, he influenced Ao Bing with a sentence "What happened to your spirit bead"? I turned into a person with a magic pill ",which made the originally kind Ao Bing find his original heart, and together they saved Chen Tangguan.".

At this time, everyone strode towards him, nodding and kneeling, thanking them for withdrawing their prejudice and contempt for Nezha.

In life, have we ever been hurt by prejudice and interfered by colored glasses like Nezha?

You are beautiful, but you are promoted quickly, and your colleagues will say, "What's the big deal, a vase";

If you fall in love with a lover of the same sex, people will say, "What's the matter? Such a handsome man is gay. "

You obviously have a decent job, but you insist on setting up a stall. People around you will say, "You read all your books for nothing and did a worthless thing" …

All kinds of incomprehensible voices, or malicious suggestions, go straight into your heart like a barbed knife.

At some point, maybe you also want to compromise, give up and agree with others.

But more often, you think:

In this life, people always live for themselves and win for others!

As long as you work hard, as long as you are cruel, as long as you dare to say no, everything will become what you like.

It is better to be a strong man and conquer all prejudices!

You can become stronger and stronger all the way and crush those rumors with your strength;

You can spend your whole life with him of the same sex and tell others that love has never been related to gender;

You can be a small boss from a local stall owner and let people who don't know you see your light …

The world is your own. In the voice of criticism and doubt, we can still fight a transparent and clear road.

This road, right or wrong, smooth or not, depends on yourself.

02

Xiong Haizi, born imperfect, desperately wants to be affirmed.

If we are born imperfect, how can we live in peace with the world?

I have seen too many people who are unequal, unfriendly and disharmonious with the outside world.

He was born a "magic pill". Almost killed by my parents.

I saved my life, but I was locked in the compound and not allowed to leave home. I finally managed to escape, and was evaded by the villagers as a monster.

When he found a little sister to kick the shuttlecock with, a bright smile appeared on his face. Who knows, not long after, Miss Sister was taken away by her family. In their eyes, Nezha is a magical doll. How can you let your children play with him?

All this comes from the malice of the world, which makes him lonely and manic, and he feels inferior and conceited. His resistance with force and magic deepened the villagers' fear and disgust for him.

Until the battle with the sea hag, he finally met a man who was willing to really get close to him and play shuttlecock with him-Ao Bing. They became the only friends in each other's lives.

From then on, Nezha began to be playful, cute and soft.

He used to be so violent that he even ran to the seaside, made faces and personally invited Ao Bing to his 3rd birthday party. And coquetry asked the other party to come over.

This shows how important this friend is to him.

It can be seen how eager he is to be recognized by others.

It can be seen that there is a fragile and warm heart hidden under his indifferent appearance.

Seeing this, my tears are coming out. Looking at the little niece sitting by, she began to burst into tears.

I can feel that a ten-year-old girl must have seen her own shadow from Nezha.

She gave birth prematurely and suffered a lot in the hospital. When I was at school, I was often bullied by my classmates because I was short, introverted and had no friends.

In such an environment, she has no intention to study and often fails the exam. Parents think she is disobedient to Xiong Haizi; Students think she is a loner; The teacher commented that she was not serious in class.

In fact, she wants to be a "three-good student" more than anyone else, and he is eager for recognition from others more than anyone else.

After the movie, I tentatively asked her, Baby, I saw you crying. You must have learned something from Nezha, didn't you?

Unexpectedly, she secretly wiped away her tears and refuted me: no, I didn't cry! I think the movie is particularly good!

The way she pretends to be calm is really like pretending to be Nezha.

More similarly, she has a only good friend who can make her laugh, listen to her heart and play with her on the way to school.

When we walked out of the cinema, we saw a roadside stall. She shouted excitedly, aunt, I want to buy this girlfriend necklace. I have a pair with my best friend. It must look good in it.

I bought it for her without saying anything. Even if the whole world doesn't understand her, at least a beam of light can illuminate her, which is also hope.

I just hope her thoughts can warm more people.

I also hope that she can find a better self and be treated gently by the world.

03

Parents who force their children to be excellent but never pay attention.

I believe that people who have seen movies will not only be infected by Nezha's over-burning plot, but also be moved by Jing Li's deep love for his son.

You know, in the past film and television works, Excavate was the representative of patriarchy, dignified, cold and inhuman. Even people like Chen Tangguan regarded Nezha, who committed crimes everywhere, as a demon, and he didn't know what to do.

But everywhere, Jing Li has been trying to eliminate other people's prejudice against Nezha. On the road of growing up, he played the role of a loving father, a mentor and a lighthouse, and constantly influenced Nezha with his fatherly love.

Especially when learning that Nezha would be punished by lightning when he was 3 years old, Li Jing quickly begged Taiyi to take him to heaven to intercede. Without saying anything, he chose to die for his son with his own life.

On the occasion of his third birthday, Li Jing even said, "Even if you ask one by one, please invite all the people in Chentangguan to celebrate your son's birthday." The heart of loving your son is really comparable to the sun and the moon.

Compared with the East China Sea Dragon King who lives next door, his love for Ao Bing is a little rough and blunt.

The Dragon King of the East China Sea never cared what Ao Bing wanted. He just selfishly put all his ambitions on him, gave him a spirit bead, dressed him in dragon armor, and wanted him to regain the prestige of the dragon and get rid of the notoriety.

With the hope of the whole people, Ao Bing was forced to embark on the road of "burying Chen Tangguan alive". Until the duel with Nezha, I was awakened by Nezha's crying, followed my heart and stopped living for my father.

Now it seems that the East China Sea Dragon King, who raised his children to be strong, is very similar to those parents who impose their dreams on their children in life?

In order to continue their ideals and glory, many parents send their children to training institutions they don't like, help them choose their disliked majors, find a promising job for their children, and even arrange lifelong events. ...

What if the child becomes more obedient and better? But that's not what he likes. He is unhappy. He may live in pain and depression. Have you ever cared?

Why are there heartbreaking tragedies such as the killing of Gao Fei's mother, Peking University, 15-year-old versatile girl's suicide, and 8-year-old child's depression?

It's not just because parents or schools have put too much pressure on them and placed too much hope on them!

They dare not lag behind, excel or speak freely.

Those unbearable burdens can only be borne alone in a self-enclosed world!

Therefore, as parents, on the road of "parenting",

Can you try to be gentle and rational?

Can you learn to teach him from the perspective of children first?

Can children do what they like and dominate their own lives?

Just like Mr. and Mrs. Jing Li in the movie, even if they know that the child is a "devil", they should give him the best love.

Let him live in his own way, let him learn to take responsibility, rewrite his own destiny, let him live like a "magic pill" and become a "person" ...

Finally, I want to say:

Although your child is a magical doll "Nezha", you can try to be a loving father "Li Jing"!

Meet someone better,

Myself.

Ze Xiaozhe &; Qiu meilv

Without emotion, the heart is like a wasteland.

No reason, weakness

Without yourself, there is no life.

Don't smash the house and uncover the tiles for three days.

Family support and friendship

1, communication. In the film, Nezha escaped from the sea witch and returned to the little girl, but was misunderstood by the villagers. However, after Excavate and Taiyi arrived, they just tied Nezha up with mixed silk, thinking that there was no chance to defend Nezha, and they didn't communicate with Nezha after returning home, which led to Nezha being wronged and becoming more and more rebellious. This is just like our modern family education. Their children fight with others at school, and parents do not communicate with their children normally, but blindly take mistakes, blame and blame.

2. companionship. Nezha's lonely figure can always be seen in the film. People around him regard him as a monster and don't want to play with him. Simply kicking shuttlecock with Mrs. Yin and Mr. Aobing can make Nezha feel happy. It can be seen that companionship is what Nezha needs most, and it is also what children and the elderly in modern families need most. Children's lack of parents' company leads to personality defects, and the elderly will feel lost without children's company, so the most lacking in the family is companionship.

3. innocence. Although the fate of the two protagonists in the film has been doomed to justice and evil, their innocence has made them best friends and finally changed their fate. The education of modern families has made children influenced by society very early, and their inferiority and secularization are becoming more and more serious, so innocence is becoming more and more indispensable in today's families.