My mother-in-law and father-in-law always spoil their grandchildren. How can I convince them?

In China, in-laws are traditional parents. They are hardworking and love their children. Their greatest happiness in life is to pay for their children and grandchildren. They really love their children and grandchildren and devote themselves to them. How to determine the doting of parents-in-law on children? In short, as long as the grandson wants, he will pick the sun and moon in the sky. Usually manifested in:

Buy expensive toys for children; ? As long as children like toys, they will buy them; ? As long as the child wants to eat, he knows that snacks and junk food are useless, but he still wants to buy them. ? As long as children want to watch TV and mobile phones, they can watch them anytime and anywhere. When a child makes a mistake, all the mistakes can be erased as long as the child cries and makes a scene. Allow children to communicate with their parents-in-law in impolite words, even if they don't correct them. Due to incorrect doting, these spoiled children often become selfish, timid and picky eaters. When you encounter problems, you will only shrink back, ask for help or even blame others, and become self-centered.

As parents of children, it should be clear that the goal of the elderly is for the good of children, and your goal is for the good of children, but your three views are different. There is no contradiction or hatred between you. Seeing through contradictions and finding unity is the solution. The way is to let the old people give their love and satisfy their persistence.

As parents and children, we should learn to be cuter than your children and need the elderly more. Let the old people concentrate on you, and naturally we will have no energy to hang on your children. As parents and children, we don't need to argue and theorize with our old people. Just need weak mom and dad! I need you. Sometimes, the elderly just need an emotional sustenance, which will make them feel warm. In short, let the old man put this feeling and warmth on you. They are willing to take the same position as you. The discipline of children is based on your words and deeds. They only play a supervisory role in educating children. The initiative to educate children is returned to parents. Children can naturally feel the warmth of the family from their parents-in-law, and bad behavior will naturally be corrected.