But not as people who have been poor together know (everyone knows, but not as people who have been poor together know)

As we all know, we often encounter popular proverbs in our daily life, which are either a high summary of life experience or people's yearning for a better life. For example, people often encounter "distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors" in daily life, which means that neighbors are more meaningful than distant relatives when they encounter difficulties in daily life.

There are many common sayings about husband and wife, such as "Take Mei Qi as an example", "Husband and wife have no overnight enmity", "Couples who give up halfway will always be thieves", "Husband and wife are United, and their profits will be cut off" and so on. However, there is a proverb about couples that is often used between poor couples, "but not as those who are poor together know."

Ordinary married people will tell you, "but not like those who have been poor together." This is not just talk, but a very realistic problem. According to the literal meaning, that is to say, the family's economic foundation is poor, and conflicts are easy to occur between husband and wife. However, this sentence in history is contrary to today's meaning, and there is another sentence in front.

This sentence comes from the second poem of Three Sorrow Poems by Yuan Zhen, a poet in the Tang Dynasty. The full text is: the meaning behind the old joke, but suddenly, in front of my eyes, you disappeared. The clothes you have worn have been given away, and I can't bear to open your sewing box. Because I miss you, I love girls very much, and many of your dreams, I will burn paper for you. No one knows that the husband and wife will be sad, and many past memories are extremely sad.

This is a mourning poem written by Yuan Zhen to his original wife Wei Cong. Wei Cong is the youngest daughter of Wei Xiaqing, the prince of Shaobao. They got married in the 18th year of Zhenyuan in Tang Dezong (802), when she was 20 years old and Yuan Zhen was 25 years old. Although Yuan Zhen was short of money at that time, the couple had a good relationship.

But it didn't last long. Only seven years later, Wei Cong died of illness. Yuan Zhen was deeply saddened by the untimely death of his wife, so he wrote three "Mourning". The "mourning" in the poem does not mean poverty, but "mourning for everything" after the death of his wife. There is also the previous sentence "This is a sorrow that all mankind must know", which says that every couple will face the regret of where you will go sooner or later, but I really don't want this time, and the first half is the essence.

You know, when Wei Cong married Yuan Zhen, Yuan Zhen was just a secretary and bookkeeper of a provincial school, and they were not a good match at all. For what reason Wei Cong's father, Wei Xiaqing, agreed to this marriage, there is no way to verify it, but Wei Cong, who was born in a prominent family, did not abandon Yuan Zhen.

By the time Wei Cong died, Yuan Zhen had been promoted to the prison, and their beautiful life was about to begin, but his beloved wife died at this time. Among a series of mourning poems written by Yuan Zhen for his dead wife, the most famous one is the fourth poem in Five Poems of Leaving Thoughts, "The sea is difficult for water, but amber is always there. Lazy looking back at flowers, half the sky is repaired, and half the sky is a gentleman. "

Some people will say that Yuan Zhen is insincere, because Wei Cong died only two years ago, and Yuan Zhen married a concubine in Jiangling House. Don't ignore that it was very rare for Yuan Zhen to do this in that era when men were superior to women.