Relativity of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law: Why embarrass women?

Relativity of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law: Why embarrass women?

Relativity of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law Why should women embarrass women? You know, many couples don't have many contradictions themselves, but when it comes to mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it's not good. Improper handling of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will cause many problems. Let's share with you why women bother to embarrass women.

Why should the relativity of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law bother women? 1 Whether you experience it personally, or hear it from movies, TV and neighbors, we seem to have formed a conditioned reflex-but when the topic involves "mother-in-law", you can guess most of the plot.

No matter from personal experience, movies, TV and neighbors, we all seem to have formed a conditioned reflex-but when the topic involves "mother-in-law", most of our guesses are drama. It is said that it is difficult for honest officials to break housework, and perhaps even the mother-in-law herself can't tell what kind of internal driving force is hidden in this theory of relativity, which is really puzzling.

In this world, either a man or a woman, or you are a "daughter-in-law", after many years, one day you will become a "mother-in-law", or worse, because you are a man, you will be caught in the middle of your mother-in-law. ...

How many men go out, even if they are miraculous, they can go home and close the door, just like they are afraid of their mother and their wife. Of course, it is said that what scares men more is that the wife and mother meet in a narrow way-the tip of the needle is facing the wheat, and the charcoal with sulfur will break out in an instant.

A respected man, a husband and a child can be said to be the happiest man, with the love of his wife and the pain of his mother, but why did they immediately become the most difficult contradiction in the world when they met?

It is said that it is difficult for an upright official to break housework, and perhaps even her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not sure. It is really puzzling what kind of internal driving force is hidden in this theory of relativity of "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law" until it is turned upside down. ...

"She is not good"-A woman complains to a woman.

You may have experienced it, or at least seen it on TV. But when the war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law breaks out and men want to be "peacemakers", they usually stand in front of their mothers, then push their wives back to their rooms, close the door, take a deep breath, and then walk up to her-"Mom, calm down!"

Zheng Yi (52): "My son married an aunt!"

My son married a wife. Just like marrying an aunt! Give her all the money she earns, and do housework to wait on her when she goes home. I was out of sight and out of mind, but I don't live together anymore. My son likes it. what can I do? However, she is still very diligent when she returns to her husband's house. She doesn't even want to order my son to cook a big meal. Really annoying!

Aunt Li (56): "How can a daughter-in-law like Miss Jiao be reassuring?"

It's not that mother-in-law loves to pay attention to her daughter-in-law, but that these young people are too delicate. Not only can't do housework, but even my son has to take me off work. Our daughter-in-law has been in the door for four years. No matter what time she gets off work at night, someone must pick her up when she gets home, otherwise she won't go upstairs. As soon as she said it, she answered the word' fear'! You said that Miss Jiao, who was afraid to go upstairs by herself, had obvious self-care ability.

"She is wrong" —— Daughter-in-law's difficulties.

After appeasing my mother, the man came to the door of the room again. He didn't dare to push the door directly, so he squatted at the door and listened. Finally, he made up his mind to die, took a gasp and didn't dare to open the door. He turned to open the refrigerator-"pour my wife a glass of wine first, maybe I can still be saved."

Xiaoyi (27): "How can I please my mother-in-law?"

Not long after marriage, I lived with my mother-in-law. Before I got married, I knew that my mother-in-law was single in her early years and it was not easy to bring up her eldest son alone. Therefore, before getting started, I was prepared to treat the elderly well. She is happy, and so is my husband. Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law is actually a narrow-minded person, which is very puzzling. I am a good cook, but my mother-in-law is mediocre (my husband said it in private). My husband loves to eat and often praises me. At this time, my mother-in-law will say "this dish is too spicy" and "that dish is not suitable for me". My husband loves to eat stewed eggs since he was a child. After marriage, he often asked me to make steamed eggs with fish intestines. Once, my mother-in-law cooked steamed eggs by herself, but my husband ate very little. She said angrily, "well, well, forget it!" " "Dinner just broke up.

I really don't know how to please such a mother-in-law Am I not virtuous enough? What does she want from me?

It's hard to be a gentleman.

They say men are men. Now, although I have been married and married, I have become a "frustrated" little husband.

The wife is the only daughter in the family. She was loved by her parents since childhood, and there were many suitors before marriage. She has a kind heart and knows how to hurt people. Every time I go back to my mother-in-law's house, she never forgets to bring some nutrition and health care products to the elderly, and shopping will also pick out some suitable clothes for her mother-in-law. However, my wife is a bit extravagant in spending money and doesn't do much housework. I can understand that because we are both office workers, the work itself is quite hard.

Let's talk about my mother's side. I don't know if my daughter-in-law is right, but I feel that ten or eight people are not satisfied. My mother never wore clothes bought by my daughter-in-law. The tonic I bought was left there for half a year, and its shelf life expired. "Don't waste money, and no one to eat. If you have money, you can wait for the children later. By the way, when will you have the baby and when will you leave? "

Forget the baby. My mother is anxious to have grandchildren, and my wife is determined not to give birth so early. On this issue of principle, both sides have been unwilling to give in.

"You see, your father and I are getting older every day, and we always want to have grandchildren one day, so we have no regrets. Besides, I can help you take care of the children while I am in good health. " Mom's words make sense, I can understand.

"You marry me that take the door, is to want me to make decision for you? This was not available in the old society. Besides, I didn't say no. Why do you have to be in such a hurry! " My wife's idea is right, and I agree with her.

After all, I am a man, but I have no ideas of my own. It's really sad ...

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have their own "pulse"

I have a clever mother. As long as I agree with anything, she will definitely agree with it. Even so, the contradiction between her and her daughter-in-law is inevitable. Earlier, my mother came to our small home to "inspect" and always felt that we lived in luxury and didn't know how to control ourselves. A roll of toilet paper costs a few dollars! When my wife cooks rice, she will say that she actually wants to eat jiaozi, and when she cooks jiaozi, she will say that she actually wants to drink porridge.

I guess there is always a transition period between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. As the old saying goes, a mother's son is the most precious, and a son is a mother's half-life. Now, it is not practical to give this "half-life" to another "stranger". No wonder mother's attitude towards his wife always seems a little provocative. ...

My wife, in order, is the "recipient" of this man. She is the hostess of our new home. Therefore, the wife will naturally feel uncomfortable when she sees the "predecessor" coming to her own site to dictate or even make trouble. On the surface, for the sake of seniority, the daughter-in-law will certainly not refute her mother-in-law, but as soon as the "inspection" is over, it must be me who is unlucky. ...

After those terrible days, one day I finally realized that I had found the pulse of my wife and mother. Every time before my mother comes to "inspect", I will take the initiative to clean up the house, prepare seasonal fruits, and then arrange a table of mother's favorite meals with my wife. No matter what my mother said, I quickly said it was my daughter-in-law's credit. In this way, my mother was relieved to see such a diligent and agile good daughter-in-law in my room.

It's not just women who embarrass women. "Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law" theory of relativity, left mother-in-law, right daughter-in-law, the man is the most opposite of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, if it is for a little thing in life, I always think it is not; It is unrealistic to say that the times and social progress lead to different ideas. In fact, the crux of the problem lies in who is the matchmaker of the mother-in-law relationship.

No matter husband or son, the man caught in the middle is like a convex lens, while the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law-two women focus on each other not the sunshine, but the shadow.

Mother-in-law: What do you deserve for my son?

The mother-in-law thinks she has the best son, but she can't marry a good wife. But the reality is that the arrival of the daughter-in-law virtually inherited the "dark side" of her son, thus giving her mother-in-law an illusion that my son is good everywhere, while the daughter-in-law she married is not.

In the eyes of her mother-in-law, her daughter-in-law is clumsy, greedy and lazy, and can't do any housework. What's even more exasperating is that she gave her son a bad idea for three days-what to resign and invest with her savings, in short, she was not stable.

In fact, as we all know, it would be an exaggeration to say that any woman can't cook or do housework, because it seems more appropriate to put these bad habits together with unmarried "young men". Besides, when it comes to scheming, I think men are definitely better at it. Therefore, most of these "bad habits" that mother-in-law sees in her daughter-in-law are projected from her son. If the daughter-in-law didn't bravely put the blame on her husband, her son would never shine.

Indeed, from the moment the daughter-in-law entered the door, she carried all the "dark side" of her son in the eyes of her mother-in-law. In the mother-in-law's mind, when a son gets married, he naturally becomes an indomitable "master", and the price paid is that behind every best son in the world, there is often a "bad" wife. Therefore, even if the mother-in-law doesn't like it, there is no way. Who let her be your son's "other half"?

Daughter-in-law: How can a mother do this to her children?

Although sons and daughters-in-law, palms and backs are all meat, they can be cured in heaven and earth. Therefore, in the daughter-in-law's heart, she always asks her mother-in-law in a wronged way-"If it was your own daughter, would you do the same thing to her?"

In the daughter-in-law's view, her mother-in-law is a "bad mother". In addition to managing the day and the land, I insist on putting on a "centralized" posture at home, ignoring myself everywhere and even interfering in my privacy-I can't stand it!

Understandably, when people grow up, they can't even manage their own mothers, let alone their mother-in-law. But then again, which girl was not strictly "watched" by her mother before marriage? In my impression, girls grow up under their mothers' nagging and dissatisfaction-they should have a sitting posture when they should sit, a standing posture when they should stand, attention when they should eat, and attention when they should talk ... But now these endless "discipline" and "resistance" are passed on from their mothers to their mothers-in-law.

There is a famous saying in the street that only married people know how to be a good mother. This means that the daughter didn't know how good her mother was until she got married, because at that time she had another "mother"-mother-in-law. Moreover, most middle-aged and elderly women report that the relationship between mother and daughter is much closer after their daughters get married.

I have heard a saying that parents were children's lovers in their previous lives. Whether it is the sublimation of "Oedipus complex" or the romantic interpretation of karma, in short, it shows the attachment and concern between parents and children. When you take a closer look, you feel that the artistic conception is both romantic and really relieved.

In real life, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law we see is really like "rival in love". However, the hostility between women is different from what men think. Between two hostile lovers, they are both rivals and friends, and they know each other best and cherish each other most. Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is even more complicated. There are multiple combinations under the small fight-traditional like mother and daughter, modern like friends, and avant-garde like sisters. ...

Perhaps it is in this affection and love that there is a way of mutual jealousy, which makes this "love" more interesting and life more interesting.

To grandma:

Accepting the "shadow" of daughter-in-law as a son can be said to be the most precious practice of "raising children" in the world and has achieved positive results.

To his wife:

Only by accepting her mother-in-law's projection of "bad mother" can we understand her greatness. Knowing what true maternal love is, a girl will formally become a woman from the bottom of her heart.

For the man caught between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law:

Everyone's mind has two sides-wife and mother. The two most important women in your life are the reflection of the female soul in your heart in reality. One of them is your "past" and the other is your "present"-sometimes you need to be emotional and sometimes you need to be rational. Being an equal sign in the theory of relativity of a good mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the best way for a man to balance his body and mind and integrate himself.

Why is the relative woman of mother-in-law embarrassed? 2 differences caused by different living habits and concepts between the two sides.

Everyone's living habits are different, and there are big and small differences, not to mention people of different ages. The difference is even greater. Different living habits and concepts make them very different.

For example, on the issue of raising children, the mother-in-law may follow traditional habits and so on, but the daughter-in-law thinks this way is not good. Different habits lead to differences between two people, and disagreement is easy to quarrel.

For example, the older generation's mother-in-law is used to frugality and usually prefers to cook at home, but as a daughter-in-law, she thinks it doesn't matter if she goes out for a meal or two occasionally. The daughter-in-law's behavior will make her mother-in-law feel that her daughter-in-law is extravagant and doesn't know how to save money. She will start blaming her daughter-in-law and her daughter-in-law will feel wronged. Over time, these accumulated contradictions will accumulate and eventually lead to quarrels between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Mother-in-law's possessiveness is at work.

On the other hand, the mother-in-law is not pleasing to the eye and likes to find fault with her daughter-in-law, which is also related to her own "possessiveness". Before his son gets married, he will still listen to his mother and be taken care of by her to some extent. Most mothers in the world are always worried about their children. Even if children have grown up, maternal love still makes them care more about their sons.

But after his son got married, his son changed from being taken care of by his mother to being taken care of by his daughter-in-law. As a mother, the mother-in-law always feels that her son has been robbed. Mother's possessiveness is at work. After all, as a mother, she will spend more time with her son before he gets married. However, after the son got married, the mother-in-law was not used to this state for the time being and could not get out of the previous state, so this result appeared.

For the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law is the one who takes away her son's attention. For the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law is equivalent to an "intruder" who takes her son away, so the more I look at the daughter-in-law, the more I want to play tricks on her and vent my grievances.

Tolerance and understanding are the foundation of everything.

Both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should learn to understand, tolerate and communicate. Especially for the younger generation's daughter-in-law, we should learn to be considerate of the elderly and understand the older generation. To this end, we can communicate and talk with our mother-in-law. Young people should put down their posture, be flexible and understand the difficulties of the older generation. As a mother-in-law, we should also try to accept new things and understand our daughter-in-law.

The end point of both sides will always be to make this family better and achieve the same goal by all means. The destination is the same, with more understanding, tolerance and communication. I believe that the family will be more harmonious and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be more harmonious.