My brother-in-law called my brother a few days ago to borrow 20 thousand yuan on the grounds that his girlfriend wanted to open a shop. What should I do?

Your husband obviously needs re-education. In fact, it is normal for men to ask for help from their parents and brothers, but they need to run in, especially the clever adjustment of their wives.

1, don't think about who is important, I am still his brother, that is, his brother is important! Many men even think that a wife is not a relative when she marries a child. If they are not related by blood, this is the case. After your child is born, it would be nice if he could love him more and not let him sacrifice for his uncle. This is not only your husband, but most men are like this before they get an education. You need to spend a lot of time and energy to make him understand that after his brother gets married, he can leave his brother for his wife (especially the spoiled brother, who doesn't understand others at all, so it can be seen that your brother-in-law is very self-centered). Only his own small family is the family that really accompanies him all his life.

If you don't borrow money, your brother-in-law may hate you.

For example, I broke up with my girlfriend because you didn't borrow money. I met such a person and always hated my parents who refused to pay at that time. Do you think sister-in-law can compete with parents?

But even if you borrow it for free, he won't feel wrong and won't remember it for a long time, because it's not him who suffers, but you. Think for yourself. In terms of your financial ability, are you willing to throw 20 thousand into the water to avoid offending people, or do you want him to be dissatisfied with you or even your husband in order to avoid losses? But you can reach an alliance with your mother-in-law, so that your husband will give you less pressure. If you can't do it, you can cry and complain. You should be careful not to show weakness. The reason for not borrowing money is too good. Don't compete with your future brother-in-law, just say you're not married, and many things are uncertain. I'm embarrassed to write an IOU. Besides, you are pregnant now and need money very much. Mothers all want your children to have better living conditions. It will be easier for you to let your mother live in.

If your husband is still mixed up, you can tell him clearly in front of his brother. For example, if you are not married, financial matters are more difficult. Your sister-in-law is going to give birth soon, and she really needs money, nutrition expenses, hospitalization expenses, and the baby's milk powder money. If you insist on borrowing, I will support you by eating and drinking less, but you must write an IOU. It's not nice to say this, but if you are kind to an unreasonable person, he won't be sensible. He will only think that it is natural for you to help him, and it will get worse in the future. But this is the best way, because your husband will lose face and get angry.

Now your brother-in-law and your husband have given you this problem, which is nothing more than biting your teeth, swallowing your stomach, or hitting your face (of course, it's very important, don't pick their reasons, tell them about fairness and so on, as long as you repeatedly emphasize your current difficulties, this opportunity is actually beneficial to you, but everyone knows that it is immoral to force a pregnant woman, and it is natural to care about money when pregnant, because it is necessary to use money.

Your husband has an opinion on family expenses. Your husband won't listen to the saying "Mom and Dad are different from my brother" and "Dad won't borrow money from us".

If you love him very much, he can eat chaff and support his future siblings, all right.

If you think he has gone too far and wants a divorce, the problem can actually be solved (but the problem after divorce is not easy to solve, after all, you all have children)

The key is how to do the most with the least money. If you can't educate him well, you might as well live in AA system.

You can tell him that you can understand that he does not regard your parents as relatives, but as his own brother. This is also human nature. He mentioned your parents, and you think you can't refuse your father's words, so in order to be fair, you should either give your parents a fixed pocket money and be as filial as you are to his parents, or earn money to be filial to your parents. If there are two children, both husband and wife should save up the education funds, let him write you a written document for notarization, and he should pay a certain percentage of his salary to the children every month, otherwise you will not live alone. If you make a fuss about this, it is estimated that you don't have to lend money to your brother-in-law, so that he can know that his ignorance has affected his brother's family, and maybe he will be more sensible in the future.