Don’t be anxious, a good life should be calm and leisurely

I like this sentence,

"Don't be anxious. People's life rhythms are different. Some people make noodles in three minutes, some make soup in three hours, and some takeaways have been delivered. Some people have just cut the garlic and meat. ”

Everyone is busy in their own areas of life. You don’t know my pain, and I don’t know your busyness. The rhythms are different, and life is naturally different.

We don’t need to envy others, nor do we need to worry about ourselves. Just be ourselves in our own time zone.

Maybe things are not as good as you want now. Don’t be anxious or fearful. There will always be some ups and downs in your life before you can see the rainbow.

01. Anxiety often comes from inner fear

My friend Coco, I am busy preparing for the teacher preparation exam recently. Studying day and night every day.

Yesterday, Coco suddenly came to me and said: I am so tired and I am so scared. I'm afraid that if I fail to pass the exam, others will laugh at my jokes. If I fail to pass the exam, how can I live up to my parents? What should I do? what to do?

A series of "what to do", I know that she is too depressed and anxious.

I said: Coco, don’t be so anxious, you work so hard, don’t think so bad about the results, you have to be more confident, make plans every day, and just prepare for the exam with peace of mind.

The more people are faced with things that they care too much about, the less confident they are, and they are always afraid that the results will be unsatisfactory.

If you always assume other people’s opinions about yourself, you will become more and more afraid if you don’t know what you think. As time goes by, you will start to deny yourself.

If there are too many negative voices, you will become overly anxious and get stuck in it.

In fact, it is just that I think too much, which only adds fear and trouble to myself.

Someone once asked Zen Master Huihai: Is there anything unique about you?

The Zen master said: Yes.

The man asked: What is it?

Zen Master Hui Hai said: I eat when I feel hungry and sleep when I feel sleepy.

The man said: How is this different? Everyone is like this.

Zen Master Huihai said: Of course it is different. Many people think about other things when they are eating and cannot eat well; they always dream about it when sleeping and their sleep is not stable. I should eat, I should sleep, I should eat well and sleep well, this is what makes me different.

I deeply agree.

Don’t reinforce the cage for yourself. If you are trapped in it, you will only become more and more fearful and anxious, and the consequences will be self-evident.

Roosevelt said: I think the best way to overcome fear is to face the thing you fear and do it bravely until you succeed.

Let yourself go, face all kinds of obstacles you encounter, live every moment well, calm down, and what should come will come naturally.

02. Face your inner fears and be your own healer

Dong Qing first entered Beijing and joined CCTV's Western Channel as the host of "Charm 12". But when I first accepted this program, I felt at a loss.

The program showcases western culture. Dong Qing, who grew up in the south, could not tell the difference between Shanxi folk songs and Shaanxi folk songs, nor did he know the difference between flowers in Inner Mongolia and flowers in Ningxia.

Dong Qing could only work hard behind the scenes and invest a lot of time and energy in checking information and making preparations.

However, the gains are not obvious.

Facing an unfamiliar audience and feeling lonely after recording the show, she was also extremely tormented inside, fearing that it would still be the same tomorrow.

There is no way, no matter how anxious you are, the things you face will still dominate your heavy heart.

Dong Qing said: "Sometimes people need a little Ah Q, otherwise there is no way to survive."

Dong Qing still goes all out, but will adjust his mentality.

I will not let down every show, review and memorize the scripts over and over again;

I will not let down every day, put on exquisite makeup and smile every day.

As she said: "Quietly waiting for the arrival of new opportunities, but with the mentality of waiting for a flower to bloom."

Until 2005, Dong Qing finally waited for her By chance, she stood on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala and became the leading actress of CCTV.

Rabindranath Tagore once said that difficulties are like a rushing torrent fighting against a steep cliff. You should jump into the vast and unknown destiny, and then defeat it with a fearless spirit, no matter what lies ahead. How many difficulties are there to challenge you.

When difficulties come, most people will always be afraid of them. They will always preemptively magnify the difficulties and lose the courage to face them head-on.

As everyone knows, the thing you fear in your heart is like a villain. If you make it strong, it will become weak. If it is strong, you will become weak. It bullies the weak and fears the strong.

That's the truth.

It is better to face it realistically and follow your own pace. We must learn to talk to ourselves and be our own healers.

03. Learn to make peace with anxiety

The joys, anger, sorrows and joys in life will always make us feel anxious, which will affect our lives to a greater or lesser extent. If it is excessive If you care about it, it will make you more uncomfortable. If you avoid it deliberately, you won't be able to solve any problems.

How to deal with anxiety?

In the book "Coping with Anxiety", there are some practical and effective methods to help you overcome anxiety:

1. Relax your body

Jacob Sen said: When the body is relaxed, the mind will not be anxious.

When anxiety strikes, lie down flat on your back and don’t let your body be burdened with anything, such as watches, jewelry, glasses, etc.

Don't think about anything that worries you, try to relax and tell yourself, I want to relax and let the tension go away.

2. Relax your mind

For most people, it is very difficult to get rid of entangled thoughts and simply feel the present moment.

Meditation allows us to be completely still, put aside all kinds of thoughts related to the past and future, and focus on the here and now.

Sit on the ground with your legs crossed, listen to the background sound of the waves, choose an object to focus on, and don’t try to do anything during meditation. The more relaxed you are, the deeper your meditation will be.

3. Face your fears

Say some words of encouragement to yourself, and don’t give up on yourself by saying “I can never do it” or “This is absolutely hopeless”.

With the help of a supporter, a supporter can help you eliminate your fears and doubts, give you a sense of security, and give you comfort.

Reward yourself for the small progress you have made. If you are better than yesterday, reward yourself with an ice cream, a bouquet of flowers, or a nice meal out.

4. Take care of yourself

If we are busy every day, we will feel exhausted, nervous, anxious, and worse, sick. But if you are too leisurely, you will feel bored and have nothing to do.

It is especially important to determine the pace that works for you.

Start your day by going to bed early and getting up early, so that you are energetic and full of energy.

Allow yourself to rest for 5 to 10 minutes every hour or at least every two hours. Do some stretching, drink coffee, and take a nap at noon.

Make a to-do list and hit the button when you complete one item. Today’s work will be completed today.

Eat a light dinner and don’t burden your stomach.

Take a hot bath, read your favorite book before going to bed, and go to bed early.

04. Written at the end

Life is our own, and it always has its own unhurried rhythm.

The things we have experienced may be unexpected. The feeling of being hit in the head is really heart-breaking. We will turn around anxiously, but we can never get rid of its curse.

Teacher Zhan Wenming said that action cures anxiety.

At this time, we cannot think wildly in our own little world, we need to take action to resolve our anxiety.

Don’t let anxiety bring down your life.

On weekends, take your family and children and get closer to nature. Smelling the fragrance of flowers and seeing the sky high and the clouds wide will always put you in a beautiful mood. [sun][sun]