Children who often encounter domestic violence are afraid to contact with all kinds of people. How to guide them?

Empirically speaking, instead of thinking about how to solve the psychological problems of children in "domestic violence families", it is better to change their living environment first, which is the fundamental reason. It is more effective to treat the symptoms first and then the root cause, and then psychological counseling can reflect the value and effect.

Therefore, it is necessary to know his family situation before the child's psychological problems are alleviated. Whether a child is abused by domestic violence or a father is abused by his mother, it is necessary to know whether parents are willing to communicate, whether they can communicate, whether they can control their emotions and behaviors, whether they can accept the correct advice of others, and whether they can recognize and improve their wrong practices.

If "yes", then give parents psychological counseling first, and then do children's work, otherwise everything will be in vain. If "no", then we should seek community, social and judicial help to force them to improve their living environment. Only by truly getting the child out of the "domestic violence" can he really help the child, and he will build trust in us and accept our help and suggestions. At this time psychological counseling can play a role.

When it comes to psychological counseling for children who have been abused by domestic violence, there are three main aspects that must be made him aware and recognized.

1: Violence is wrong, compromise is even more wrong, and fighting violence with violence is the most wrong.

2. One's own strength is limited, others can be trusted, and only when one's heart is bright can out of the dark see the sunshine. Therefore, when a person is overwhelmed, the most correct way to solve the problem is not to give up efforts and firmly seek help.

3. "Pain" is a valuable experience and wealth, which is more than that of peers. It doesn't mean sadness, because you have seen the "evil" they have never seen before. As long as you recognize it, overcome it and stay away from it, you can plant "goodness" in your heart, which is the most valuable and powerful. You are far superior to your peers.

As for the specific counseling content, communication skills and guidance skills, the situation is unknown and the space is limited, so it is difficult to provide them point by point. However, with a "heart" of caring for and helping children, I believe that you can handle the past of out of the dark perfectly with your children and enter a bright future.