How to find topics when chatting with children

1. Choose the right time to chat. You should choose the right time to chat. Chatting is most effective when the child is in a good mood and when everyone is not busy. Don’t force your child to chat with you when he or she is tired or in a bad mood and just wants to be quiet. 2. Pay attention to starting from the details of the problem. Some parents like to ask big topics like how their day was at the very beginning, and their children often don’t know how to answer and are speechless. It’s not that the children don’t want to answer, but they don’t know where to start. Therefore, parents should refine the questions and start with the details of the questions. For example, you can ask about topics such as what happy things happened today. 3. For sensitive topics, ask from the side. Some parents feel that their children have no privacy, so they talk carelessly about any topic. As a result, their children are unwilling to tell the truth. For sensitive topics, you should ask from the side. For example, if you want to know whether the teacher is responsible, you can ask the child's friends as an example.

4. Put down your posture and chat with an equal attitude. Some parents always like to put on a majestic appearance as elders all the time, making their children scared and unwilling to speak their true feelings. When chatting, you should put down your posture and chat with your children kindly and with an equal attitude, so that your children can forget the barriers of generation and put down their burdens and talk to your children.

5. Find the same language as your child and don’t habitually deny everything. Some parents think their children's ideas are childish and always disdain their children's words. When chatting with children, they also habitually deny them, while overwhelmingly educating them on what they should do. Children feel that they have no right to speak or choose, and they gradually become unwilling to chat with their parents.

6. Appropriately use loving body language when chatting so that children can feel the love and care of their parents. Parents can use body language appropriately, such as hugging their children at the right time, kissing their children's faces, and praising their children's performance.

Children feel that their parents love them when they are chatting with their parents, and regard the process of their parents chatting with them as a matter of loving and being loved. Children are more and more willing to talk to their parents about their feelings and solve various problems, and the parent-child relationship will become deeper and deeper, thus achieving effective chatting.