A passage between grandma and grandson: this family must be extraordinary

The following passage is a conversation between a grandma and her grandson. From the conversation, it is not difficult to see that the child’s parents have used unusual methods of educating the child since he was a child, so that they could raise such a sensible child. , Such children will definitely have great potential in the future and will be useful talents for society and the country.

Grandma: How should the money be spent?

Grandson: Buy what you need, it is not easy to make money, be diligent and frugal

Grandma: Where does the money come from?

Grandson: Mom and Dad work hard to earn money

Grandma: What if you have money?

Grandson: Save it and don’t spend it lavishly

Grandma: What is our money used for?

Grandson: Food and my tuition fees

Grandma: Is your parents’ money yours?

Grandson: No, you have to rely on your own labor to obtain it

Grandma: What if you don’t have something that other children have?

Grandson: Don’t compare, children may not be suitable for me

1. Children’s material requirements, if they are excessive, must not be met; reasonable requirements should not be met immediately unless they are urgently needed. To be satisfied, delay time and let children learn to be patient and wait. Both parents must be of the same mind and have the same opinion to prevent their children from taking advantage of any loopholes.

2. Never buy brand-name toys, brand-name clothes, etc. for your children out of vanity and comparison. Spending parents' money to be extravagant will cause great hidden damage to children's self-esteem, self-confidence and independence that they themselves are not aware of, making them strong on the outside but weak on the inside.

3. Never show your wealth in front of your children, rather pretend to be poor. In particular, you should not tell your child about your savings, otherwise it may lead him to become a parasite and incompetent person.

4. Lower the standard of living appropriately, and a simple meal is enough. The school should tell students: "Parents have the obligation to meet your basic needs and have no obligation to satisfy your vanity, luxury and greed."

5. Never teach children to consume too early or stimulate their desire to consume. . Spending money is too easy, children can learn it anytime, but when they grow up, it will be too late to learn the ability to make money.

6. Parents should never help children with anything they can do on their own, unless you want to deliberately cultivate their children's inferiority and incompetence. If you don't know whether your child can do something, you should let your child try it first. Parents should not rush to intervene, and never try to remove all obstacles on their children's way forward. This is depriving their children of the opportunity to grow.

7. If a child does something wrong, he must be held responsible. Parents cannot take the blame for their children, nor can they simply spend money to eliminate disasters. Otherwise, they will cultivate their children's weakness, low self-esteem and irresponsibility. A good man should be a good man. If you have been irresponsible since childhood, how can you become a dishonest person when you grow up?

8. Invite rather than simply order children to share some housework, and persist for a long time. Let your children understand that "the family needs my efforts, and my work cannot be replaced by others." This is important for cultivating children's self-esteem, self-confidence and sense of responsibility.

9. Don’t focus on learning matter-of-factly. Research shows that most children who do not learn well are not unable to learn, but unwilling to learn. Reluctance to learn is a personality problem rather than an intellectual problem, and it cannot be solved by simply making up lessons.

10. Do not give gifts to bribe teachers to take special care of your children. This is tantamount to consolidating and developing the children's shortcomings. This kind of short-sightedness has very bad consequences. And it can be a sign of psychological fragility on the part of the parent.

11. Pay attention to children’s intelligence types from an early age and guide them to establish career ideals based on their characteristics. If parents lack knowledge in this area, they can consult experts.

12. Watch less TV and chat more. TV is one-way information transmission, chatting is two-way communication; TV is virtual life, other people's life, while chatting is real, one's own life.

But it should be noted that there must be equality when chatting, and parents cannot just reprimand their children blindly.

13. During winter, summer, or rest days, try to let your children take on some responsible work, such as working for others, so that they can experience the feeling of being self-reliant. Don't be afraid of delaying your studies because of this. Sharpening your sword will keep you from chopping wood.

14. The cultivation of children’s quality and basic character mainly depends on the family, not the school. Don’t push your children to school, let alone think that everything will be fine if you spend money to go to a good school. Educating children depends on themselves. Spending money cannot buy good children. Parents must be clear-headed about this.

15. No matter how busy parents are at work, they should take time to read educational magazines or participate in family education training classes to improve their own quality. China has China's national conditions. Children are not well educated, and no matter how much money they make, they cannot support themselves.

The above 15 points are not profound to say, but they are not easy to do. Why? Because many parents are always too soft-hearted and only care about the present. This is a problem of the parents' knowledge and quality. As life becomes richer, the quality requirements for parents have become higher. This does not mean that parents should become experts in family education, but that parents should be stronger-willed, better at controlling their emotions, and have a broader vision. The prerequisite for educating children well is to become a learning-oriented and mentally healthy parent.