How do young people get long-term positive emotional value?

Young people in Houlang are very happy, surrounded by interesting souls, and various behaviors that promote the secretion of dopamine endorphins follow.

However, the reality is that keeping pets is probably one of the limited and low-cost ways for most young people to gain emotional value.

It's really not much. Let's buy a Switch to play with Zelda's milk blade. Bai Piao Party is the original god. ...

There are many ways to realize emotional value, such as establishing deep connection with people, having passionate flow, owning your own real estate through leverage and so on.

Emotional value is also time-sensitive and cannot be held for a long time. Like assets, there is the possibility of negative value.

Even pets will leave themselves one day.

However, we are eager to constantly think about how to acquire and strengthen things that can be exchanged with positive emotional value for a long time or intermittently, and it is best to monopolize them forever. Resources are also scarce, and some high-quality resources have long been monopolized by young people born in Rome.

People are social in nature. Even people who are tired from work like me want to have a timetable to keep in touch with others, and always say nothing alone, which is likely to gain negative emotional value and suppress mental and psychological problems.

Whether or not parents give themselves trouble, it seems to be the most mainstream and reliable for young people to find someone to solve their problems.

In this society where money and power are paramount, neat men who can get tickets to big cities as soon as possible, or independent women who are about 20 years old with fair skin and beautiful skin, have a little self-management and communication skills, which are hot in the mate selection market, and are often strong enough to get many excellent partners who are suitable for each other and get positive emotional value benefits of mutual benefit.

Then, as a young man who has just entered the society, just to establish a long-term relationship with another opposite sex, what efforts do you need to make to obtain the emotional value of a high probability of continuous decline in income and a low probability of recovery?

1 For a stable and continuous job, it is best to get a salary increase at the age of 20-35 and a professional title at the age of 35-55.

(2) having one or more properties in the city where it is located, or having a capital reserve with mortgage ability and willingness to undertake.

Parents have a stable social security provident fund, and they don't need their children to bear debts. They can solve the problem of old-age care by themselves and help their children go further.

4 points, equivalent to friends and relatives network.

5 Add sub-items, fair skin and beautiful legs, or Gao Fushuai of abdominal muscles.

In 2023, nearly120,000 fresh graduates poured into the workplace society. Counting the three years of epidemic depression, how many of these nearly 30 million graduates can meet the second of the above five prerequisites at the same time?

Each item is not a problem that can be solved by 10,000 RMB or 20,000 RMB, ranging from 100,000 RMB to several million RMB.

The accumulation level of these resources determines the human groups that we can choose to establish long-term relationships in the future.

Establishing contact with high-quality groups is one of the ways to obtain emotional value at a very high cost; On the other hand, the social relationship between low-quality groups is likely to produce high-risk negative emotional value.

Yes, the cost of contacting ordinary people is very low. It is not surprising that you can make friends when you go out for a meal and one night, plot to harm friends in the short term, and ruin yourself by putting some lifelong addictive drugs in the cup.

The promising monitor of the science class next door to my high school was drugged by a drinking buddy at the dinner party and finally separated. Similarly, many fast food men and women who often wander in nightclubs also pay a painful price for promiscuity, which corrupts morality and harms health. I believe that most normal young people are afraid to avoid such groups.

According to Matthew effect and "28" principle, the emotional value of establishing deep connection with people is very limited, which is a low input-output ratio choice for most people.

I'm glad I didn't get pitted.

Those who push around, insurance sales, gambling friends, try to contact them. Everyone is trying to figure out the hard-earned money in your pocket.

Sales is one of the job categories required by my own sideline, and I respect the position itself very much. Here simply refers to the group that has no lower limit and obtains cash performance by cheating inferior resources.

I'm tired of raising myself, and I have to be cut by other scammers. The most painful thing for young people is that I try hard, but I can't get along with him so well.

Is there a safer way to improve our happiness?

By brushing Tik Tok's little red book, we can see that many home bloggers have gained the happiness of living and working in peace and contentment by buying their own exclusive property.

A person who has lived in a 7-square-meter rental house said that buying a house can certainly improve happiness, but this is the premise.

After all, young people understand the pain of renting a house-without the right to decorate and renovate independently, they will be despised by the landlord at any time, roommates will seize public resources, and the sources of tenants are complex, which makes every young person with a dream of a big city very painful after returning to the rental house.

At present, China's rental housing management system is not perfect, there are many loopholes in the law, and the rules and regulations are generally close to vested interests, so the current rental and sale rights are a joke.

But the current house price is a joke. ......

The unit price of several hundred thousand at a time shattered the dream of young people owning their own real estate through leverage. Empty six wallets to ensure that the career of not eating, drinking or losing jobs will rise steadily in the next few decades, and the spouse will be sincere and loyal, not cheating or betraying. The happiness gained in this way is really beyond the reach of ordinary young people.

We can get on the bus after 20 12 bullet debt of 700,000 yuan, which is the quasi-era of quasi-happiness city, quasi-first line, quasi-second ring road, quasi-new house and quasi-cosmic center Chengdu.

The monthly salary is 5000 yuan, and the improvement room is 5 million yuan. Welcome to Chengdu.

Are you desperate?

Isn't there any positive emotional value that young people can get?

Of course not. At that time, I was also a diaosi with a low education, and my family debt was 500,000, with a very low starting point. It can be said that the happiness of continuing to support yourself in these years is neither from family nor from work.

I think passionate flow is one of the most cost-effective ways to get emotional value.

Girls like to travel everywhere, once a year at home and abroad, whether it is free travel or with a group, it doesn't cost much.

Boys play a game to relieve work pressure, improve health problems appropriately and increase sexual attraction. Don't ask private teachers to teach severe kryptonite.

For me, painting has been with me for more than 20 years, which is my most emotional behavior, because it can bring me a very high-quality flow experience, although the 10,000-hour law cannot be a master.

But the problem is that after a day's work, the young man who comes home may not have the energy to play a heavy game or keep fit, let alone improve himself by reading and drawing.

This is also the reason why Switch has become a stand-alone machine.

One of the biggest drawbacks of those things that produce long-term benefits by investing in passionate things for a long time is that they realize personal needs but fail to meet social needs, so there is a high probability that they will not make money.

But since it can satisfy personal emotional value, just positive value is enough to offset the deduction of not making money. Secondly, the so-called inability to make money is only aimed at most young people who have been hollowed out by their main business. In fact, now we have entered the era of flexible employment. Young people who focus on sideline business through their main business and eventually replace their main business to become full-time freelancers abound.

But it's very difficult, so countless people go bankrupt. In essence, when hobbies become money, the positive emotional value that your passion once brought you may be reversed into negative feedback.

Just like buying a house instead of renting a house, when the house price and leverage are too high, even if you have a small space of your own, you will be full of regrets and bear unbearable monthly payments. Once the industry collapses, you will face a wave of default, and your hard work for several years will be in vain.

Therefore, hobbies are difficult to achieve. Once it is realized, I am afraid it will become stale, and I will no longer provide myself with those valuable values.

Therefore, keeping a pet has become a conservative and appropriate choice among so many negative and positive emotional value investment behaviors, which is equivalent to sound financial management.

Since you can't get the love you want from humans, it's okay to get it from pets in another track.

In recent years, a large number of people have lived with pets for decades. Film and television dramas and real cases tell us that pets can also replace human beings and become our closest family.