What is Pinocchio syndrome? Why does it make children afraid of being teased?

Generally, children are self-respecting and thin-skinned, and they don't like their parents to publicly tell their shortcomings, such as wetting their pants and getting a zero mark in the exam, because they are afraid of being laughed at.

However, many parents in China always enjoy it. The more ashamed they are of their children, the happier they are, and they never take their children's feelings seriously.

I have an uncle who is such a type. Whenever the family gets together, what parents talk about most is children's affairs. This uncle likes to tell stories about his children, ranging from children fighting with classmates and clothes being torn to children wearing socks of different colors in the morning.

My uncle's son, my cousin, turned red when he heard this, and bowed his head and begged, "Dad, will you stop?" The adults looked at each other, but his father was talking about the excitement, regardless of the child's feelings. "I'm full!" As soon as my cousin dropped his chopsticks, he ran out.

In fact, this phenomenon appears in many families. Adults tell their children's privacy as a joke, and children feel hurt in self-esteem. In the long run, it is easy to lead to disharmony between children and parents, and it may also lead to "Pinocchio syndrome." ■ "Pinocchio syndrome"

When Pinocchio is mentioned, many people may think of Pinocchio, a puppet whose nose grows when lying. In fact, this is a psychological term, also known as "phobia of being laughed at".

Psychologists describe this symptom: when a person feels ridiculed, he is in a state of defense due to nervousness and fear, and his muscles are tight and his limbs are as stiff as puppets, so it is called Pinocchio syndrome.

people with such symptoms are very worried about being teased, and they will be extremely uneasy and sensitive to possible teasing in social activities. They will observe the surrounding environment and the people present, look for the possibility of being teased and ridiculed, and even attribute the laughter they hear to laughing at themselves without evidence, and then they will be cranky and emotionally intensified.

Psychologists speculate that the reason why these children are afraid of being teased has something to do with their growing environment, that is, children are often ridiculed, ridiculed and attacked by their families, elders and peers when they are young. ■ These behaviors of parents induce children to be afraid of being teased

1 "vulgar" teasing the baby

When teasing the baby, some adults deliberately say something like "Your parents don't want you", and they are very proud when they see the child crying because of fear and fear. This kind of "vulgar teasing" behavior, not only does not have any laughter, but also makes children extremely insecure and fearful of the laughter of such elders.

2 Taking children's defects as talk material

Children with physical defects will feel particularly inferior, afraid that others will look at them differently, and afraid of being discussed and laughed at. There are also some defects that are not obvious, such as poor physical coordination, stupid mouth, stupid brain, etc. Parents always talk about these problems of their children with everyone, but in fact, children are very reluctant to let others know.

3 Parents attack and taunt their children

Some parents like to compare other people's children with their own children and then attack them. In fact, children are already excellent, but they still can't meet their parents' expectations, which will make them feel frustrated and feel inferior. Ordinary parents' outspoken and taunting words will also make children doubt and deny their own value. ■ What harm may children be afraid of being teased?

1 Family relationship < P > Undoubtedly, children are often teased by their parents, and they feel inferior and sensitive, and are unwilling to get close to their parents. After entering adolescence, children are even more rebellious towards their parents. Once parents talk about themselves to outsiders, they will lose their temper, run away, smash things and so on. The psychological damage suffered by children is indelible, and over time, the parent-child relationship is indifferent and alienated.

2 interpersonal communication

For such children, laughter does not mean happiness, but ridicule and degradation. It is difficult for them to distinguish between malicious jokes and well-meaning ridicule, and they are also very sensitive and extreme about well-meaning jokes. Moreover, because they are afraid of being teased, they prefer to stay alone and don't like social activities and interpersonal communication. Over time, they become withdrawn and weird. How to help children overcome Pinocchio syndrome?

Children suffering from "phobia of being laughed at" are not lacking humor cells or unable to make jokes. They are actually eager for warmth and acceptance in their hearts. Therefore, parents should give their children good protection and make jokes with restraint.

1 Parents should create a warm family environment

Parents should realize how much harm their "joking" will do to their children, refuse "vulgar teasing", and don't joke about their children's privacy or defects, be empathetic and respect their feelings. Parents should create a warm family environment and provide their children with a sense of security with love, encouragement and tolerance.

2 Comfort the child when he is teased

If the child is teased by other elders or friends, parents should comfort the child in time and heal the child's heart with warmth. At the same time, parents should also cultivate their children's psychological endurance, don't care too much about other people's words, cultivate their children's "diamond heart", and prevent them from being "blx" because of a joke or two. Tell your parents:

There is a saying: Only the party who is being teased thinks it is funny can it be called a "good joke". Parents should not only know how to make jokes about their children, but also teach their children not to make jokes about others casually, and should know how to put themselves in the other's shoes. If they are teased, will they feel offended and disrespected? Respecting each other means respecting yourself.