What kind of high-EQ responses must be learned by straight women that will turn boys on?

What kind of high-EQ responses must be learned by straight women that will turn boys on? 01 Regarding straight women, how to distinguish between being frank and not being able to chat?

First of all, understanding why straight women are called straight women can help us avoid confusing some definitions. Or take the chatting above as an example. These contents are interesting and interesting. We can find that straight women’s chatting is often different. They are accustomed to using a form of exposing and pulling apart to give the other party a response beyond expectations. Straight women are funny, and everyone's love for straight women comes from this strong sense of contrast. Some girls are naturally comfortable with being themselves; some girls deliberately create gaps just for the sake of the actual effect of chatting.

On the other hand, some people think that straight women do speak very immediately, and sometimes they don't listen well, and they can't read the other person's subtext, and they don't understand the fun. A very simple example, I saw it all on the Internet. Some people make fun of the fact that the first thing a girl says to her boyfriend is "I'm starving to death". Maybe not many men like to be asked by their girlfriends whether they are dead or not. When two people chat, no matter what the specific content is, the key is basically to make each other happy.

In this case, these people have opinions on straight women’s chat topics, usually because the girl directly breaks the sense of satisfaction between the two, thereby exposing and pulling the other party away, which is quite stiff. Embarrassing the other party but not knowing it. Putting aside whether you can read between the lines, speaking in a way that makes the other party feel uncomfortable is already a bad signal.

The difference between these two situations is: in the former one, even if they are personal and straightforward, they know that they need to say the right words at the right time and will not easily cause discomfort to the other party. The latter does not have this concept and is completely Lead by expressing yourself. In other words, for "straight women", "straight" is really just a characteristic of them. In interpersonal interactions, they are civilized and polite people with high emotional intelligence.

Being impolite and not knowing how to chat will easily lead to blunt expressions, which will embarrass the other party. This has nothing to do with whether a girl is "straight". Mistaking impoliteness for personal frankness is also a sign of immature interpersonal communication. Many disagreements are often for no reason. They are not about a specific thing, but about the way people speak when they say this thing. 02 How to treat straight women’s “not to be sensational”

In addition to the direct way of speaking, “straight women” also have an obvious characteristic that has been discussed a lot, which is “not to be sensational” . But in fact, there is a difference between being unable to be sensational and not being able to have fun.

I think of a friend who once complained to me about being chased by a man who pursues perfection until she couldn’t bear it and got goosebumps. The main reason was that the man often said some disgusting and sensational words. She didn't know how to respond, so she could only adopt an evasive attitude. My friend is my sister at home, and she prefers to be the one who takes care of others when we get along. She says what she wants and does whatever she needs to do in daily life. She doesn't like to express her feelings directly. She can be said to be a straight woman.

When it comes to friends of the opposite sex, it’s not that she doesn’t understand the other person’s intentions and doesn’t think about whether she’s worth it, it’s just that she can’t control all kinds of love words. As mentioned above, this kind of girl is generally relatively independent. Indeed, being independent and doing things alone gives people a "feminine" image, which is partly the result of the family environment. When dealing with partners or siblings, they generally behave more maturely and thoughtfully, and are the ones who are relied on.

Because I am used to being alone, it is very likely that I have never thought about falling in love. Under such circumstances, when someone approaches, especially someone of the opposite sex, they can't help but feel anxious and can't help but want to avoid the other party's passion through "elimination" and maintain the boundaries that they feel comfortable with. Love words are generally inevitable when two people fall in love, because the spiritual distance provided by love words can quickly increase the distance between two people.

For some "straight women", the necessary love words in love force them to shrink their personal comfort zone, which will make them feel at a loss. Replying to the love words of the opposite sex in the form of "pulling away" or "disturbing the scenery" seems to be a lack of fun, but it is actually a "precautionary awareness" method of personal boundaries for straight women. As this good friend of mine said, if a relationship has to be like this, then she won't feel it for the time being, and she has to take some time to accept it, because he has very high requirements for personal space.