How to chat with your ex

At the beginning of your chat, you are bound to face embarrassment. So when chatting with you, all you have to do is learn to observe each other's attitude, literally understand each other's attitude, and whether they are willing to continue chatting with you.

When the opposite party expresses enough content to you, he will trust you more and more, and you can also filter out more effective information about the other party.

2. Chat opportunities

When establishing contact, you want to quickly close the relationship between you, so if there is anything, just tell the other party, and what will the other party reply to you in return? Hmm, yes, hehe. You yourself think this kind of chat is very uncomfortable.

Such a chat that exposes the sense of need is a torment for him, and sometimes he even wants to hack you again. Forget it, it's really annoying! So don't talk every day, leave some thoughts for each other. First, give him the impression that chatting with you is very interesting and make him look forward to chatting with you.

3. Reasons * * *

No matter what you are talking about, it is very important to make a sensation. Don't be a lever. Even if you don't agree, don't express your complete disagreement with TA or your incomprehension of TA. Remember that your purpose is to save each other, not to argue with each other.

Give you a speech template-"I know what you mean. That makes sense. I see. Why didn't I think of that before? It seems that you are still good at this! "

4. Open topics

Finally, reduce closed conversations and try to keep your chat topics around each other. Some people say that when I chat with my ex, I feel that there is nothing to talk about. Closed question-and-answer is more like interrogation than chatting, and no one likes this way of speaking. It is a better way to let the other person speak freely by using open topics.

Communication is not one-way, and high-quality dialogue requires the cooperation of both parties, so if the other party's topic is boring, you can try to jump out of this boring circle and open a new topic.

5. Disable "girlfriend tone"

After breaking up, many girls subconsciously don't accept the change of their relationship. When chatting with ex-boyfriends, they still maintain the attitude of the role of girlfriend, and they all adopt the "girlfriend tone" when talking.

For example, when chatting, I get to the bottom of my ex-boyfriend's position and state, completely forgetting that I don't want the other party to report my whereabouts at all; Or when you are talking around, there is something in your words that needs the other party to take time to guess; Or show excessive concern and appear "mother-in-law".