Liu Yu's prose

Liu Yu, female, Ph.D., was born in1February, 1975, originally from Poyang County, Jiangxi Province. She is a scholar, writer and poet, and an associate professor in the Department of Political Science of Tsinghua University College of Humanities and Social Sciences. I carefully arranged Liu Yu's prose for you, hoping to learn from it.

Any proposition with the suffix "ism" becomes horrible. Because of terror, people avoid it. For example, "feminism", who dares to admit that he is a feminist? It's like declaring that you are terrible, abnormal and grumpy. Another example is "environmentalism". Protecting the environment is naturally good, but it must rise to the height of individualism. Some experts have said that it is still "people-oriented".

China people don't like strong views, let alone strong institutionalism. Only recently did I break through the reactionary shell of the word "ism" and begin to look at all kinds of temptations in a single state. On that occasion, Xiying and I sat on a bench in front of the mall and chatted. She has been married for several years, and we naturally talked about her plan to make a baby.

Well, I'm selfish now, she said. I feel unwilling to give my time and energy to another person, so I don't want to have children for the time being. In fact, I am more selfish than you, so I will admit that I don't even want to get married because I don't want to give my time and energy to another person. I have always felt that I hold the attitude of Ye Gong Long Hao towards marriage. A woman, 30 years old, the whole world is watching you anxiously and gloating, waiting for you to sell yourself cheaply. Don't wait, jump, it's only the 59th floor. Our necks ache, so we just have to jump. We are still in a hurry to have lunch.

So out of kindness, I have also cooperated with their eyes over the years and made an impatient expression. Blind date, online dating, various parties and public appearances. The most serious thing is to give up all your standards, principles and ideals, coquetry in front of people without feelings, and try to convince yourself with the tone of parents. In fact, marriage is just about finding a partner. In fact, feelings are cultivated. In fact, all standards, principles and ideals are just narcissistic expressions. But, why? Isn't it a marriage? What's good about marriage? Marx said that private ownership is the root of all evil, and marriage is essentially the private ownership of love.

A friend of mine said that the more a person possesses, the more he is possessed. How well you speak. For example, if you have a house, you will have to be busy repaying the loan for the rest of your life. In fact, marriage is the same. How much do you possess in order to possess a person? He used to take a bath once every three days, but he couldn't stand her nagging and had to take a bath once a day. She is used to a full and hungry stomach, but he can't eat less than three meals a day, so he has to get up sleepily and make breakfast for him. He used to like not going anywhere on weekends and just sitting on the sofa playing games, but she insisted on dragging him to her mother-in-law's house. She just wants to be alone tonight, reading novels and drinking tea, but watching the football match in that room gives her a splitting headache. In fact, he likes to spend as much as he earns, but she forces him to save half of his salary every month. In fact, he said, she likes chatting online, but married women still chat online. Really old, not serious.

Why are you getting married? Sartre said that others are hell. "It's not that serious," said my friend ABCDEFG. It's also fun. Traveling together, cooking together, watching TV and shopping together are fun. But I always wonder how many people's marriages are maintained by fun and how many people are just because of inertia. He got married because he was married. He got married because everyone else got married. Others get married because-it is good to get married, and being idle is also idle. I maliciously thought that most people get married just because they have nothing to do, so I decided to replace one kind of boredom with another. When Xiao Zhao was in Tsinghua, his classmates applied to go abroad. When they were very busy, they suddenly asked: Hey? Why do you think I want to go abroad? Zhao Tian: Because going abroad is the only choice that needs no explanation.

The only choice that doesn't need to be explained. It sounds bleak, as if all human subjective initiative is vulnerable to the collective things such as tradition, trend and trend. It seems that man is just a top, rotating mechanically under the beating of external force. I have a curious heart. What I want to ask is not, why not get married? Instead, why get married? Perhaps, I am just narcissistic, and I can't let go of my swollen self because of inflammation.

I haven't reached the point of "celibacy", but I must be stimulated to a certain extent before I can let go of the temptation to resist. Actually, I hope my suspicions are wrong. I hope this paranoia is just because I don't love anyone that much. I hope that one day, like finding a wallet in the street, I can find "love for that reason", and "love for that reason", as they say, has infinite magic, which makes me fascinated and tearful. I can take four baths a day for it, save 80% of my salary, never play games, get up at six o'clock in the morning to make breakfast, watch a football match as soon as I turn on the TV, haunt him like an octopus, and sing S.H.E' s song: Where are you going? Take my soul away. I still hope so. Of course. At the age of 30, I knew there was no Santa Claus in the Arctic. The old-fashioned life is not as cute as in cartoons. Where there is a will, there is a way. I hope this is just a hope.