Mama’s boy, is the mother always afraid that her son will be bullied outside?

Yes. Nowadays, many women are afraid of meeting a "mama's boy" when they get married, and will even be blacklisted by women when choosing a mate. "Mama's boy", as the name suggests, is pampered by his mother like a little baby. He listens to his mother's words in everything, and his mantra is "my mother says". Such a boy will find it difficult to make people feel safe when he grows up, and he will not have his own opinions when doing things. He will rely on his mother to make decisions for him in everything.

I have a cousin who is the only son in the family. He has been loved in every way since he was a child, and his family status is also very high. When he was a child, he had to put his hands on clothes and food and open his mouth. When he grew up, his mother helped him make decisions about college, major, and job. Nowadays, at the age of getting married and starting a family, there is naturally no way to escape the pressure to get married. However, my cousin has had several girlfriends, but they all ended in "failure" because his mother didn't like them. Recently, my cousin listened to his mother's advice and went on a blind date. However, during the conversation, he couldn't do without "my mother said", and it naturally didn't work out in the end.

Today's society pays great attention to "scientific parenting". Parents should not overindulge their children, and should allow their children to participate in some aspects of life, let them experience the hardships of life, and let them make their own decisions. Instead of always forcefully interfering in the child's life, this approach will turn the child into a "mama's boy" that everyone laughs at.

1. What are the characteristics of a mama’s boy?

1. Discriminate against women

Why do you say this? This is mainly because the educational concepts and models of their native families are wrong and incorrect. Bao's mother is always meticulous and even hard-working when it comes to her son's affairs, while Bao's father doesn't care about his son or the family, and is a complete hands-off shopkeeper. In such a family model, the mother either has a very strong character or a relatively weak character. No matter which one it is, it is easy for the son to have a distorted view of "women" and even look down on women from the bottom of his heart.

2. Lack of self-motivation

Boys of this type are relatively impatient, whether in life, study or work. They do not want to struggle, but rather hope to succeed. Be content with the status quo and enjoy the happiness and comfort of the moment. Parents can spend as much money as they can give themselves. If some of their additional needs are not met, they will blame their parents in turn. On the surface, they look glamorous, but in fact they are just an "empty shell."

3. Selfish and hypocritical character

Most of these mommy boys are quite selfish. They say verbally how much they love their mothers, but in fact they really want to enjoy them. Her mother's doting on her made her even more considerate of herself. Many times, their mother is more like a shield in their minds.

2. Why do mommy boys appear?

The first point: The mother has a very high status in the family, has a relatively strong personality, and has absolute leadership. This type of mother always likes to command her children to do this and that, and also likes to interfere in their children's affairs. As time goes by, the children will lose their autonomy and become more and more dependent on their mothers, becoming a proper "mom's baby" male".

Second point: Boys’ family conditions are relatively favorable, and there is no excessive pressure during their growth. Therefore, they have never suffered much since they were born, enjoying the doting of their parents and living a comfortable life hiding behind their parents. Over time, this type of men will develop a "mama's boy" personality.

3. How to prevent children from becoming mama’s boys

1. Mothers must learn to let go

Every child is born an independent individual and does not need to be attached. For whom, therefore, the child's independence should be respected and protected, and he should be able to enjoy his due rights. On the contrary, the mother is always worried that her son will suffer hardships and will be affected, which will lead to defects in his son's character. Therefore, mothers should learn to let go, not over-indulge their children, let them fulfill their obligations, and allow them to participate appropriately in housework, thereby improving their children's independence and reducing their dependence.

2. The role of the father should not be missing

The father cannot be missing in the emotional connection of the child. If the mother interferes excessively in the child's life, the child's character will become independent. , will become more inferior, which is caused by the father's lack of child's growth.

In many families, when the mother is pregnant and has a child, and the child is growing up in the early stages, the father is mostly in a critical period of career development or a critical moment of promotion and salary increase, and spends very little time with the child. Dads should learn to arrange their time reasonably, try to take some time to accompany their children, create some pleasant life experiences for their children, and shoulder their own family responsibilities.

3. Don’t directly make decisions for your children

Many strong mothers like to interfere in their children’s lives, ranging from their children’s dressing to their children’s studies, work, and marriage. All choices must be intervened one by one. When they encounter some difficulties in daily life, the mother will immediately protect her children and solve the difficulties for them one by one.

In fact, mothers should appropriately let their children make their own decisions. When children encounter problems, don't rush to give answers, but can give some suggestions first. Let the children make their own decisions based on their own opinions and ideas. Even if the child does not do well, mothers should not blame the child excessively, let alone stop letting the child do things because of this. Every child goes from "not knowing" at the beginning, to "knowing", and then to "proficient". Therefore, mothers should give their children more patience and time.

At the same time, mothers should not show their strong female side everywhere in life, and occasionally show weakness in front of their children, which is more conducive to cultivating boys' sense of responsibility. They will also understand that their mother is not an omnipotent superman and will also need protection, so they will have the idea of ????protecting their mother and become more masculine.

Xiao Liu said: Today’s parents are paying more and more attention to their children’s education, and many parents are becoming more and more systematic and scientific about their children’s education. Presumably, no mother would want her child to become a mama's boy. Therefore, in the process of raising children, they need to avoid being overbearing and doting, and give their children enough space to grow independently.