Why do many people don't want to get married now?

Unmarried infertility has become the mainstream value of young people, because they really can't afford to get married and have children.

If you go to many rural areas now, you will find a grand occasion. Singles are everywhere. There are indeed too few girls in some villages, or girls have already entered the city, but some villages are obviously not. Even if there are marriageable girls of the right age, many men are still single. The reason is very simple, many girls are very disdainful.

This phenomenon is more obvious in cities. It seems that there are many young men and women in the city, but in fact there are more single people. Girls are all busy struggling for their own careers. It is easier for boys to keep making money. In this Yalushan society, nothing needs money to support.

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Yes, not only does it need a lot of money, but the first thing many young people do after graduating from college is not to travel, nor to fly their dreams, nor to pursue themselves and freedom, but to concentrate on making money, because it is very simple that girls are afraid of being cheated by feelings and don't believe in feelings.

For boys, it is more realistic. If they have no money, can't afford to buy a house or a car, which girl wants to marry herself? So this is a very realistic problem, but most people can't simply realize their financial freedom through work, but think about the pressure of parenting in the future.

And the pressure of mortgage and car loan. I can't even think about it, let alone the children's education expenses. From kindergarten to university graduation, it is an incalculable huge expenditure. If I am fired in my thirties or have a career crisis, how can I spend the darkest time in my life?

So instead of betting on an uncertain future and making yourself so tired, it is better to be free, not to marry and not to have children. Even if you choose Dink for marriage, you won't live a good life. Why embarrass your children? It's hard to support yourself, let alone have children?

With the advent of a society with low desire, the stability and durability of marriage have been greatly impacted.

For the previous generation, men and women had to get married and have children when they reached a certain age. Naturally, women should shift their main energy to their families, while boys should bravely strive for their careers, earn more money and shoulder the heavy responsibility of supporting their families.

In the past, young people who got married over the age of 30 were basically ridiculed as leftover men and women, either because they could not marry a wife or because they had problems. But now in many cities, people in their thirties who are not married abound.

Except for some young people, it is really because of their limited ability that they can't afford to buy a house or a car and are forced to be single. Some women's eyes are too high, which leads to dazzling choices and finally leaving themselves behind. Most young people actually don't have much expectation and interest in marriage.

After all, getting married means getting divorced. Now the stability of marriage is a joke. Some people get a divorce certificate in front of their feet and turn around to get a marriage certificate. Marriage is like a child's play to many people. They paid a house, a car and a lot of bride price, but in the end they got nothing. Why?

There is also the family planning of the previous generation, resulting in many families being only children, so even if they are together, no one is willing to accommodate each other. Sometimes even small contradictions can lead to divorce, and many marriages themselves have interests and exchange purposes.

In this case, if life is good, two people can still live well. Once the family is in financial distress, the family is a chicken feather at once, or even falls apart in minutes. Instead of trying to accommodate a person, it is better to choose to be yourself. A person is quite happy. Why do you have to get married?

The high-intensity pressure of society has caused young people to fall into great anxiety. It is better to live a good life now than in the future.

Today's society is unfriendly to young people. As a private enterprise that attracts the most young people, the squeeze on young people is the most serious. Often only new people laugh and old people cry. Many old employees are ruthlessly eliminated once they are old. Because of physical reasons, they can't work overtime and can't adapt to business trips.

Even the company will take the initiative to leave in various disgusting ways and don't want to give compensation. Many people are 22 years old after graduating from college, but when they are in their thirties and forties, it is just the most prosperous time. At this time, they have become social outcasts. Behind countless cold workplace cases are the fears of young people.

The short career is only ten years. If you want to avoid layoffs and optimization, you must strive to make yourself financially free before the age of 35, or try to get an iron rice bowl, otherwise you will easily encounter economic crisis.

Even in the face of economic crisis, I have to pay off my mortgage and car loan. And I have to support the elderly and educate the children. I happened to have no income at this time, and the situation at that time can be imagined. This is precisely the normal and current situation of today's society, so in this harsh workplace environment.

Young people are generally extremely anxious, and this anxiety will in turn affect the marriage rate, fertility rate and even marriage intention of young people. Therefore, instead of creating unlimited pressure on yourself to face such a desperate situation, it is better to choose unmarried infertility, want nothing, and get drunk.

It is better to live a good life now than to have an uncertain future. It doesn't matter whether you get married or not, let alone having children. Buying a house and a car makes you bear heavy economic pressure, which is not the life you want. Reduce your desire and let yourself cope with the high-intensity social pressure and cruel reality at the minimum cost.

This mentality has become the same choice of more and more young people, and it has also become the same mentality of many post-95 s and post-00 s, unmarried and infertile, and even chose Dink, not so much because they chose to lie flat, but because of high-intensity social pressure and cruel competitive anxiety, which made them completely choose to give up!