On Dependence on Others —— Reflections on In the Name of Family

I accidentally saw the TV series "In the Name of Family" last night, and I couldn't stop chasing it. Looking at it, I feel similar to the popular Hidden Corner: it's all about children influenced by their families. Of course, compared with the hidden corner, it is much more sunny in the name of the family. Although I only watched the first few episodes, I was deeply impressed by He's sponsor.

He's mother insisted on giving birth to He after divorce. However, it is much more difficult for single mothers to take care of their children than expected. He introduced Qiu Zi's mother to Li Jianchao's father Li Jianchao. She took a fancy to Li's kindness to her children, so she left He and "borrowed" a sum of money from Li. Then I went to Shenzhen by myself.

He Qiu Zi is very sensible. He regarded the money as a "dowry" and directly admitted that Li was his father. At first, Li Jianjian didn't like He, thinking that he had come to rob his father and bully him everywhere. Every time he accepted it in a good temper, he still called dad and then let his sister love her. I can see why I really want to have a stable home, but I really like it.

He Qiu Zi went back to grandma's house on the way. I did everything in the country in my early years. When Li took his children to see him, he found a small one with a big backpack on his back. His grandmother said, "Don't children in rural areas just work in the fields? There is no idle food. " When asked about children's schooling, his grandmother said, "Just read books! I have no money to give him. " Then he thought that Li had come to ask for the bill, and immediately added, "Ask her for the money that He Mei owes you."

Think about it, what will happen if he Qiu Zi stays with this grandmother? It is estimated that you should either be an honest farmer all your life or go out to work early to earn money. As for what a wonderful childhood, not to mention!

His greatest luck is to meet Li! Similarly, under the protection of others, he Qiu Zi has always been smooth and short-sighted. He works hard and tries to control himself in his diet, for fear that he will become a burden to others and be abandoned by adults again! Neighbors saw him helping Li clean the table, so they made fun of him and said, "Be a good boy. Your father will send you away if you don't listen. " It was a joke, but he became popular in an instant. Li quickly comforted him and promised not to send him away. This just calmed down a little and nodded slyly and trustfully.

Slowly, Li's same fatherly love and Li Jianjian's innocent and lively friendship influenced him. He gradually felt a sense of security, truly integrated into the family and became an indispensable "little brother" in the family.

This is the best ending! But as long as it is under the fence, there is always pain. This kind of pain comes from either family of origin or the host family.

Today's children may rarely rely on others and don't understand the taste. And I have been there before, but I am deeply touched. So when I meet him, I can understand his feelings.

When I was a child, my parents went out and I lived in my grandmother's house. I am too young to know anything. My grandparents are very kind to me. I really feel at home, too But grandma is very angry without her separated aunt! Their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarreled many times over me. Later, when I was six years old and should go to school, I still couldn't bear the pressure and sent me to my grandparents' house. Grandpa loves me, and I am still a happy child. I really realized the taste of relying on others after my grandfather was ill.

Grandpa is ill and can't get out of bed. He must go to the hospital. So he put me in the teahouse where he used to play cards. The owner of the teahouse accepted the money and agreed. But I live in the basement. I sat alone eating, washing, eating snacks and playing, watching their family talking and laughing. Occasionally, a hostess greets me, but I know I can't fit in. It was the first time in my life that I felt timid and redundant, and the taste is still fresh in my memory!

Later, I realized the embarrassing taste of relying on others again and again. For example, washing your face and feet or taking a bath can only last until the end. For example, you are afraid to pick up vegetables when eating. For example, your hair is itchy and you want to wash your hair but you are afraid to say anything. For example, your host's children can only help clean up toys after playing. For example, going out shopping or playing can only help you get things. Even so, I still cringe every day, because I am still kicked around like a balloon, and every relative is unwilling to accept my long-term sojourn. I finally grew up with inferiority and timidity under such funding.

Now I meet those relatives, and they all tell me all the things that were good to me at the beginning, and then explain all kinds of difficulties without me. They asked me if I still remember. I smiled and told some examples of their kindness to me, and then sincerely thanked them for their kindness. I don't hate anyone in my heart, because I know that it is mutual affection that can help me, and it is my obligation not to help. Besides gratitude, I really can't be picky! Because I have grown up, I also deeply know that someone comes to live temporarily, which brings me a lot of inconvenience. This is not as simple as adding a pair of chopsticks, but the contradiction that a family has to face. The more family members, the harder it is to rely on others. The disharmony of the family can be felt by outsiders, and those who support others can feel it more sensitively, so they feel inferior or blame themselves.

In any case, relying on others is not a good word. I hope everyone's family is happy and harmonious, and no one needs to rely on others!