Falling in love is a mistake (two people in love get too close)

In emotional life, the closer the distance between people, the deeper the feelings of these two people. This is a truth that many of us generally pursue in love. Indeed, only love can bring our hearts closer together. If you don't love, even watching is a luxury.

However, the development of everything has a specific area. Once you cross the line, many good things will start to develop in a bad direction. This is the truth that extremes meet, too much is too late. It has always been very useful in interpersonal relationships and gender relations.

Therefore, two people who love each other can get closer, but they should pay attention to moderation, especially middle-aged couples who have lived for half their lives.

At such a transitional stage, if the feelings of each other are estranged because of blindly narrowing the distance, it will be a bit of a loss. After all, there are still many possibilities to avoid those potential unhappy factors in marriage.

The happiness of marriage often depends on the distance between husband and wife (0 1). In Ode to Joy, Bao Yifan's parents are a middle-aged couple with problems. Because the company is run by two people, it is inevitable to consider their own interests after a long time, and the woman is always involved in the man's personal life, and the man always suspects that the woman is for her own interests.

Therefore, they should have enjoyed their old age, but their lives were in dire straits because of improper distance control.

On the other hand, what makes Qu Xiaoyu's parents most happy is to find a sunny afternoon, where the man plays golf and the woman watches, and from time to time, because the man is not allowed to make fun of him, it is a happy scene.

Qu Xiaoyu's parents never interfere too much in each other's lives. They will do their own things and sit together to discuss the topic of life when they are not busy. Therefore, although there will be bickering between their feelings, it is only a condiment used to adjust their lives.

02) When people get along with each other, we should pay attention to the control of distance, not the closer the distance, the better. Many times, those contradictions that can be seen by the naked eye are caused by too close distance.

Because of getting too close, many people become unscrupulous when they talk or do things, and often hurt each other unconsciously.

Therefore, middle-aged couples should master appropriate limits in marriage, don't lose themselves, don't interfere in each other's lives, and do what they like, but at the same time they won't ignore and alienate each other.

In short, the happiness of marriage often depends on the distance between husband and wife, and properly controlling the distance between them is conducive to the continued happiness of marriage.

The distance between husband and wife is too close, which will lead to mysterious loss. A netizen shared an interesting story about himself on Zhihu.

He is highly nearsighted. If he doesn't wear glasses at ordinary times, anything three meters away is just a vague outline in his eyes.

One day he left in a hurry and didn't have time to wear glasses. On the way, he vaguely saw a girl with waist-long hair. Although I couldn't see it clearly, the pretty figure hit his heart hard. He began to imagine the girl's beautiful face and beautiful voice.

With the distance getting closer and closer, when the girl came into his sight, he found that although she was not ugly, she was just a very ordinary look.

Just like he just throbbed, just because he couldn't see clearly, he couldn't see clearly until the distance was closer, so there would be no mystery and he would naturally lose interest.

The story is funny, but it contains a truth in the relationship between men and women, that is, the source of mystery is the distance between two people. Because it is unpredictable, we will be curious. If everything is clear, we naturally have no desire to explore.

Therefore, in marriage, it is actually a mistake for two people who love each other to get closer, because the closer you are, the more transparent you are; And the more transparent you are, the less mysterious you are; The less mystery in marriage, the less happiness.

Middle-aged couples should maintain appropriate freedom in order to make their relationship closer. It is human nature that we push our luck easily. When a person is getting closer and closer to us, we will take for granted everything we do and everything the other person does for us.

If you don't pay attention to proper love, you will gradually become depressed and decadent in paralysis and ignorance of reality, because without proper love, you will lose the basic guarantee, and the relationship between two people will gradually deteriorate in all kinds of bad feelings.

John gotman, an expert on gender relations, once said, "Every marriage needs hard work to stay on track. There is always a tension in front of the two forces that bring couples together and separate them. "

Even the closest relationship should be measured, otherwise it will become a joke. Husband and wife should love and respect each other.

In a word, interdependence will not interfere with each other's lives too much, so getting married alone in the lover's arms is the real way for couples to get along.

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