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A Psychoanalysis of Strange Tales from a Lonely Studio

In fact, this operation of a man is not uncommon. The ancients liked to sell themselves with ghosts and gods. For example, he will claim that there is a vision in the sky, such as a divination, to show orthodoxy. From a scientific point of view, a man's story should be that he has a birthmark the size of a palm on his back shoulder, and there is a lot of hair on it, but it is unknown whether a man can really remember the story of Hades in his last life. However, there is a bold assumption that someone has fabricated something about Hades. This is because the birthmark made him feel a lot of ridicule since he was a child, which led to inferiority complex. However, Hades can help him face the ridicule of others, making his difference more noticeable than inferiority.

From the perspective of self-psychology, exaggerating self refers to the exaggeration and exposure of self in narcissistic personality, which kohut thinks is the fixation in children's normal psychological structure. With sex in * * * (feelings? Development conditions), the exaggerated self-experience of childhood gradually becomes tame, and then it is integrated into the personality of adults. This exaggerated fantasy of exaggerating oneself can become the driving force to promote individuals to maximize their abilities and achieve the greatest achievements in reality. However, if the child is traumatized by narcissism, it may be that the exaggerated self has been stuck in the original expectation and cannot be better integrated into the personality.

A person has a birthmark the size of a palm, which is very different from others. Even because of the old superstition, some people will think it is a bad omen, and one may feel inferior about it. However, under the influence of exaggerating oneself in childhood, children will naturally feel different and have outstanding performance. A guild naturally has a legendary explanation of its birthmark to help improve its self-esteem.

This way to improve self-esteem needs a suitable premise, that is, the scene of children's emotional development (emotion? Development status) is good. The so-called * * * emotional development scene (emotion? Development conditions) simply means whether parents can respond empathetically to their children's thoughts and feelings, that is to say, a man's thoughts and feelings about his birthmark have been recognized by his family, and his family also thinks that what he said in an hour is true, which helps a man to develop his exaggerated self smoothly and overcome his original inferiority complex better.

If a public official treats a public hour as nonsense and scoffs at it, then a public official may feel that his birthmark is particularly inferior and cannot tolerate any advice or criticism from others; It is possible to become rambling, say that legendary statement to everyone and so on. Because if a man can't get better emotional recognition from his family, his self will be damaged, causing narcissistic trauma, and then his heart will always stay on how to make up for the psychological defects caused by physical defects. But in ancient times, there was a special superstition about ghosts and gods, and a man became a scholar when he grew up. Therefore, it is convincing for a man to explain his birthmark in this way, and it can still be recognized by the public. The subconscious motivation behind men's efforts to become scholars may also be to make their explanations more authoritative and convincing.

Self-psychology focuses on the individual's understanding of himself and the control of self-esteem. Every child is vulnerable when he is young. Physical limitations will prompt the psychological level to find evidence of self-strength, hoping to get the approval of people around them, and the most important thing is parents. For example, children will show their parents a picture that they have worked so hard to draw, but it is not very good. Children will try to pick up their own small toolbox to repair their broken toys, and children will try to wash dishes, wash clothes or do housework for their parents. At this time, children are practicing to find self-esteem and learning how to be confident-I have the ability to do well, and I am the best. If children's attempts are constantly rejected or belittled by their parents, children's self-esteem will drop to dust, not to mention self-confidence from now on.

This means that if children want to win at the starting line, parents should learn to appreciate and encourage their children correctly from their bad efforts, and help them learn to appreciate themselves from different and more angles and find their self-confidence. For example, if a child is clumsy in housework, then parents can learn to appreciate how much the child wants to learn new skills and help his parents with housework.

For adults, narcissism is damaged and needs to be repaired through consultation, so that the exaggerated self can be re-developed and better integrated with personality, which becomes a positive driving force for its own development. For example, when I was a child, my family laughed at me. When I grow up, if this matter becomes a thorn in my side, I need to get a better response and goodwill from my initial ideas in consultation, so that this damaged part of myself can develop into the source of my efforts to draw good paintings in the future, rather than obsessing too much about other people's evaluation of my paintings.