Why not have a girlfriend?

A: Reason one: I don't pay attention to the image, and the image is too bad to be liked by girls. When a person subconsciously gets used to being single, he will lower his requirements in all aspects, become unrequited and do everything casually. Such people will lack external charm. Including your own image, you may think that you are too well dressed to see that you don't have a girlfriend. Wear whatever is convenient for you, and pay little attention to your image. However, it is precisely because you have this idea that over time, the impression given to other women is a man who is not particular about it. Many men don't understand how women evaluate men. In fact, external image is very important, and girls will always pay attention to everyone's dress. Maybe girls won't openly admit that they are paying attention to you, but they will all look at you silently, so your appearance will definitely attract their attention, which is probably Yu Guang. If the external image doesn't pass, or the external image is unqualified, you won't be considered by girls. So, if you don't have a girlfriend, please start learning how to improve your image charm after reading this article, which will have unexpected results. Reason 2: The living and working environment is girlish, and there is no good way to get to know girls. Some friends went to engineering schools and graduated from IT companies and construction companies. In such an environment, the chances of contacting women are much less. So you don't have a girlfriend, probably because there are too few objects to choose from and there are not many opportunities to meet girls. How can I find a girlfriend? However, the circle of life is not dead, nor is it static. Are you really unable to find a girlfriend because of the problems in your life and work circle? I don't think so. Relatively speaking, a better explanation is that it's actually because you don't have a good way to get to know girls. You should pay attention to the male friends around you, and whether there are some people who can show their love in the circle of friends and bring their families to the dinner. So don't use this to comfort yourself that you are still a single man. Is it because your working ability is not as good as theirs, or you are not as good as theirs, or because you are not a rich second generation or an official second generation, but you don't know how to know girls better than them? Reason three: lack of initiative, dare not break through, dare not know, some people belong to this situation. They often contact friends and brothers for dinner or other activities, and have had many opportunities to meet girls and expand their circle of female friends. But this opportunity was wasted. As the saying goes, opportunities are reserved for those who are prepared. Maybe all your friends and brothers are interested in introducing you to your girlfriend, but your initiative is too poor. You are too passive to take the initiative to meet, so it has no effect at all. Plus, girls are naturally reserved, which I believe you know. So they generally don't take the initiative to meet boys, because women's nature doesn't allow them to do so. If you are the kind of man who wants the woman to take the initiative, then the reason why you don't have a girlfriend is understandable. If you belong to the above situation, please strengthen your initiative, let yourself take the initiative and dare to meet girls. Only by taking the first step of understanding can there be opportunities for development. Reason four: I don't know how to chase, and I don't know how to further promote the relationship. If you are just luckier than others and meet a girl who is moved by you, and the other person is moved by you, it is also a very sad thing. Why did it develop like this? Because you don't know how to chase girls Chasing girls is also a university question. In the right situation, we need to push the relationship in the right direction in the right way. On the contrary, if you use the wrong method, it will not further promote the relationship and even lead to a breakup. Therefore, if you don't know how to pursue girls, you won't properly promote the relationship, and the final outcome is foreseeable. At this time, I can only comfort myself with "meeting the right person at the wrong time". Reason 5: Why don't you have a girlfriend? It may also be caused by my introverted personality. In this materialistic society, both work and communication need certain communication skills. It is also essential to find a girlfriend naturally. Introverted, inarticulate, taciturn to unfamiliar people, bookworm, difficult to communicate, high education, difficult to understand and communicate, etc. , are obstacles to your single. It is these problems that get stuck here, so that you can't understand and develop gender relations, and you don't know how to express your thoughts, let alone find a girlfriend that suits you. For girls, sometimes material satisfaction is not enough. They prefer to have a good listener to listen and get some spiritual comfort when they speak. Then if you are not good at communication, even if you are financially sound, you are not a qualified listener. Therefore, please learn to express your feelings hard in order to be a good audience you like! Reason six: I don't know the girl's mind, and I don't have enough grasp of women's thinking and psychology. Yes, a woman's mind is so complicated. If you don't know women, you can understand why you don't have a girlfriend yet. You may often hear women around you say: don't guess a woman's mind. However, if you don't understand a woman's mind, you are blind in front of her. Let me ask you, what can a blind man do? If you don't understand women, you can't go into their hearts, and further, you can't observe their inner thoughts. In this way, you can't impress each other through actions or words and occupy their inner position. Moreover, if you can't grasp their psychology, no matter how good your conditions or personality are, you are just a layman among women. Reason seven: the social sensitivity of communication with women is relatively low. Why don't you have a girlfriend? You have a good relationship with women. Maybe you are in an ambiguous stage. Why hasn't progress been made? Because your social sensitivity is not high, such as whether she really likes you or not, and at which stage your relationship has developed, many people are not clear; At this time, once you are not clear, you don't know how to advance and retreat, resulting in no new breakthrough in long-term relations. Many times, once this ambiguous relationship has passed the hormonal period, it will gradually fade away and then return to dullness. So you've finally regained your identity as single dog. Therefore, if your sensitivity is low, you can't judge the development stage of feelings well, and you can't grasp the opportunity to break through friendship and develop into lovers. The saddest thing is that it is simplified as: friends are supreme and love is full. Reason 8: Indecision makes girls feel that they are not like men and feel insecure. Women's love for men mainly comes from two kinds of "feelings". In addition to a dynamic heart, they also need a sense of security. Even if you have some external capital, you can attract girls' attention and win their favor. But what women want to live at home most is the sense of security given by men, which is very important. Many people say that they have difficulty in choosing, or something. In fact, the most obvious is the girl. She usually needs a boyfriend to help her choose. Just like this, you have no so-called independent mind, so you can't give such a simple sense of security. What other so-called opinions can you expect? You can learn from your usual interactions. When you eat out with your favorite female friends, you can know if you have an opinion when you order. In the eyes of girls, men who have no opinions usually don't look like men and are unreliable. More importantly, it is difficult for a man who has no opinion to give a girl a sense of security. So, no problem, there are not enough people, this is a dead hole. What about you? Why don't you have a girlfriend? Is this the reason? Reason 9: I am too honest. I often receive a good card. Think about myself. Are you often told by friends around you that you are kind and kind to others, especially female friends? If so, why doesn't such a nice person have a girlfriend? Have you thought about the reason? No matter how many cards are used, it just makes you look more like a fool being used. Isn't it often said that "men are not bad and women don't love"? I'm not saying it's bad to be honest, but I need to be flexible once in a while. Kindness is right, but chasing girls may not be impossible. The masters are almost all "bad guys". It is only part of the knowledge of "bad men" to make women feel tempted. Women will think that if men are too honest, they will be boring. Although they don't like "bad men", they will also be intoxicated with the feeling that "bad men" give her. Therefore, sometimes you should not be too frank, you should learn to be flexible, and sometimes white lies are allowed. Reason 10: I don't understand the art of getting along with men and women, and I'm not humorous enough. Many times, the reason why you can't find a girlfriend is actually very simple, because you don't know how to deal with the atmosphere when men and women get along, and you won't create an atmosphere. Boys who don't know humor, do you feel that when you are alone with girls, you are always worried about that kind of silence? Indeed, if there is silence, boys' scores in girls' minds will be greatly reduced. It is the best time to develop the relationship between two people. If you don't know when you need to add some seasoning and humorous jokes to the conversation, you will miss this good opportunity. Girls will also find it boring to get along with you, so the relationship will only stop at friends. According to love analysis, many women prefer to get along with humorous and interesting boys, who are more likely to win women's hearts. If you are not humorous enough, then maybe you will make girls feel boring. In this way, the question can be answered. Reason 1 1: perfectionism and unreasonable standards. As the saying goes, if you don't have such a big head, you shouldn't insist on wearing a big hat. If you don't have a girlfriend, one possibility is that you ask too much of your girlfriend. As far as I know, many men don't know that men and women are completely different standards. Maybe he doesn't like to lose his temper, he is self-motivated and loves to think. Among boys, it is not bad, but it is not a rare quality. It is only used to measure that girls are never willful and have killed thousands of girls. Since ancient times, which girl has no willfulness and small temper? No matter how great, smart and capable women are, there will always be their feminine side. Besides, you are surrounded by ordinary girls. So don't ask a completely willful or perfect girl. In other words, you ask the intellectuals and their families to be young, highly educated, knowledgeable, enterprising and thoughtful, and these conditions must be met-just like asking boys to be rich but not love beautiful women, electronic products and cars. Maybe you don't have such high requirements, but it's unrealistic to go any lower. To give another simple example, do boys have the same personality of not shopping as girls? The answer is no. And you insist that the other person doesn't like shopping like you. How many girls do you think meet your requirements? Insist on such unreasonable mate selection requirements, and you will only be a single aristocrat. In fact, we should believe that what suits us is the best, not necessarily what it is like. Reason 12: I don't know if chasing girls can still learn. Sometimes you can't see your own problems, so naturally you can't improve yourself. As the saying goes, the authorities are fascinated and the bystanders are clear. Moreover, not everyone can change this single situation on their own. After all, a person's ability is limited, so if necessary, he should learn how to chase his girlfriend quickly with the help of foreign aid.